Author Topic: How to deal with this pain alone? (Read 38245 times)

redcheeks · « **Reply #320 on:** September 22, 2012, 02:44:55 pm »

can I also share my story in this thread? i just need advice or just the idea of releasing the pain inside. I don't know. He's my bf for 11 years. In those years, we fought over petty things [textspeak!] naman but then I just realized na those I considered petty is still the issue between us. He never been completely honest with me with his whereabouts and who's with him. He told me I got jealous easily that's why he never informed me about his after office gimiks. He's a very friendly guy and have a lot of "girlfriends". He never let me handle his phone for his reason na baka I might read something na mamisinterpret ko. But then, one time I got the chance to view his msgs. I read msgs from his girl officemates that he considered as close friends but then girl insticnt, I knew there is something between him and one of his "girl friend." That girl messages were sweet and always show concerned to my bf. I even saw his call history and found out that they talked mostly late at night. I tried searching the girl on his fb friends but there were not friends there. Then I tried searching their common friends and found a pix that like their bf-gf. I got pissed,as in!!! I also found other pix of his after office gimiks. I texted him right away and I told him I'm too tired of his game. I told him to leave me alone and that he and his girl can enjoy their life together in hell! But there was no confirmation. He told me that what I saw was nothing. But I refused to believe him. Why didn't he tell me about this in the first place and why did he do such a pose like he and that girl have a relationship? I was deeply hurt but I don't know what to do. Should I forgive him or forget him and move on??? I'm so confused. I never find myself crying maybe because I got tired already of what he's doing to me but whenever I think of what I saw I feel the pain so much. I loved him and see him as my better half but how did he do such a thing? Im already in my early 30's that is why I'm scared to let him go because I don't know what my life would be without him. And its hard to just leave behind the 11 years we've shared.

Hope for your advice. If this is the wrong thread to post this, apologies.

piatos · « **Reply #321 on:** October 06, 2012, 09:53:27 am »

nakikipagbalikan sakin ang ex ko asa haha!. kung talagang mahal nya ako gagawa sya ng paraan kaso feeling nya walang nangyari lol

hot_pink · « **Reply #322 on:** October 08, 2012, 05:45:59 pm »

I'm so sad right now.... walang lasa ang pagkain... walang gana pumasok... naiiyak maski saan... natutulala lagi.... ang bigat ng dibdib ko... everyday is a struggle to survive because of the loneliness brought by a broken heart. Ayoko lalo pag gumagabi, that's when I'm lonelier.... paggising ko sa umaga, the cycle repeats... hay....

piatos · « **Reply #323 on:** October 08, 2012, 10:15:12 pm »

^alam mo sis ganyan din ako gusto ko lang lagi ako natutulog para hindi ko nararamdaman yung pain. ang masakit lang matapos nyang makipagbreak sakin makikipagbalikan sya ayoko ng masaktan ulit.

Ishasophia · « **Reply #324 on:** October 09, 2012, 05:10:47 pm »

Quote from: hot_pink on October 08, 2012, 05:45:59 pm

I'm so sad right now.... walang lasa ang pagkain... walang gana pumasok... naiiyak maski saan... natutulala lagi.... ang bigat ng dibdib ko... everyday is a struggle to survive because of the loneliness brought by a broken heart. Ayoko lalo pag gumagabi, that's when I'm lonelier.... paggising ko sa umaga, the cycle repeats... hay....

Same here sis.. just be strong.. you need to be strong for yourself. Find a way to divert your attention..may it be a new hobby, new game in your phone, new friends.. just something to vent out all the pain.. it will help somehow..

sats · « **Reply #325 on:** October 10, 2012, 10:18:43 pm »

I still love my ex but its wrong..he wants me back but i declined.ive kids and im married..he blocked me in fb....its so painful...how do i deal with this pain...

Quin Bee · « **Reply #326 on:** October 12, 2012, 03:29:22 am »

I am going through this pain right now. hindi pa kami nag bi-break officially pero he's not showing his love to me anymore. ako pa nagmakaawa na sana manlang mag i love you siya sa akin sa text or email.

hay ang hirap basta... $:-\$

how to be strong ba?

lifehouse000 · « **Reply #327 on:** October 12, 2012, 08:09:06 am »

Quote from: hot_pink on October 08, 2012, 05:45:59 pm

I'm so sad right now.... walang lasa ang pagkain... walang gana pumasok... naiiyak maski saan... natutulala lagi.... ang bigat ng dibdib ko... everyday is a struggle to survive because of the loneliness brought by a broken heart. Ayoko lalo pag gumagabi, that's when I'm lonelier.... paggising ko sa umaga, the cycle repeats... hay....

Count me in!
Moving on is something I do every second of the day. I can relate. Minsan prang frozen pakiramdam ko. The hardest time of the day is waking up and realizing the person I loved most left me.

JHOYROMY76 · « **Reply #328 on:** October 12, 2012, 12:45:08 pm »

Hello sa inyong lahat, bago pa lang ako dito. Nakarelate ako sa mga nakapost dito..Sa Dec. 20, 17 years na kaming magkasama ng husband ko sana. Pero sa kasamaang palad, after hanging on sa relationship namin for almost 17 years, mukang bibigay na ko at di ko n kyang mag-hold on..Pangarap ko na makasama sana ang asawa ko hanggang sa pagtanda ko..pero mukang di na mangyayari un..gusto n nya talagang humiwalay sa kin..pagod na raw sya sa pagiging house husband..gusto nya dumiskarte ng sarili nya ng wala raw nakikialam sa kanya.Sa ngaun, pinag-iisipan ko ng pagbigyan ang hiling nya na maghiwalay kami..napapagod na rin kasi ako ng kakasuyo sa kanya sa tuwing aawayin nya ko.

avd · « **Reply #329 on:** November 27, 2012, 06:23:44 pm »

Quote from: hot_pink on October 08, 2012, 05:45:59 pm

I'm so sad right now.... walang lasa ang pagkain... walang gana pumasok... naiiyak maski saan... natutulala lagi.... ang bigat ng dibdib ko... everyday is a struggle to survive because of the loneliness brought by a broken heart. Ayoko lalo pag gumagabi, that's when I'm lonelier.... paggising ko sa umaga, the cycle repeats... hay....

experienced that also...
i just wish that you finally wake up having no heartaches at all..time will tell when ...maging excited ka nalang kung kanino ka maiinlove ulit...sympre when that time comes, you must be wiser na..ako 8 months bago nakamove on nung maghiwalay kame ni gf...feels super lonely when pa 3pm na...wanting to be alone lang lage etc...so hard...hayyy...why cant love be perfect and forever at first time...

pinkswirls12 · « **Reply #330 on:** December 03, 2012, 04:26:14 pm »

I am alone and 3 1/2 months pregnant. My ex and I talked over the phone and he told me "unti unti ng nawawala pagmamahal ko sayo". It hurts so much because I carry our baby inside my tummy. If he said that without me having a baby, I really would not care at all. I just thank God for my family and friends who are very supportive of me but there are times when I get sad most especially when I visit my OB because I am alone and women around me have their spouses beside them. Or when I am alone thinking that it is so unfair for my baby to be raised in a broken family set - up. Since the day he knew about my pregnancy, he changed. I was the one who first gave up because he seems not interested with me and the baby anymore. He accepted my rejection of him right away and did not bother to make any efforts to make our relationship work. I am trying my very best to stay strong for my baby and I know God will never leave us alone..

jamberryknots · « **Reply #331 on:** December 03, 2012, 08:18:07 pm »

to TS i feel like i'm in the same boat, for 8 months super rocky namin, LDR din kami for the past 1 year and 6 months nagsimula ang kalbaryo earlier this year
super tinry ko lahat, nagpakabait ako, patient lahat ng kelangan pero nauubos din pala tapos kahit feeling mo drain ka na, gusto mo pa din ituloy
iniisip ko nga masochista ba ko?
i never imagined i would be in this position, super hirap, super lungkot..

avd · « **Reply #332 on:** December 07, 2012, 12:20:14 am »

Quote from: pinkswirls12 on December 03, 2012, 04:26:14 pm

I am alone and 3 1/2 months pregnant. My ex and I talked over the phone and he told me "unti unti ng nawawala pagmamahal ko sayo". It hurts so much because I carry our baby inside my tummy. If he said that without me having a baby, I really would not care at all. I just thank God for my family and friends who are very supportive of me but there are times when I get sad most especially when I visit my OB because I am alone and women around me have their spouses beside them. Or when I am alone thinking that it is so unfair for my baby to be raised in a broken family set - up. Since the day he knew about my pregnancy, he changed. I was the one who first gave up because he seems not interested with me and the baby anymore. He accepted my rejection of him right away and did not bother to make any efforts to make our relationship work. I am trying my very best to stay strong for my baby and I know God will never leave us alone..

Sad to hear your story...
Some guys just cant really take sudden change in situations...in your case, having a baby.

shineadet · « **Reply #333 on:** December 11, 2012, 06:55:35 pm »

be strong mga sis. ako din dumaan sa ganyan. halos lahat naman may mga ganyang experience, just be strong. it's not rainy all the time. isipin nyo na lang na matatapos din yan. what comes out after every storm ba?

lovesick · « **Reply #334 on:** January 16, 2013, 01:14:48 am »

Quote from: Quin Bee on October 12, 2012, 03:29:22 am

I am going through this pain right now. hindi pa kami nag bi-break officially pero he's not showing his love to me anymore. ako pa nagmakaawa na sana manlang mag i love you siya sa akin sa text or email.

hay ang hirap basta... $:-\$

how to be strong ba?

i'm feeling the same way i really don't know what to do i still love him very much.

cinder05 · « **Reply #335 on:** January 16, 2013, 11:48:05 am »

Hi sis,
wala, masaktan ka lang haggang magsawa ka, then pag nagsawa ka hahanapin mo din maging "ok". May stages talaga ang pagiging heart broken.

ubengbaka · « **Reply #336 on:** January 19, 2013, 01:55:34 pm »

I Agree with sis Cinder05.

It's okay to feel pain. Ramdamin lang. Iiyak kung kinakailangan. Because the more you try to hold it in or deny yourself the pain, magiimplode ka. Issues will rot inside. Dyan na tutubo ang mga bagaheng bibitbitin mo in the future.

Expect na sa after break up you'll feel insecure or yung self esteem mo down the drain. You will question yourself. Feel bad, etc.

Meet new friends and go out. AFter a week of mourning, start channeling your sadness somewhere. Like writing, exercise, shopping etc. Pamper yourself. But please don't go out and sleep with guys.Some girl do that to feel better. It can cause further complications.

Eventually naman magsasawa ka sa nararamdaman mo. You'll wake up one day feeling better. Just pray.

piatos · « **Reply #337 on:** January 20, 2013, 02:29:20 pm »

Wala na talaga kami ng bf. Sobrang lungkot kasi nafefeel ko wala na talaga. Yung hindi kana talaga mahal kahit ano pa gawin ko hindi na niya napapansin parang sagabal na lang ako sa kanya. Wala akong ginawa kundi umiyak ng umiyak. Nasasaktan ako na hindi na niya ako pinapansin. Gusto ko pa din mahalin niya ako kaso wala na eh. Kahit ano pa convince ko sa sarili ko na kaya ko ang hirap-hirap magmove on at kalimutan siya. Denial pa din ako until now. Sinisisi ko din sarili ko bakit kami hindi na magkaayos now. Sana makalimutan na kita kahit mahirap kelangan kong gawin

snow25 · « **Reply #338 on:** March 05, 2013, 05:40:35 pm »

How to deal with the pain especially if you are far away from your family and closest friends? I have friends here overseas but not like the friends I have back home. It is sooo painful that getting up and going to work feels like a struggle. I feel miserable everyday. We have common friends, and liit n circle of friends ko.

I even hear from our common friends that he is now happy with the girl he chose over me and I'm here left alone and hurt. I hope one day I'll wake up and the pain will no longer be there. Sometimes, I wake up in the middle of the night or early morning and he's the first thing that comes to my mind and the pain and the picture of him with the girl in his arms... *sigh* One day I'll be happy and I hope soon... All of us gtalkers in this situation right now, I hope we'll get over with the pain soon and be happy.

we can do this.

lady gwenhwyfar · « **Reply #339 on:** March 06, 2013, 10:07:18 am »

awww...I was like this a year ago. And I know the pain that you are going through. Women hold on for too long. Just know na kung gusto ka ng lalaki, ipaglalaban ka nila. They'll do everything for you. Us, women should know how to let go. Alam ko mahirap but let it go. If he doesn't make you happy, then he's the wrong man. Let him go. Huwag ng ipilit. Focus on making yourself happy. Our world shouldn't revolve on just one man. Our priority is ourselves and not anyone else.
Ang mga babae kasi pinalaki sa culture na kapag walang relationship parang kulang tayo eh. You know what, let's prove them wrong. We are okay by ourselves. Our happiness shouldn't depend on anyone else. Let's all work on that.

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