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Author Topic: NINANG ng Bayan!  (Read 17937 times)

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NINANG ng Bayan!
« on: April 20, 2010, 11:57:45 AM »
Hi! I don't know if my title is appropriate it's just that I want to start a topic about us sisters na laging or madalas kinukuha na ninang sa binyang. If theres a similar thread kindly delete or merge na lang po

FOr me there's nothing wrong about it. I don't really mind even though I am not a catholic, excited pa nga ako lalo na pag sa mga close friends ko ako mag ni ninang.

Ang kinaiinis ko lang minsan pag di ko naman mga ka-close yung kumukuha sa akin, like neighbors lang na ni hindi nga ako binabati kapag nakakasalubong, or yung talagang di ko ka-close.

Minsan kasi feeling ko lang, kaya nila ako kinukuha dahil sa may trabaho ako at regalo or pamasko lang ang habol nila at ginagawa na nilang negosyo yung bata.

If I'm not mistaken, the role of ninang ang ninong are suppose to be second parents to the child,pero parang di ganun ang nangyayari.

Recently lang kasi, halos tumanggi na ako dahil, ni hindi ko ka-close yung couple tapos, hindi pa sila dumeretso sa akin para sabihan ako na kukunin nila akong ninang ng anak nila, Kung kani kaninong tao pa pinasasabi na ninang daw ako, I mean yung ganun bagay dapat personal na sila ang kumakausap sa tao. Hindi naman ako galit, kaya lang kasi ilang tao ang nagsabi sa akin nga na ninang daw ako samantalang lagi ko naman silang nakikita or nakakasalubong! Pwede naman i text na lang, kung nahihiya sila! i just don't get it?

Bad ba ko for doing that? I ended up making excuses para di pumunta sa binyag, and I just bought a gift for the kid at pinadala ko na lang.

sorry napahaba!  ;)
« Last Edit: April 26, 2010, 06:32:18 PM by runaway_bridesmaid »
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Re: NINANG ng Bayan!
« Reply #1 on: April 20, 2010, 07:33:04 PM »
Well, sabi ng lola ko it is bad luck to turn down a request to be a ninang.  So, que type ko or hindi yung parents... sige. 

Your concept of what a ninang or ninong is supposed to be ganon na nga -- a constant presence in the kid's life, another guide or good example to pattern his/her life on.   BUT nowadays... ganon na nga as you said -- kasi ang tingin nila eh nakaka angat ka and you can afford.  It is oftentimes a matter of pride too for the parents, na nakagetz sila ng sikat or nakaka angat na ninang or ninong.

I generally ask, or my secretary discreetly inquires... ilan ba ang  ninang at ninong?  Pag lumampas sa 6 -- I do not turn up, unless it is good for my business to appear beso beso etc etc.    hehe  alam mo na. 

But like you, I always send a gift for the binyag -- if I do not show my face. 
Christmas time, at hindi tayo close... I will not send a gift automatically kasi inaanak kita. 
But if the kid appears at my doorstep, I gladly give a gift or cash.

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Re: NINANG ng Bayan!
« Reply #2 on: April 23, 2010, 12:29:14 PM »
To be honest, di naman talaga ako nakakaangat sa buhay. Im just a simple employee. Nakatira kasi ako sa squatter before, and of course lahat ng tao doon mahirap din kagaya ko, Im just lucky to have hardworking parents to be able to send me to school.

Naiinis lang ako sa mentality nila, dati ni hindi nga ako pinapansin ng mga tao na iyon, ang isa pa nga eh inaapi at minamaliit ako noon mga bata pa kami, tapos ngayon kinuha niya akong ninang ng anak nila.

Iniisip ko kasi karamihan ng mga barkada nila doon mga wala naman trabaho, hindi sa minamaliit ko sila, pero talagang obvious na ang reason kaya nila ako kinuha is because I have a job para nga naman lagi may regalo ang anak nila pag pasko.

Yung isa nga eh, pag Ber months na tinuturuan ang anak niya na batiin ako at magmano sa akin pag nakikita ako, pero pag hindi Ber months, abah dedma ako, kairita, kaya ako ang una bumabati sa bata, at tuturuan ko na lang na batiin ako pag nagkikita kami!

Kainis talaga, bakit ang daming taong mukhang pera!!

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Re: NINANG ng Bayan!
« Reply #3 on: April 24, 2010, 12:41:16 AM »
Honestly naiinis din ako when people im not really close with get me as ninang of their kids (e.g. friends of my mom, super long distance relatives). Mas nakakainis if they get you just because they know you are capable of buying luxurious gifts.
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Re: NINANG ng Bayan!
« Reply #4 on: April 27, 2010, 07:11:19 PM »
haist same sentiment tayo sis..
ako yung 1st inaanak ko, anak ng kapit bahay namin na as in hindi ko kilala..then sa mom ko pa sila nag sabi..but yun nga bawal daw tanggihan so okay..

then  yun namang kapitbahay ng ex ko (as in kapit bahay lang ni walang koneksyon) ganun din kinuha din akong ninang.

at lahat ng kamag anak ng ex ko nagka baby ninang din ako...

wala naman problema sana kaya lang yun nga iba naman kasi ang purpose nila eh.

pero wala pa rin akong tinatanggihan..kasi nga daw malas..

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Re: NINANG ng Bayan!
« Reply #5 on: April 27, 2010, 07:24:42 PM »
^talaga sis, palibhasa alam nila na di tayo pwedeng tumanggi, sinasamantala nila yung pamahiin na yun!
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Re: NINANG ng Bayan!
« Reply #6 on: April 27, 2010, 07:46:47 PM »
hay nkakarelate ako.. although ako tumatanggi talaga.. kasi kina-career ko talaga ang pagiging Godmother.. haha isa pa lang ang aking inaanak  ko at super close ko ang mom nya ako pa nagisip ng name nya..

Baligtad naman nung binyag ng son ko.. Ang dami namang nagpriprisinta.. ako naman ang tumatanggi pero during the binyag itself nahiya na ako tumanggi so about 20 ninong/ninangs ang binigyan ko ng candle pero 3pairs lang talaga ang nasa certificate ni baby..

Mas preferred ko din ang relatives over friends kahit long time friend pa yan.. kasi ang relatives kahit paglaki ng bata makikita at makakasama nya pag friend lang ng parents may possibility na pagtanda hindi na makita man lang.. ;)
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Re: NINANG ng Bayan!
« Reply #7 on: April 27, 2010, 08:27:57 PM »
But like you, I always send a gift for the binyag -- if I do not show my face. 
Christmas time, at hindi tayo close... I will not send a gift automatically kasi inaanak kita. 
But if the kid appears at my doorstep, I gladly give a gift or cash.

I also do this sis.. come Christmas time, I only give pamasko 'pag sila mismo pumupunta dito sa house, otherwise, bahala sila.. ;)

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Re: NINANG ng Bayan!
« Reply #8 on: April 27, 2010, 09:16:17 PM »
I have more or less 10 godchildren but all of them are either a relative or a friend's anak. Lahat naman sila ka-close ko ang mga parents so ok lang. Pag Christmas time, they should come to me personally kahit pa nasa tapat lang ang house nila. Alam na nila yun, otherwise wala silang gift or cash na galing sa akin. Alangan namang ako pa ang pumunta sa kanila noh. Naiinis lang ako dun sa mga parents nung ibang inaanak ko. Negosyo na ata ang binyag. Grabe, 10 ninong at 10 ninang! Buti na lang at iba na ang parish priest namin ngayon. Up to 3 pairs lang ang pinapayagan nya.
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« Reply #9 on: April 28, 2010, 07:26:19 AM »
naku hinde ko din nabibigyan ng xmas gifts yung mga inaanak ko sa sobrang dami. hinde ko na nga kilala yung iba. ang nabibigyan ko lang every year yung inaanak ko na anak ng sister in law ko cus i see him frequently.
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« Reply #10 on: April 28, 2010, 10:31:20 PM »
dami ko ring inaanak, hindi rin ako makatanggi kasi nga raw malas pag tinanggihan yung bata. Kaso meron don mga hindi ko kakilala, ipapasabi lang sa mom ko na kukunin akong ninang, hindi ko naman close. May friend ako ng 2 anak nya, ako ang ninang  ;D
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« Reply #11 on: April 29, 2010, 06:42:03 AM »
^ako nagugulat kapag sinasabi na inaanak ko daw ang anak nila! parang duh? inimbita mo bako nun binyag?  ???

kapag humihingi ng gift, tulad ng anak ng friend ko..  nagbigay ako ng dress kasi girl ang baby.. abah hindi man lang nagtext ang nanay niya para magthank you! kainis kaya yun.. kasi may anak din ako so if i receive a gift kahit kanino i say thanks right away. after nun, di nako nagbigay sakanya.

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« Reply #12 on: April 29, 2010, 07:14:28 AM »
Unfortunately nowadays, most people have a different concept of godparents. Diba the real meaning is that they are supposed to guide the kids as they grow up, secondary to their parents. Now, it's more of how much the godparent can give.

In my baby's baptism, my hubby and I are getting quite a few ninongs and ninangs cus we have so many good friends talaga. We're not even thinking of 'sa susunod na baby na lang si ganyan, si ganto'.
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« Reply #13 on: April 29, 2010, 01:47:59 PM »
we share same sentiments mga sis!
Minsan nagugulat na lang ako na ninang pala ako, eh hindi ko naman kakilala yung magulang ng bata...sasabihin na lang nila, kamag anak daw namin, pero hindi ko naman kilala at nakikita...
hay, minsan nga eh hindi ko na alam kung ano pangalan ng inaanak ko kasi hindi ko naman ka-close yung parents nung iba...sa lahat ng mga inaanak ko, 6 lang ang ka-close ko ang magulang...kaya sila lang binibilhan ko ng mga gift pag pasko at "special" talaga ang gift...
sadly, karamihan(hindi ko nilalahat ha) ng magulang ngayon eh masyado materialistic...minsan pakiramdam ko kaya ako kinukuha ninang kasi i work in a listed company & maganda ang pay na narereceive ko...minsan nga naiinis pa ako sa magulang kasi namimili ng ibibigay sa anak...there was this time na sa birthday ng isang inaanak ko eh, ang gusto ba naman ng magulang eh lechon ang iregalo, may mga ka-share naman daw ako kaya hindi na daw ganun kamahal...i got pissed off, sabi ko, hindi ako makakapunta...
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« Reply #14 on: April 30, 2010, 07:09:00 AM »
^^wow choosy ah. parang may patagong pera naman yun sis kapal..
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« Reply #15 on: April 30, 2010, 08:04:59 AM »
ok nman sa akin maging choosy ng konti...basta yung nasa lugar sis...yung tipong, sabihin ng magulang..."pag bibili ka ng gift sa inaanak mo, pwede ba na gamit na lang kaysa toys?" or vice versa...wag lang i-obligate ng ganun  :(  kasi hindi naman ako nagwowork para buhayin ang mga inaanak ko...
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« Reply #16 on: April 30, 2010, 09:16:46 AM »
ganun talaga sila, yung mga hindi mo ka-close natural na pera ang habol nila sa atin, kainis!!! mga mukhang pera, ginawang negosyo ang anak nila!! ang kakapal!!!
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« Reply #17 on: April 30, 2010, 01:26:39 PM »
Ok lang mamili ng gifts pag close friend mo yung ninong/ninang. pero pag ganyan na basta ka na lang kinuha, it's really irritating diba? on my baby's baptism, im gonna ask the godparents for particular gifts, discreetly of course. and hinde idn naman yung mga tipong lechon or 'sagutin mo na yung ganto, ganyan'. pag ganon kase, napaka-obvious naman na they're getting you lang cus of money.
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« Reply #18 on: May 04, 2010, 09:55:19 AM »
Recently, my huby was asked to be ninong to 2 kids. Yung isa, anak of his former officemate in the Phils. whom we met again when we migrated abroad, no problem with that. The other one, anak ng former katrabaho namin here abroad. Nagulat kami when the later called and said that huby will be ninong to their kid. Huby was also admant to be ninong kasi nga hindi naman kami close. Sandaling panahon lang namin siya nakatrabaho. When I invited this former workmate pa nga sa binyag ng anak namin, hindi sya pumunta, no explanation whatsoever, although she said yes to the invitation naman.

Biniro ko pa nga sya, kasi she somehow hinted na marami naman daw ninong/ninang , so sabi ko, bakit mo naman naisipan kunin si huby ko.

Although syempre, kahit paano, honored si huby dahil napili sya ninong, pero somehow, hindi sya comfortable kasi nga parang casual friends lang naman. Naawa naman sya sa bata kung tatangi sya.

Now, sabay ang binyag ng 2 kids mentioned above, weeks or atleast 2mos before the actual binyag, friend1 from the Phils informed already. Friend2 informed us 2wks before the event, so we chose instead to go with the former.

This time, bday naman of the 2 kids, 2wks apart, we might not attend the party of friend2. Not bec. of anything else, parang hindi lang namin feel.

Kasi, when we had our kid baptized, pinili namin mabuti ang godparents. We only got family, relatives and very close friends. 3pairs lang nga eh. Kahit na nga may na meet na kami ibang tao thru work or yung pinakilala sa amin, wala kaming ibang kinuha as godparents.

I feel too, that minsan, pera-pera lang. These two families I mentioned here, ang daming godparents na kinuha. 6-10pairs yata eh, even more. I know its out my business din naman, pero sana lang, maging sensitive naman tayong mga parents when it comes to this issue. Hindi ba tayo nahihiya?
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Re: NINANG ng Bayan!
« Reply #19 on: May 12, 2010, 10:33:38 AM »
hindi ba talaga pwedeng tumanggi?
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