Boyfriend Still Meeting Other Girls

[cruelgirl]

My boyfriend or xbf (not sure) is Russian / Australian. We've been together for a year and three months.  We've met each other's parents and we had long term plans na din. We're not in an open relationship. Actually sinabi ko na yan sa kanya, if makikipagkita ka lang with other girls mag open relationship na lang tayo but he refused.

I guess he got used to that lifestyle. I had a chat with his exgf. I asked her if he cheated on her and she said yes pero hindi niya kinonfront. Pinabayaan lang niya. And i know he cheated in most of his relationships. I guess most girls just let him get away or clueless sila.

Anyway, I asked him to stop na and he did naman until this last instance. He met a doktora in a dating site when we broke up and they kept their communication after we got back together. Though hindi na uli sila nagkita. The texts got more frequent as in 8x everyday though medical stuff lang naman pinaguusapan nila and the girl knows he has a gf. Pero when he went hiking, may pumasok na thorn sa daliri niya and hindi namin maalis. Tapos nalaman ko the next day na pinuntahan nya yun doktora at dun nya pinaalis yung thorn. So siempre nainis ako. I told him ayoko na lagi silang nagtetext pero hindi niya ko maintindihan. Wala naman daw masama dun. He said if I can prove na may gusto sa kanya yung girl he will stop being friends with her.

Ang sakit lang kasi dapat ko pang ipaglaban ng patayan. Sabi nung friend ko if you really love someone, no request is too big. Ang sabi niya, he's not here to please me. Wala siyang nakikitang mali sa ginagawa niya so why should he stop.

I sent a text to the girl and I told her to stop texting my bf. She then said sorry for causing trouble I'll stop texting him na. Then I realized siguro nga friend lang tingin sa kanya nung girl so I said okay, mas confident na ko ngayon knowing your intentions tapos sabi ni girl, "I dont want to cause further trouble. I'll delete both your numbers."

Then nalaman ko magkatext na naman sila the next week! So kplastikan lang pinagsasabi nya and my bf was even impressed na "nagparaya" si girl kahit obvious naman its all for show.

Sorry for the long post. We broke up because of this. Mahal ko siya pero nahihirapan na ko sa ganito. Negative ang emotional quotient niya.

[cruelgirl]

In fairness to my exbf, he doesnt go to bars. Hindi siya palalabas kasi minsan may pagka antisocial pa nga. Napapansin ko lang when we break up, that's the time na nagpupunta siya sa dating site. He told me before, hindi siya willing iend yung friendship nila nung girl kasi when i break up with him, he'll end with nothing - not his relationship with me or their friendship. He doesn't really have close friends or family here.