Author Topic: who is pressured here on getting married? (Read 12613 times)

carmilina · « **Reply #40 on:** December 17, 2010, 01:03:50 am »

^kala mo [textspeak!] sis..heheh.hays...ganun tlag pag mid 20's or late 20's or early 30's a ng girl

shimmertarts · « **Reply #41 on:** December 25, 2010, 10:53:28 am »

I am. But I flat out refused to let them decide for me. I did it politely though.

Bubblin' · « **Reply #42 on:** December 25, 2010, 05:28:11 pm »

I see myself NOT getting married.I just don't get it why people around me don't understand that.

lizziebare · « **Reply #43 on:** December 26, 2010, 02:07:53 pm »

simula pumatak december, puro wedding pics ang nakikita ko sa newsfeed ng fb ko. I'm happy naman for them, sa ngayon naman enjoy pa rin ako maging single yun nga lang I wonder sometimes kung kelan kaya ako? hehe... sarap minsan pag-untugin ng 3 officemates ko, ako na lang daw single sa aming apat (kami kasi yung magkakatabi at magkahilera ng desks). dapat next year ako na daw susunod (silang tatlo kinasal kasi this year lang), kumusta naman? eh serious relationship wala pa nga ako for now. buti na lang mas matanda sila saken ng several years at least may excuse ako na mas bata naman ako sa kanila kaya carry lang.

felinedivine · « **Reply #44 on:** December 26, 2010, 05:17:57 pm »

yung mama ko yung palaging nagmemention ng salitang pag aasawa at pagkakaroon ng pamilya...kakainis minsan pero alam ko naman na nagwoworry lang siya na baka maging matandang dalaga anak niya...hehe nasa dugo kasi sa side niya ang mga old maids...isa sa mga tita ko old maid dalawang pinsan ko ( very successful take note ha ) ang i think magiging matandang dalaga kaya worried siguro si mommy...hahaha...minsan may tumawag sakin panay kulit ni mama kung sino daw ba yung tumawag sa akin...ayaw ko namang magkwento awkward eh...kasalanan din naman niya kasi nung teen years ko palagi niyang diniscourage ang magbf kaya ayun tumatak sa isip ko...ewan kailan darating ang taong yun sana next year...february...haha pretty please...but im not that pressured ha...25 yrs old nbsb...buti nalang di ako nag iisa...

daria · « **Reply #45 on:** December 27, 2010, 05:35:31 pm »

i am!
i'm 31, and broke up with my ex of 3.5 years less than 2 months ago. why? because he doesn't want to marry me. not in so many words, he proclaimed, i am not " the one".
why did the marriage came up? because my parents have been asking me.
lesson? don't be pressured. take one day at a time. you might be ruining a good relationship because of the pressure (but even then, dapat maitawid niya ang kakulitan mo, he should understand where the pressure is coming from).
set a deadline, though. guys should know if you're the one for them after 2 years of dating. if he ends up making excuses about the topic, he's stringing you for the ride.

iCleverClogs · « **Reply #46 on:** December 31, 2010, 01:15:31 pm »

Pa join.. Parang pressured na pressured na talaga ako nito. Gusto ko ng mag-asawa kahit wala pang naipon. LOL. Anyways, di naman criteria yun importante ready sa responsiblities.

Problema ko lang wala akong partner. Ewan ko lang baka resulta ito ng break-up kaya mas lalo akong napressure. 25 pa ako, pero di ko maiwasang kabahan kasi baka aabutin ako ng 30. Ayokong mahirapan sa pagpanganak.

Anyways, ayoko ring magmadali. Mas mabuti ng makasiguro sa taong mapapangasawa. I don't want to settle for anything less. Kung may doubt ako, naku, huwag na lang.

daria · « **Reply #47 on:** January 01, 2011, 01:37:06 pm »

^25 ka lang pala sis, tigilan ang fears, walang maidudulot yan! you might be attracting negative energy if you do that. hayaan mo na, dadating din yan.
pray, it might work. i've been praying kasi for God to let me know kung kami ng ex ko talaga, and He answered my prayer. ayan, break na kami. di ko lang alam kung sino gusto Niya for me, sana lang ibigay niya na. hehe.

iCleverClogs · « **Reply #48 on:** January 02, 2011, 04:08:21 pm »

^ hehe... Yoko na sis. Huwag ang ipilit ang ayaw. Enjoy the life na ako ngayon.

bravo86 · « **Reply #49 on:** January 11, 2011, 01:20:52 am »

dati grabe ang pressure, pero sa tinagal-tagal ko nang being single, nobody would dare ask me why i'm still unmarried pa rin at my age.

usually i would answer them, "di pa rin ako sawa sa pagka binata eh"

merong makukulit and would throw some dumb lines, nakakabastos pa minsan. pag ganun na, siguraduhin lang nila na matibay ang sikmura nila at sinasagot ko rin ng kabastusan... some would even try to challenge my sexuality.

eksampol:
pag married gurl (kahit na mas matanda pa sa akin)
- ikaw kasi eh, nagmamadali ka, may pagnanasa pa naman ako sa yo nun hanggang ngayon
- lasonin mo na kasi ang asawa mo at pakakasalan kita

pag guy
- ireto mo na kasi sa akin ang dalagang anak/kapatid mo
- kelan ka ba mamatay at pakakasalan ko asawa mo?

haaaay! ewan ko lang kung uulit pa sila.

some would even tell me na "sige ka, walang mag-aalaga sa yo pag matanda ka na"
and i would answer them na...
"and how sure are you na aalagaan ka ng anak/mga anak mo pag amoy lupa ka na? uugod-ugod ka na at bingi pa? mas masakit yon. marami akong kilala na naicha-pwera ng mga anak nila nang tumanda na sila" (magbibigay pa ako ng example tapos)

sugardrop · « **Reply #50 on:** January 29, 2011, 12:50:52 am »

Now that I'm 26 and will be turning 27 this year, I definitely feel the pressure. On my grandpa's wake earlier this month, all my mom's friends and relatives we haven't seen for years all asked me the same question, "Kelan ka mag-aasawa?"

They all gave me the reason that I am at a marrying age but I simply told them that perhaps my age is ready to get married but not me.

Another pressure - "Bigyan mo ng apo mommy mo." Since medyo close naman kami nung titas na friends ng mom ko, my answer was "Ay sandali po, excuse lang, aalis muna ako and gagawa ng anak." As if it's that easy. Well, the act is definitely easy but not the things that will come after it. Meron feeling close na pinsan na we never really got along told me na "Magpakasal ka na kasi!" Sa inis ko, I told her na eh di ikaw na lang magpakasal bakit mo pa ako idadamay. Haha! Jeez!

blackgreen · « **Reply #51 on:** February 02, 2011, 12:35:46 pm »

Lately eto palagi topic sa akin. Tapos ngayun magkakaroon ng grand reunion sa May, lahat na naman sila isa lang itatanong bakit di ka pa mag-asawa. Anong magagawa ko? Meron nagpaparamdam pero di ko naman gusto.

Im turning 26 this year. Hayy.. Dito sa office namin halos lahat kami single.

iCleverClogs · « **Reply #52 on:** February 22, 2011, 08:47:49 pm »

somebody asked me "oh kelan ka mag-aasawa? mag-asawa ka na"... Nanang, kung magkapasalita kayo para namang ang dali dali mamulot ng lalaki sa tabi tabi... Hayyyssstt...

tween_ashleigh · « **Reply #53 on:** March 01, 2011, 12:24:28 pm »

ako nung kinasal pinsan ko.. sabi ng iba kong pinsan mas bongga daw dapat ang wedding ko sa wedding ng kapatid niya..dahil nagiisang anak daw ako na girl.. so sinakyan ko lang sabi ko dapat lahat sila sa abroad uuwi din for my wedding.......

talk about pressure noh...wala pa naman ako bf nun... and it was like 5 years ago...

shopaholic18 · « **Reply #54 on:** April 04, 2011, 04:08:03 pm »

pressured, medyo although i just turned 25, yung mga pinsan ko kasi nagkakababies na, yet im not in a hurry, slowly but surely, i only want to get married once in my entire life eh. i believe dadating din yun in God's time, for the meantime enjoy being single.

xchakadalx · « **Reply #55 on:** April 06, 2011, 06:41:59 pm »

Urgh! count me in

My friends are either getting engaged or married left and right. I'm in a long-term relationship na but he hasn't popped the question yet

Ayaw ko naman cyang kulitin, don't wanna look desperate, pero in truth, I've been ready for years na (I'm turning 28 this year)

a_y_e_n · « **Reply #56 on:** April 11, 2011, 04:33:48 pm »

^lam mo, ako pabiro kong sinabihan yung bf ko nun na pag 28 nako tapos wala pa din syang plano iiwan ko sya. buti nalang before i turned 28 napag-usapan na namin ng masinsinan yung kasal, i got married by the time i turned 29. almost 1 1/2 years kase namin pinagplanuhan yung wedding eh.

ako rin, dati pressured makasal na since matagal tagal na kame ng then bf ko. pag may nagkikita mga friends namin matagal na di nakita, ang bati, "o kelan ang kasal?" or "wala pa ba kayo balak magpakasal?". buti kung yun lang, minsan may kasama pang "tumatanda na kayo, baka mahirapan na magkaanak.." hay... ngiti nalang ang sagot namin nun. annoying di ba?

chicgurl · « **Reply #57 on:** April 11, 2011, 05:44:38 pm »

most HS & college friends are getting married or married na people were expecting me to tie the knot with my longtime ex bf for 7years even our families.. ex kasi wala na kami hehe pero life is ganon talaga

gusto ko na nga sabihin sa mga tao please tantanan niyo ako mind your own lives hehe kaso baka sabihin ang sunget ko... hehe puro sasabihin mahirap na magkaanak pag may edad ka etc etc risky, sayang ang lahi mo, etc.. choice natin yan & dapat super sure na sure ka.. there's no turning back! pak! hehe

rihito · « **Reply #58 on:** April 22, 2011, 06:39:22 am »

^ Sa case ko naman sis only a third of my HS and College batchmates are either married with kids, kakapakasal pa lang or engaged na. With regards naman sa family, between my closest cousins isa pa lang ang married. I'm the second oldest among my closest cousins and I'm turning 28 this May. I think anyone who finds herself in that kind of environment wouldn't be pressured. Most of them kasi are focused on careers, trying to build a better future, or basically just enjoying the single life (party dito, party dun, saksakan ng dami. Sana ganun din ako noh? hehe). My tito said there's no reason to hurry, my mom and dad...they don't want me to get married unless kamukha nung lalake yung mga bida sa Supernatural. LOL

So where does the pressure come from? Sa officemates ko for one. I'm the third oldest kasi and some younger than me are married with kids or engaged na. Tapos sabay sasabihin pa sayo 'naku, mahuhuli ka na sa biyahe! Mahirap magkaanak pag 30 ka na! Magkaanak ka man isa lang, mas masaya kung at least 2 or 3 pero pano nga yun eh mag tetrenta ka na?' (gusto ko sya dagukan).

Yes, also sa family reunions. Most if not all of our cousins doon kasi have already settled down. Granted, parang by batch kasi mga edad namin, so they're the older batch. Pero kasi nung time na mga early 20's pa lang sila nag-asawa na sila at nagkaanak, so they are kind of wondering why none of us from our batch are already taken.

For me naman, sa mga naging ex ko we have come across the idea of settling down. Kaya lang naisip ko kasi hindi pa ready financially. Pareho sila kasi nag-aaral pa. Kahit sabihin pa nilang kaya nila pagsabayin work saka studies, dagdag pressure din yun may asawa't anak. Yung recent ex ko talagang dumating sa point na we were getting ready to settle down kaya lang things didn't turn out the way we wanted to.

So yes, I'm pressured pero ayoko naman pilitin. Mahirap din naman yun. I'm trying to get to know a lot of people, widening my circle to meet new friends, mga bagong kahang-out, career opportunities (adik talaga hahaha). Maybe then I might also find the one.

avesoriano · « **Reply #59 on:** April 22, 2011, 07:00:38 am »

siguro at this point im that pressured yet. More of anxious and envious sa mga meron ng special someone. and dami ko hinahanap sa htb ko. sadly, i havent seen the one yet.

gusto ko din magkaanak ng madami, para ano pa ang mga trabaho na ginagawa ko ngayun. (crossing fingers) i guess i have to blame it with my lack of social life

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