i think in this kind of set-up, chances are very slim that it ends up happily. this i base from personal experience and from what i hear from other people. don't get me wrong ha, i have experienced this too, a couple of times.
kaya nga "pseudo" eh. look up the definition of the word:
1. not actually but having the appearance of; pretended; false or spurious; sham
2. almost, approaching, or trying to be
meaning, it's not there. no matter how real the feelings involved are, there's still no commitment involved. and there are various reasons why it is such.
i have involved myself in this pseudo-relationship almost as long as it took me to finish my formal education (6 years elementary + 4 years high school + 4 years college = 14 years). i was involved in this pseudo relationship for 12 years! so imagine, more than a decade of being in limbo on a regular basis. he was my first love. he strung me along for the longest time, even if he was never "available" all those years. laging may girlfriend. magpapalit pero hindi ako yung ipapalit. o diba, k*tangahan to the nth level??
maybe i was also getting my "fix" then, that's why i stayed. he was like a drug to me; gets me "high" every time that's why i couldnt just leave. the more elusive he was, the more obsessive i became. nakaka-adik naman talaga na alam mong malapit mo nang makuha yung isang bagay. so you keep on pushing. wishfully thinking, magbabago din. na one day, mapapasayo din. took me what, 12 years to realize that's not gonna happen. kasi kung gusto ka talaga, gusto ka talaga. ganon kasimple. hindi mong kailangang manghula sa actions o sa sinasabi, kasi didiretsuhin nya. he wont waste a day with the thought you're not his.
i am happy now. with a different guy. alam ko na kung saan ako nakatayo. hindi na in limbo; steady na.
i have finally reached my saturation point. thank God.