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Author Topic: Sana hindi na lang naging "kayo"?  (Read 7774 times)

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Sana hindi na lang naging "kayo"?
« on: May 30, 2010, 03:11:48 AM »
Did this question ever cross your mind? Not really because you're being bitter or sourgraping. But because you're simply in the most favorable situation when you're in a platonic relationship with him/her.

I had an ex kasi na nanghihinayang ako kasi naging best friends kami nung kami na. In short, naging friends kami for a short period of time then naging kami. As in magkasundo kami sa lahat. Tapos, nag-break kami because of 3rd party on his side. Now, we could never ever be friends again. Technically, we could but it would be unfair to his gf. So, I thought sana hindi ko na lang siya sinagot noon at binarkada na lang. E di sana we could still freely hang out.  :-\

Can anyone relate?

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« Last Edit: May 30, 2010, 03:16:31 AM by Layla »
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Re: Sana hindi na lang naging "kayo"?
« Reply #1 on: May 30, 2010, 03:55:06 AM »
Siguro, yong ex ko.  ;) I could imagine him being my best friend kasi he is a great listener and all-around good person. But i dont think we could ever be friends eh. I tried to reach out thrice but he's not receptive so i let it be na lang. But if we didnt get involved, i would also never know how he was as a person and he's really not the type to be friends with the opposite sex.
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Re: Sana hindi na lang naging "kayo"?
« Reply #2 on: May 30, 2010, 04:22:27 AM »
I used to tell my ex nung kami pa na, "Dapat talaga babarkadahin lang kita e kaso ang kulit mo." Sabi naman nya, "Hindi ako bumabarkada ng babae." Tapos ngayong hiwalay na kami, sobrang daming beses nya tina-try mag-reach out sa 'kin for us to be friends (daw). Pero lagi ko tini-turn down kasi malabo talaga. Kawawa naman gf nya lalo na kung malaman nya na masaya kami pag magkasama. Kaka-lungkot!
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Re: Sana hindi na lang naging "kayo"?
« Reply #3 on: May 30, 2010, 07:50:31 AM »
  -- yes nasabe ko na rin 'to before, nung sobra akong nasaktan sa kanya, and nakakahinayang yung friendship. pero ngayon, hindi na, kasi marami din akong natutuhan sa kanya, at naging part na rin siya ng buhay ko.
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Re: Sana hindi na lang naging "kayo"?
« Reply #4 on: May 31, 2010, 01:05:31 PM »
i can absolutely relate to this kasi si boyfie ko ngayon is we started as being good friends..tapos nung naging kami marami ng complications at maraming nagbago like sa communication namin..halos araw2 kami mag-usap noon ngayon madalang nalang tapos there are questions and topics na hindi ko na ma open up sa kanya kasi baka iba ang iisipin niya..hays, sana hindi nalang naging kami kasi mas fun at walang expectations noon kung hindi man kayo magkikita or mag-uusap ng ilang araw..

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Re: Sana hindi na lang naging "kayo"?
« Reply #5 on: June 01, 2010, 10:38:12 PM »
ganun naman talaga at times may mga what if's tayo lalo na if still looking forward ka pa din na magbalik yung dating samahan niyo as for some it helps them to get over easily.
mahirap nga yan  :-\
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Re: Sana hindi na lang naging "kayo"?
« Reply #6 on: June 01, 2010, 10:39:16 PM »
Sobrang nakakarelate ako dito. When we broke up, maraming "sana" na pumasok sa isip ko like "Sana di ko na lang sinabi ang feelings ko for him," etc. Kasi nagiging close na kami as friends then nagkabistuhan na we both like/love each other. We broke up kasi hindi "tama" yung nangyayari. We promised to each other na di kami mag-iiwasan and we will stay as friends. Pero di nangyari yun. And now, both of us we're deeply hurt.

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Re: Sana hindi na lang naging "kayo"?
« Reply #7 on: June 05, 2010, 08:28:04 AM »
Yup, I can relate. 
My First BF -- i was 14 and he was 18
Too much expectations on both side; of course = too much emo drama on both sides; and of course!  it didn't work out.   
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Whenever I think of him now, yes.. we would have been better off as friends, and spared ourselves all that useless emo drama. hehe

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Re: Sana hindi na lang naging "kayo"?
« Reply #8 on: June 05, 2010, 03:37:21 PM »
awww  :( you did the right thing..
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Re: Sana hindi na lang naging "kayo"?
« Reply #9 on: June 05, 2010, 04:19:43 PM »
meron din akong feeling na ganito. minsan iniisip ko sana nga hindi na lang naging kami nung ex ko. kasi kung minsan pinagseselosan ng hubby ko nun magboyf pa lang kami. pero ngayon, wala na syang pakialam. pinagtatawanan na lang namin yung mga nangyari before.

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Re: Sana hindi na lang naging "kayo"?
« Reply #10 on: June 05, 2010, 05:23:20 PM »
Pa share lang po ng experience...
I've been single for 9 months na. Yung last ex ko (2nd bf) at the same time best friend, we were together for 5 years plus 2 years bestfriend.
We broke up because I'm not sure na he's "the one" and wala na talagang love, kumbaga dull na yung feeling ko, magkakasama lang kami parang as companion na lang.. After nun nagrebound siya after 12 days of our formal break up, and until now sila pa nung girl. I tried to move on kahit masakit, somehow i nakarma ako pero I survived. At first he offered friendship but I hardly refuse it, kasi ayokong masaktan at dahil may gf na siya. Vice versa ang nangyari, siya naman tong ayaw sakin dahil nag offer na rin ako ng friendship. Ayaw niya, di lang niya matanggap kasi bitter pa siya ngayon at dahil alam niya na may kaMU na ako. He doesn't like the guy, hinaharass pa niya sa FB kahit di siya pinakialaman nito. Until now bitter pa rin siya, alam ko yon, halatang halata sa kanyang mga sinasabi, kumbaga plastekan.

Masakit talaga if mag-iisip ka na nagka ganun kayo, but I never regret anything kasi, kagustuhan ko rin yung pangyayari, at dahil may purpose ang Diyos kung bakit nangyari yun. It only proves na hindi kami talaga para sa isa't isa dahil tama lang talaga na nagkahiwalay kami...  :)
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Re: Sana hindi na lang naging "kayo"?
« Reply #11 on: June 05, 2010, 06:12:18 PM »
i once said it nung nasa bitterness stage pa ko.
pero i realized, kahit na i've been in two failed long relationships na, i have learned a lot. may reason why it has ended. the relationship made me happy din naman. yun nga lang, it's not meant to last..  ;)
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Re: Sana hindi na lang naging "kayo"?
« Reply #12 on: June 05, 2010, 08:45:21 PM »
ganun naman talaga every relationship that comes to an end may it be good/bad ending ... the lesson we learn is we live we learns and as what aquacharly said accept the fact & move on
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Re: Sana hindi na lang naging "kayo"?
« Reply #13 on: June 07, 2010, 02:06:05 AM »
haha.. ang weird ko pala.. kasi kami pa pero minsan naiisip ko at nasabi ko na rin sa kanya, sana di na lang naging kami kasi pinapaiyak naman niya ako

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Re: Sana hindi na lang naging "kayo"?
« Reply #14 on: August 23, 2010, 12:35:38 PM »
im in that situation right now after my ex broke up with me a month ago... we started out as really good friends. at the start of the relationship we were kinda concerned that it might put our friendship sa alanganin. we also talked about that we will still remain friends if things didnt work out... pero kabaligtaran nangyari after 5 weeks he broke up with me and his reason it was just not working out. i still dont know the real reason why he ended the relationship. maybe he isnt just ready for a relationship.

he also tried to reach out and be friends again immediately after the break up but im just not ready to be friends with him yet. the worst part was we have the same set of friends. i ended up avoiding hanging out with some of my friends kung alam kong naghahangout sila kasama si ex.

 nagtatry pa rin si ex makipagusap so i decided to talk to him when i felt like i was ready to face him. talked to him sa fb but it felt really awkward coz we tried to avoid talking about the break up.

and now we would just say hi and hello no more no less and he is always the one saying hi. mahirap kasing makipagusap kay ex lalo na kung alam mo sa sarili mo na meron ka pa rin natitirang feelings kahit konti para sa kanya tapos di ko alam kung ano talaga nararamdaman niya.

 it hurts coz part of me wants to get back with him and part of me just miss talking to a good friend  :( :(  i guess im in serious trouble  :-[ :-[
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Re: Sana hindi na lang naging "kayo"?
« Reply #15 on: August 23, 2010, 02:23:59 PM »
Sana hindi na lang naging "kayo"?

-sagot ko OO. dun sa EX ko. Sana hindi nalang naging kami para hindi nasira and buhay at future ko.
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Re: Sana hindi na lang naging "kayo"?
« Reply #16 on: August 23, 2010, 02:34:17 PM »
i have this guy.. well, honestly i really don't know him.. pero kung sana nga lang maibabalik ko yung panahon, sana nga hindi na lang naging kami.. this guy, hindi ko talaga alam, was loving me from a far.. as in everything about me, he knows. but he wasn't a stalker.

there were times in the past 3 years na he kept texting me.. ako naman si lola, super ignore talaga ako sa kanya.. because he was never my type.. hayst! after that 3 years, ewan ko ba kung anong nakain ko at pinansin ko sya..

probably because i was hurting nung time na yon from a break up of an 8 year old relationship.. and i needed someone.. ayun, like your experience, we became friends in a while and then i didn't know that we've got so much in common..

i was never really ready for anything pero when he asked me to give him a chance, siguro nakadrugs ata ako non at sinabi ko yes. pero wala talaga akong feelings para sa kanya. he knows it naman, and he said he was willing to wait..

we were together for 6 months.. hindi naman kami nagkasawaan, hindi ko lang talaga sya kayang mahalin siguro. ewan ko ba. baliw! hindi naman sya mahirap mahalin e. pero attitudero kase sya.. hehe! ewan ko, for all i know wala talaga akong kasalanan sa lahat.. he wanted us to be us, i said ok.. he wanted us to broke off, ok na din.. whatever! wala lang.. i feel so bad about what happened.. sana nga lang hindi na lang.. kase sayang lang.. dami ko pa naman gustong i-share na mga bagay sa kanya, na alam kong mas mashe-share ko sa kanya if we remained good friends..
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Re: Sana hindi na lang naging "kayo"?
« Reply #17 on: November 29, 2011, 04:21:25 PM »
sana hindi nalang naging kame,kasi ang sakit sakit pala..sa una lang pala masaya ang my karelasyon! Kame pa din pero,n0w masasabi ko sana hindi nalang kame nagkakilala! Edi sana SINGLE pa sana ako,at hindi makakaranas ng so much pain!! Lahat lahat pinaramdam nya sakin, first bf ko kasi..kaya un!
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Re: Sana hindi na lang naging "kayo"?
« Reply #18 on: December 15, 2011, 10:40:39 PM »
minsan naiisip ko sana. maybe ganun talaga pag nararamdaman mo pa yun pain. first bf ko din sya. BUT, somehow i'm still thankful kasi i'm learning so much.     
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Re: Sana hindi na lang naging "kayo"?
« Reply #19 on: December 20, 2011, 03:13:14 PM »

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