Author Topic: what to do if your bf's mom is not so fond of you? (Read 4494 times)

Nuthella · « **Reply #20 on:** June 28, 2010, 08:37:22 pm »

I wont be trying hard. Its not gonna be like I'll be marrying her son the next day already.

Im still gonna show her the real me, but still try to show her that I reach out to her.

jobelle1984 · « **Reply #21 on:** June 28, 2010, 09:00:04 pm »

wala akong gagawin..so katwiran ko kong hindi niya ko gusto hindi ko din siya gusto no..i'll be just my self..

IronLady · « **Reply #22 on:** July 30, 2010, 01:18:44 pm »

^haha! ano ba naman yun.. naiinggit lang ata sayo kaya isinumbong ka sa momi nila.. hehe! teka bakit ka naman minura? grabe naman yun.. pra sakin mas ok na di ka na nila pansinin kesa murahin ka pa ng ganun diba..

ako.. parang mabaet na sakin yung mom ng bf ko.. lol! nakakatulong ba if they got used to you na? yung tipong anjan ka na lage eh! haha.. nako baka magalit ulit, kasi balak ko makitulog sa kanila! e kasi nman maaga yung byahe namin eh! tingin nyo mga sis? ang balak ko na lang e siguraduhin na nakabukas lagi ang pinto! iniisip ko pa baka magalit kasi kung di naman ako makikitulog sa kanila ibig sabihin magpapasundo ako ng maaga? w/c is lesser evil sa dalawa kung kayo ang nasa magulang? hehe!

IronLady · « **Reply #23 on:** July 30, 2010, 02:39:03 pm »

haha! e hindi naman papayag bf ko na humiwalay sakin yun pa.. Lol! Tska dati nakitulog naman nko sa kanila.. Hehe! hindi naman nila ko inaway pero syempre nahihiya ako kasi baka kung [textspeak!] lang isipin o sabihin nila.. Hehe! e sympre gusto ko nga na magustuhan ako diba.. sabi naman ni bf ok lang daw.. pero syempre di ba.. hrap kasi basahin ang iniicp nila sayo.. hehe! pinapansn ko naman sila pero di ako makapagsustain ng matagalang convo.. dapat kasi two way kpg convo diba.. haha! e kung ako lang ng ako mhrap yun!

grabe naglayas pa pala bf mo dahil dun ha.. hanggang ngayon di pa rin kayo close2 antagal nyo na sis!

IronLady · « **Reply #24 on:** August 01, 2010, 07:22:41 pm »

^ganon sis? mas malala pa pala sila sayo pero ikaw yung sinumbong nila! lol!

Ako naman good girl din.. hehe! uu sa room ni bf e alangan namang sa sofa sya matulog, edi baka mas lalo naasar sakin mom nya kasi yung anak pa nya nahirapan dahil sa pakikitulog ko! haha! hays, basta ang feeling ko ok naman basta lang bukas yung pinto.. hehe! pero ewan.. dati nagawa na namin yun and ok lang naman ata.. ewan ko lang ha..

beautifuldreamer · « **Reply #25 on:** August 04, 2010, 07:35:56 am »

siguro kailangan mong mag relaks a bit on your relationship with his mom...na pre pressure ka masyado becuase ang ex niya eh longtime girlfriend at tangap nila...actually it takes time to accept a new one pag ganyan me bagong gf ang anak mo...and tendency ng nanay is maging close din sa gf ng anak mo lalot they spend time sa house nila...

as for you you are another story another time of their life...so be yourself...its good that you exert effort to please them...however it takes time to accept or even to care to another person....kaya give them time too...just be yourself....and in relaks mode with them all the time...do not do something that causes you disconfort with them....

IronLady · « **Reply #26 on:** August 06, 2010, 12:38:14 pm »

wala pa kong update sis kittie! hehe.. actually nung first time kong nafeel na di ako feel eh nung parang dumalaw kami sa mom nya sa hospital.. wala lang parang di siguro inaasahan n may dadalhin syang girl dun aside from friends.. hehe! e di pa nya kilala kung sino ako nun siguro napansin lang nya na special ang attention ni bf sakin.. pero yun nga lang.. baka nasanay nga lang din sa ex.. ngayon mas mabaet naman na sya sakin eh.. thou hindi kami yung tipong nagk-kwentuhan close-closean na ganun.. im still being myself naman when it comes to his mom, keber lang, mabaet naman ako eh.. yun lang minsan nakakafrustrate lang pag di mo feel na gusto ka ng isang tao, right? ako kasi frenship2 ko lahat.. hehe!

douxmadchen · « **Reply #27 on:** August 07, 2010, 10:01:18 pm »

mga sis, may ganitong problem friend ko. talagang she does everything para ma-appreciate sya nung mom nung bf nya kaso mukhang mas lalo pang lumalala yung situation nya. i told her na stop trying na lang siguro and avoid his mom na lang if possible kaso i think that's not the best idea? any tips. mukhang di okay yung suggestion ko sa friend ko. help naman mga sis!

IronLady · « **Reply #28 on:** August 10, 2010, 09:35:13 am »

^sis kung ayaw talaga sa kanya kahit anung gawin nya edi wala na talaga tayo magagawa.. alangan namang pilitin ang ayaw! hehe! the best thing to do na lang siguro is be herself pa din, kung ayaw sa kanya fine pero she shouldnt declare a war naman or even avoid the mom kasi ang maiipit si bf din.. siguro maging mabaet na lang sya, e kung ayaw pa din sa kanya at least wala syang ginagawang masama.. eniwei sis, panong lumala ang sitch?

douxmadchen · « **Reply #29 on:** August 11, 2010, 08:37:08 pm »

lumala yung situation kasi nung birthday nung boyfriend nya, nagkaroon ata daw ng small fam reunion, so syempre invited yung friend ko dahil sya nga yung gf... tapos nung parang kumakain na daw sila, may isang relative daw na nagstart mag-interview sa friend ko, then her bf's mom started to butt in saying nothing good about her at all. so pinahiya talaga sya. this was really insulting for her kasi wala naman talaga daw na mapipintas sa kanya (di naman daw sa pagmamayabang or anything) kasi wala naman daw syang ugly past or background at lalung lalo na sa attitude nya towards her bf and his mom... so she doesn't really get it kung bakit sobrang ayaw sa kanya nung mom ni bf. pati nga daw si bf, di alam kung bakit ganon na lang mom nya sa kanya...

chengkii · « **Reply #30 on:** August 11, 2010, 08:43:19 pm »

@doucxmadchen - sis, can you be more specific kung ano iyun bad things na sinabi? Medyo contradicting lang kasi kung walang mapipintas kay FRIEND mo, tapos may nasasabi si MOM OF BF.

Different people, I guess, deal with these things differently. Kasi ako, nambabara ako kahit pa joke. hehe. Alam din ni HUBBY iyun. I do not just agree on any statement, kahit sino pa kaharap ko. Pero, I do it according to the tone naman. Like pabiro...or snide. Ganoon.

How did your friend react ba during that situation?

douxmadchen · « **Reply #31 on:** August 11, 2010, 09:28:13 pm »

I'm not very sure kung ano yung exact words or details sa sinabi nung mom ni bf, basta may nasabi ata si bf's mom na... 'ewan ko, bakit sya girlfriend nitong anak ko...' or something like that. at first, inisip ko baka di type itsura nya or something pero di naman pangit si friend. i told her baka super nakasundo nung mom nya yung ex ni bf... pero wala naman daw comparison na nangyayari. haayy.. basta, nobody really gets why...

she did not say anything and chose to remain silent na lang
kasi ayaw naman daw nyang may masabi syang masama at lumabas na bastos... baka daw kasi lalong magalit lang sa kanya yung mom nung bf nya. good thing though na medyo sinabat daw ni bf yung mom nya sa kakasalita.

genivy21 · « **Reply #32 on:** August 22, 2010, 08:19:38 pm »

alam mo sa point of view naman ng sister... im the eldest of three, 1 boy lang sa amin.

nahihirapan akong pakisamahan ang gf ng bro kahit me asawa na ako kasi parang naiisip ko sayang emotion di naman siguradong sila na. o ako lang iyon?! kasi me una siyang gf, matagal din bago ko natanggap na gf na siya. nuong natanggap ko na, siya namang break nila. e nabuwiset na ako. so itong bagong gf, aloof pa din ako. intayin ko na lang na maging mag asawa bago ko ichika chika.

sa mga anak ko din, if mangyayari na me gf na. reserve lang ako. kasi iyon nga, di pa naman ako sure na ikaw na. so smile smile lang tayo, chika konti. pero please do not expect me to be your bosom buddy. when i was a gf too, ganun din ako. i did not expect anything. mutual respect lang. if me mga snide remarks na nakakaabot sa akin, ang bf ko inaaway ko. at wala din akong pakialam if galit sila or asar sa akin. di nila ako kilala para mag judge.

and if papipiliin ako kung stay over or aalis ng maaga anak ko to pick you up. ill choose the stay over. you sleep in the sisters room. kasalanan mo na if lumabas ka pa ng room para makipaglampungan sa anak ko. just don't expect me to respect you. mothers have eyes on the back of their heads. binaboy mo bahay ko tapos rerespetuhin pa kita? kapal naman di ba?! lol

mitch2526 · « **Reply #33 on:** August 26, 2010, 02:48:58 pm »

ako naman, sis lang ako, pero hindi ko type ang GF ni kuya. haha!

ok lang sana nung una kasi sa sala lang sila. pero nagsisleep over na halos once a week sa kwarto ni kuya tapos by 6 am, wala na siya! as in, HA anong ginagawa niyo?

haha i admit hindi ako friendly sa kanya, that is because para siyang GF na nakakabit sa kapatid ko na ewan. basta. deadma. hindi nakakatuwa.

and feeling ko nakakarma ako (or gumaganti lang kuya ko) kasi di niya rin type gaano si BF kahit na 5 minutes pa lang sila nag kita. tangkad kasi ni BF baka naintimidate lang si kuya hehe.

chengkii · « **Reply #34 on:** August 26, 2010, 08:53:15 pm »

^ Haha. Hindi naman siguro, sis. Bakit ka naman gagantihan ng kuya mo sa pamamagitan ng pagkuha ng GF na pang asar lang sa iyo. LOL.

Siguro may mga ganoon lang talaga. Hindi natin type iyun partner ng kapatid natin. Eh, doon siya nagkagusto eh. Hindi naman natin maco control iyun. LOL

charmed_chic · « **Reply #35 on:** August 30, 2010, 12:07:22 pm »

To me, just be yourself and I mean not the bratinella or the maldita side of yourself. If his mom is so not fond of you, don't show some kamalditahan back because at the end of the day, she is still his mom.. talo ka dyan. Anyhow, just show her how you love his son and in time, she'll warm up.

vintagemaria · « **Reply #36 on:** February 18, 2011, 02:49:37 pm »

i have the same prob... bf's mom at first I thought she likes me because she's treating me well when I visit them at home but there was this one time I changed my cellphone no. and sent a group message including the mom, she replied as if she didn't care about my new number. So I replied and explained that that text was just FYI.

Then she replied with harsh words, telling me to stop bothering her and all. But I couldn't refrain myself from not responding back, I asked in a very respectful way, why she's like that to me. (Because there was also an incident that I sent her an inspirational message and she replied very badly, but then she said sorry afterwards.)

Her reply was worse, including bad words. I texted her back and told her that I respect her like my own parents but also to respect me as a person. I told her nobody ever treated me that way, not even my parents. I was so angry at her but I tried to reply still with respect, not like fighting back.

That happened last year but until now I haven't got any sorry from her. I never texted her again or visited their house. I still gave presents last Christmas but never received a thank you from her. I know I forgave her already but I think I could never forget what she did and said to me.

Now, it's also affecting the relationship with bf. I think I couldn't bare to have a MIL like her and often the reason why we fight is because of her. I don't know what to do...

sorry long story, just wanted to let this out...

ShoesAndTravel · « **Reply #37 on:** February 22, 2011, 01:57:10 pm »

Nafeel ko na to before... At first they were okay, very accommodating. Pero pagtagal biglang nagiba. I dont know why din. Ofcourse di ako nagalit, tinanggap ko nalang and pinakisamahan parin sila. But oh well, we broke up.

But not because of them.

choco_pie · « **Reply #38 on:** February 22, 2011, 02:53:25 pm »

gave her some time baka na hihirapan lang siya mag adjust kasi nga naman 8years din sila ng ex nang bf mo then all of the sudden bigla ka niyang pinakilala, give her some time to know you more and like you don't force it be patient. suggest ko sayo alamin mo ang mga hobbies niya sample kung mahilig siyang mag luto try to bound with her mag paturo kang mag luto ng favorite food ni boyfriend mo make sure everytime you bound with her kayo lang dalawa hindi kasama si boyfriend mo. malay mo it might start of something

IronLady · « **Reply #39 on:** April 23, 2011, 11:21:20 am »

hi girls! i'm back sa thread na toh.. anyways, mukhang improving naman ang relationship namin ni mommy ni bf dear.. hehe! i went to their house last christmas to celebrate with them. ok naman.. si mommy di pa din ako maxado pansin and civil lang kami pero i think mas improving na.. natuwa ako sabi ni bf sabi daw ni mommy di man lang daw nya sinabi na pupunta ko, di daw tuloy sya nakapaghanda.. yung mga titas kasi nya yung iba may gifts sakin.. hehe! im not expecting gifts naman kasi nakakahiya din tska i brought cake lang naman.. tapos ngayon iniinvite na din ako sa mga lunch with titas ng mommy nya.. pinapasabi sa bf ko.. tingin nyo mejo ok na ko sis? hehe!

ako naman eh i respect her pa din and gusto ko lahat friends ko pero yung attitude ko eh if she doesn't like me pa din kahit ano na ginawa ko edi hindi na lang.. walang pilitan.. basta ngayon hindi na ko nakikitulog kay bf.. haha! i rarely go na din at their house.. pa-miss na lang ako.. baka nga naman kasi ayaw lang ni mother na andun kami.. kahit pa nung sila nung ex nya eh i think palagi sa bahay noon.. dedma na lang ako and di ko na gagawin yun baka sakaling matuwa pa si mommy sakin..

nga pala i have this friend naman na talagang nilaet laet ng mother ng bf nya.. ayaw sa kanya kahit mabaet naman si fren.. nagkatuluyan n sila and my baby na.. ayun nahihirapan si mother makita ang baby! hehe!

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