Away-Bati.. how normal is it?

[luisacart]

Okay, so sabi nila normal lang ito... but how normal is normal? everyday arguments about little things? is that normal? away na tumatagal ng days at ndi kau mag-uusap for a long time? define normal

[annie_barzaga]

ok [textspeak!], kung everyday you have arguments about little things, lalo na if you're in the stage of getting to know each other, pero at the end of the day you should be at peace when you go on your separate ways (means going home na)... not normal na yung away na tumatagal ng days na hindi ng uusap, dyan na lumalabas yung sinasabi natin na "pataasan ng ihi", in tagalog pataasan ng pride, walang love dun... kasi one way or the other, one should give way na magpakumbaba and say sorry...

[spacemonkey]

that me and my boyfriend. almost everyday.

we fight about the dumbest and most minor things, and i think we've "broken up" 5 times over the year... but it never lasts a day.

i don't know how other people feel about that, but to me, that feels normal, especially since we've been living together.

...but then again, sometimes i think we do that as an excuse for make-up sex.

[Black_Bear]

me and my gf lagi kami ganyan pero hindi sigawan
minor na problem hindi namin pinapalaki
dinadaan namin sa mabuting usapan
kung may problem isa sa amin, we agree na sabihin ang problem then iso solve namin together ang problems

i think communication is the key here...

[luisacart]

^ndi naman kami nag-away.. i don't think we've ever had a serious argument at all.. anti-confrontational kasi ako eh. i was just curious kasi ang kaaway nya is 'yung friend nya na girl. pareho kasi silang opinionated. ang topic nila is nigerian scams. sabi nung friend nya kasalanan daw ng na-iiscam kapag na-scam sila kasi hindi ginamit ang common sense tapos ang side nya naman ay walang kasalanan 'yung na-scam. basta it's a long story. it's just that nung umuwi kami parang dala-dala niya pa rin 'yung init ng ulo niya from their argument hanggang sa paghatid sa akin pauuwi. pareho silang nagmamatigasan ng friend niya, walang gustong mag-concede and just say sige na nga ikaw na ang tama w/c is something i would do just to keep the peace. it just made me wonder what if ako ang ka-argue nya?

[chrisann]

arguments over petty things are just normal as long as you resolve it right away. but when these small debates start to grow into big fights, especially if either of you is being unreasonable, and begin digging out issues of the past, then it's not good, regardless how often it happens.

open communication, compromise, trust and understanding are your best weapons to keep an argument "healthy".

[orangerain]

Siguro mas mabuti kung i-evaluate mo yung reasons niyo for fighting. Mamaya kaya nagiging daily na dahil may pinanghuhugutan. Sa tingin ko normal lang ang occasional fights, but daily fights are not good. There must be something deeper triggering such fights so you need to find out and resolve it before it becomes bigger and deeper.

[bongoko]

I think normal naman ang away-bati in a relationship. But guilty rin ako dito e, parang once a week kami ni bf magtampuhan. Basta remember na don't sleep na hindi pa kayo bati. Totoo [textspeak!] song ni Neyo "Girl I don't want to go to bed, mad at you." Kasi maiipon lang yung sama ng loob tapos baka mag lead sa breakup.

[aquacharly]

Normal lang ang away-bati script, even kids do that.

How do you know if normal level lang yang away-bati?
When it remains just a disagreement over something, not a wounding of each other.

[purple_tips]

^^ pero kung super galit sleep it off.. to cool down your temper lang. kasi pag hyper ka sa inis, baka [textspeak!]-ano masabi niyo na di niyo sinasadya, mas hurtful yun. minsan i say "let's talk again later pag di na sobra mainit ulo natin" or "bukas na lang ulit" hehe depends on you guys but for us mas effective kasi minsan ilang hours na kami naguusap di maayos kasi parehas kaming inis. tapos poof! minsan paggising wala ng inis, matinong usapan na, wala pang 5 minutes ok na.

[kittypowerranger]

that me and my boyfriend. almost everyday.

we fight about the dumbest and most minor things, and i think we've "broken up" 5 times over the year... but it never lasts a day.

i don't know how other people feel about that, but to me, that feels normal, especially since we've been living together.

...but then again, sometimes i think we do that as an excuse for make-up sex.

haha so true sis

[kimpot]

kami din, away - bati.. on and off..
dati, hindi kami natutulog ng may misunderstanding. pero lately, umaabot n hanggang umaga. un dati, im sure na normal lang. pero un ngayon, di ko na din alam.
nakakalungkot kasi ang dami na naming pinagdaanan.. almost 2 years na kami.

haizzz.. im so close to giving him up.. 

[kittypowerranger]

^ tama ka sis normal lang talaga yung magaway pero dapat walang physicalan

[twelvth_goddess]

Ok lang kung tamp-tampo lang but yung away talaga over petty things na paulit-ulit can seriously damage the relationship. I've learned to pick my battles

[kittypowerranger]

^ oo nga sis nakakadamage talaga yun ng relationship

[gilenn]

^ tama ka sis normal lang talaga yung magaway pero dapat walang physicalan

yup, syempre sis wala dapat physicalan and kahit murahan, that's physical and emotional abuse. been there, no plans of going back.

[chengkii]

Alam mo I read somewhere recently that it's ok to fight every day. Even every couple of hours...as long as..."You keep the fight clean & the sex dirty." I think iyun sabi daw ni Kevin Bacon.

[simplybeautiful]

i'm a confrontational, spoiled girlfriend. and my bf is the one of the most understanding and extremely patient that you will find. 90% ng away namin ako ang nagagalit. does any of you girls experience the same? i know mabaet talaga ako at hindi naman ako pala-away (comparing to past relationships) but when he became my bf...naging immature talaga ako. i don't grow up. alam ko kasi mahal na mahal niya ako... kaya kahit anung dakdak ko...tinatanggap niya. haay..

[roxybaby]

i agree to u sis. almost 90% na battles ko sa mga naging bf ko is ako ang galit.. bow!

[baliwsayo]

Away-bati din kami eh.. lagi pa ko nakikipag-break. Buti na lang boyfie ko ngayon hindi ako tinitikis unlike yun dati na ako pa mag-make ng move to patch up. Lalo ko pa tuloy nagiging love. Pansin ko pag mas lalo natin love, mas lalo pa tayong mga OA na mga girls. Wala lang.