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piatos

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Re: How to deal with this pain alone?
« Reply #320 on: October 06, 2012, 09:53:27 AM »
nakikipagbalikan sakin ang ex ko asa haha!.  kung talagang mahal nya ako gagawa sya ng paraan kaso feeling nya walang nangyari lol

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Re: How to deal with this pain alone?
« Reply #321 on: October 08, 2012, 05:45:59 PM »
I'm so sad right now.... walang lasa ang pagkain... walang gana pumasok... naiiyak maski saan... natutulala lagi.... ang bigat ng dibdib ko... everyday is a struggle to survive because of the loneliness brought by a broken heart. Ayoko lalo pag gumagabi, that's when I'm lonelier.... paggising ko sa umaga, the cycle repeats... hay....
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Re: How to deal with this pain alone?
« Reply #322 on: October 08, 2012, 10:15:12 PM »
^alam mo sis ganyan din ako gusto ko lang lagi ako natutulog para hindi ko nararamdaman yung pain. ang masakit lang matapos nyang makipagbreak sakin makikipagbalikan sya ayoko ng masaktan ulit.

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Re: How to deal with this pain alone?
« Reply #323 on: October 09, 2012, 05:10:47 PM »
I'm so sad right now.... walang lasa ang pagkain... walang gana pumasok... naiiyak maski saan... natutulala lagi.... ang bigat ng dibdib ko... everyday is a struggle to survive because of the loneliness brought by a broken heart. Ayoko lalo pag gumagabi, that's when I'm lonelier.... paggising ko sa umaga, the cycle repeats... hay....

Same here sis.. just be strong.. you need to be strong for yourself. Find a way to divert your attention..may it be a new hobby, new game in your phone, new friends.. just something to vent out all the pain.. it will help somehow..
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Re: How to deal with this pain alone?
« Reply #324 on: October 12, 2012, 03:29:22 AM »
I am going through this pain right now. hindi pa kami nag bi-break officially pero he's not showing his love to me anymore. ako pa nagmakaawa na sana manlang mag i love you siya sa akin sa text or email.

hay ang hirap basta...  :-\


how to be strong ba?

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Re: How to deal with this pain alone?
« Reply #325 on: October 12, 2012, 08:09:06 AM »

I'm so sad right now.... walang lasa ang pagkain... walang gana pumasok... naiiyak maski saan... natutulala lagi.... ang bigat ng dibdib ko... everyday is a struggle to survive because of the loneliness brought by a broken heart. Ayoko lalo pag gumagabi, that's when I'm lonelier.... paggising ko sa umaga, the cycle repeats... hay....

Count me in!
Moving on is something I do every second of the day. I can relate. Minsan prang frozen pakiramdam ko.  The hardest time of the day is waking up and realizing the person I loved most left me.

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Re: How to deal with this pain alone?
« Reply #326 on: October 12, 2012, 12:45:08 PM »
Hello sa inyong lahat, bago pa lang ako dito. Nakarelate ako sa mga nakapost dito..Sa Dec. 20, 17 years na kaming magkasama ng husband ko sana. Pero sa kasamaang palad, after hanging on sa relationship namin for almost 17 years, mukang bibigay na ko at di ko n kyang mag-hold on..Pangarap ko na makasama sana ang asawa ko hanggang sa pagtanda ko..pero mukang di na mangyayari un..gusto n nya talagang  humiwalay sa kin..pagod na raw sya sa pagiging house husband..gusto nya dumiskarte ng sarili nya ng wala raw nakikialam sa kanya.Sa ngaun, pinag-iisipan ko ng pagbigyan ang hiling nya na maghiwalay kami..napapagod na rin kasi ako ng kakasuyo sa kanya sa tuwing aawayin nya ko.  :(

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Re: How to deal with this pain alone?
« Reply #327 on: November 27, 2012, 06:23:44 PM »
I'm so sad right now.... walang lasa ang pagkain... walang gana pumasok... naiiyak maski saan... natutulala lagi.... ang bigat ng dibdib ko... everyday is a struggle to survive because of the loneliness brought by a broken heart. Ayoko lalo pag gumagabi, that's when I'm lonelier.... paggising ko sa umaga, the cycle repeats... hay....

experienced that also...
i just wish that you finally wake up having no heartaches at all..time will tell when ...maging excited ka nalang kung kanino ka maiinlove ulit...sympre when that time comes, you must be wiser na..ako 8 months bago nakamove on nung maghiwalay kame ni gf...feels super lonely when pa 3pm na...wanting to be alone lang lage etc...so hard...hayyy...why cant love be perfect and forever at first time... :(

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Re: How to deal with this pain alone?
« Reply #328 on: December 03, 2012, 04:26:14 PM »
I am alone and 3 1/2 months pregnant. My ex and I talked over the phone and he told me "unti unti ng nawawala pagmamahal ko sayo". It hurts so much because I carry our baby inside my tummy. If he said that without me having a baby, I really would not care at all. I just thank God for my family and friends who are very supportive of me but there are times when I get sad most especially when I visit my OB because I am alone and women around me have their spouses beside them. Or when I am alone thinking that it is so unfair for my baby to be raised in a broken family set - up. Since the day he knew about my pregnancy, he changed. I was the one who first gave up because he seems not interested with me and the baby anymore. He accepted my rejection of him right away and did not bother to make any efforts to make our relationship work. I am trying my very best to stay strong for my baby and I know God will never leave us alone..
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Re: How to deal with this pain alone?
« Reply #329 on: December 03, 2012, 08:18:07 PM »
to TS i feel like i'm in the same boat, for 8 months super rocky namin, LDR din kami for the past 1 year and 6 months nagsimula ang kalbaryo earlier this year
super tinry ko lahat, nagpakabait ako, patient lahat ng kelangan pero nauubos din pala tapos kahit feeling mo drain ka na, gusto mo pa din ituloy
iniisip ko nga masochista ba ko?
i never imagined i would be in this position, super hirap, super lungkot..
love is just a word..until someone you meet gives it a proper meaning..

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Re: How to deal with this pain alone?
« Reply #330 on: December 07, 2012, 12:20:14 AM »
I am alone and 3 1/2 months pregnant. My ex and I talked over the phone and he told me "unti unti ng nawawala pagmamahal ko sayo". It hurts so much because I carry our baby inside my tummy. If he said that without me having a baby, I really would not care at all. I just thank God for my family and friends who are very supportive of me but there are times when I get sad most especially when I visit my OB because I am alone and women around me have their spouses beside them. Or when I am alone thinking that it is so unfair for my baby to be raised in a broken family set - up. Since the day he knew about my pregnancy, he changed. I was the one who first gave up because he seems not interested with me and the baby anymore. He accepted my rejection of him right away and did not bother to make any efforts to make our relationship work. I am trying my very best to stay strong for my baby and I know God will never leave us alone..

Sad to hear your story...
Some guys just cant really take sudden change in situations...in your case, having a baby.

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Re: How to deal with this pain alone?
« Reply #331 on: December 11, 2012, 06:55:35 PM »
 :( be strong mga sis. ako din dumaan sa ganyan. halos lahat naman may mga ganyang experience, just be strong. it's not rainy all the time. isipin nyo na lang na matatapos din yan. what comes out after every storm ba?
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Re: How to deal with this pain alone?
« Reply #332 on: January 16, 2013, 01:14:48 AM »
I am going through this pain right now. hindi pa kami nag bi-break officially pero he's not showing his love to me anymore. ako pa nagmakaawa na sana manlang mag i love you siya sa akin sa text or email.

hay ang hirap basta...  :-\


how to be strong ba?

i'm feeling the same way i really don't know what to do i still love him very much.  :'(

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Re: How to deal with this pain alone?
« Reply #333 on: January 16, 2013, 11:48:05 AM »
Hi sis,
wala, masaktan ka lang haggang magsawa ka, then pag nagsawa ka hahanapin mo din maging "ok". May stages talaga ang pagiging heart broken. :)

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Re: How to deal with this pain alone?
« Reply #334 on: January 19, 2013, 01:55:34 PM »
I Agree with sis Cinder05.

It's okay to feel pain. Ramdamin lang. Iiyak kung kinakailangan. Because the more you try to hold it in or deny yourself the pain, magiimplode ka. Issues will rot inside. Dyan na tutubo ang mga bagaheng bibitbitin mo in the future.

Expect na sa after break up you'll feel insecure or yung self esteem mo down the drain. You will question yourself. Feel bad, etc.

Meet new friends and go out. AFter a week of mourning, start channeling your sadness somewhere. Like writing, exercise, shopping etc. Pamper yourself. But please don't go out and sleep with guys.Some girl do that to feel better. It can cause further complications.

Eventually naman magsasawa ka sa nararamdaman mo. You'll wake up one day feeling better. Just pray.
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Re: How to deal with this pain alone?
« Reply #335 on: January 20, 2013, 02:29:20 PM »
Wala na talaga kami ng bf.  Sobrang lungkot kasi nafefeel ko wala na talaga.  Yung hindi kana talaga mahal kahit ano pa gawin ko hindi na niya napapansin parang sagabal na lang ako sa kanya.  Wala akong ginawa kundi umiyak ng umiyak.  Nasasaktan ako na hindi na niya ako pinapansin.  Gusto ko pa din mahalin niya ako kaso wala na eh. Kahit ano pa convince ko sa sarili ko na kaya ko ang hirap-hirap magmove on at kalimutan siya.  Denial pa din ako until now.  Sinisisi ko din sarili ko bakit kami hindi na magkaayos now.  Sana makalimutan na kita kahit mahirap kelangan kong gawin  :(

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Re: How to deal with this pain alone?
« Reply #336 on: March 05, 2013, 05:40:35 PM »
How to deal with the pain especially if you are far away from your family and closest friends? I have friends here overseas but not like the friends I have back home. It is sooo painful that getting up and going to work feels like a struggle. I feel miserable everyday.  We have common friends, and liit n circle of friends ko.

I even hear from our common friends that he is now happy with the girl he chose over me and I'm here left alone and hurt.  I hope one day I'll wake up and the pain will no longer be there. Sometimes, I wake up in the middle of the night or early morning and he's the first thing that comes to my mind and the pain and the picture of him with the girl in his arms... *sigh* One day I'll be happy and I hope soon...  All of us gtalkers in this situation right now, I hope we'll get over with the pain soon and be happy. :) we can do this.

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Re: How to deal with this pain alone?
« Reply #337 on: March 06, 2013, 10:07:18 AM »
awww...I was like this a year ago. And I know the pain that you are going through. Women hold on for too long. Just know na kung gusto ka ng lalaki, ipaglalaban ka nila. They'll do everything for you. Us, women should know how to let go. Alam ko mahirap but let it go. If he doesn't make you happy, then he's the wrong man. Let him go. Huwag ng ipilit. Focus on making yourself happy. Our world shouldn't revolve on just one man. Our priority is ourselves and not anyone else.
Ang mga babae kasi pinalaki sa culture na kapag walang relationship parang kulang tayo eh. You know what, let's prove them wrong. We are okay by ourselves. Our happiness shouldn't depend on anyone else. Let's all work on that.

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Re: How to deal with this pain alone?
« Reply #338 on: March 06, 2013, 01:07:53 PM »
hi sisses! I think you can only move on if you accept and forgive the person. Make it your goal to accept, forgive and move on. Make it your outlook. Everyday tell yourselves that you accept and forgive. Past is past already and it cannot be undone. One must just have to learn from it. Remember, if a person decides to leave you, the first thing you have to do is accept rather than hold him back. It will save you from a lot more heartaches and pain. It may be difficult at first but remember only the first step is the hardest. The road may not be easy but eventually you'll get there. If the person can move on without you and could go on with their lives without talking to you, so can you.

Remember, letting go and moving on is not a sign of weakness. It only mean that you are strong enough to do it for somebody else's happiness. Everyday think "this will pass. eventually this will pass. accept forgive and move on", make it your mantra. Good luck sisses. I know you can make it. Eventually you will. Hugs.

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Re: How to deal with this pain alone?
« Reply #339 on: March 07, 2013, 01:26:34 AM »
going through this right now. one day bigla na lang hindi ka na niya love. so difficult to swallow :(
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