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Re: Lesson learned after the breakup
« Reply #40 on: June 27, 2010, 07:12:15 AM »
i've learned na 1. Don't be friends with your ex - kasi based on my experience, there's no such thing, one of you will still hope na magkabalikan kayo kasi may isa sainyo na nagmamahal pa din sa isa. And parati ka lang masasaktan. So when you break up with someone, break everything pati connection.

2. History - you had your fun times with him, your moment kung baga, but that's history na. Wag ng ibalik, and if nalaman mong may mahal na siyang iba, kahit affected ka kahit onti learn to accept na hindi na siya sayo. The thing between the two of you is over.. So try not to be bitter kasi ikaw lang ang talo.

3. Distroying memories like pictures and donating his gifts helped me move on...wala ng remembrance...

Painful talaga after ng break up lalo na if ikaw yung sobrang nagmahal...kaya be strong and stand again.. Ask God for guidance..

wow sis thanks for wonderful words of wisdom hehe more than 1 week na kami break ng bf ko. yang mga sinabi mo yan ang goal kung gawin. may jersey shirt sya give saken na may name nya pano un? xmpre di un pwde idonate di ba. basta i'll stand up again .

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Re: Lesson learned after the breakup
« Reply #41 on: June 27, 2010, 10:18:22 AM »
for me after the breakup, better to think about his flaws, concentrate lang dun, mga bad memories, mga sakit at kunsumisyon na dinulot sayo, and then realize na walang future talaga considering those things. if we always remember the good times, maghapon magdamag lang na kurot sa dibdib mafefeel tapos iyak iyak shortness of breath and all the drama.
kung wala naman bad memories, e di isipin na lang na, what's the use of holding on to someone na di naman part ng future naten, e di hayaan na lang ganun talaga.

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Re: Lesson learned after the breakup
« Reply #42 on: June 28, 2010, 08:40:55 PM »
for me after the breakup, better to think about his flaws, concentrate lang dun, mga bad memories, mga sakit at kunsumisyon na dinulot sayo, and then realize na walang future talaga considering those things. if we always remember the good times, maghapon magdamag lang na kurot sa dibdib mafefeel tapos iyak iyak shortness of breath and all the drama.
kung wala naman bad memories, e di isipin na lang na, what's the use of holding on to someone na di naman part ng future naten, e di hayaan na lang ganun talaga.

alam mo sis yan rin iniisip ko e [textspeak!] mga sakit sa ulo na dulot nya kaso di rin ako matahimik kasi di ko naipamukha sa kanya mga yon!ahahahaha kaso habang nalipas mga araw ayon lumalambot puso ko pero dinidisiplina ko sarili ko na wag silipin profile nya sa fb [textspeak!] fs nya di ko open kung andun pa album namin etc. kasi mahirap makamove on kung di ko tatantanan mga ganun e. kahit kating kati na daliri ko para silipin hehe

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Re: Lesson learned after the breakup
« Reply #43 on: July 03, 2010, 08:11:13 PM »
I think sis part ng moving on yun, yung anger at first then a few days weeks after lalambot ka na, kaso ang pigilan mo yung isipin yung "siguro kung ituloy namen magbabago pa sya, masaya sana kame etc etc" kase nakupo, ang tindi ng kurot nyan sa dibdib. ang hirap itulog.
ako super galit sa ex ko, as in tumanda ako ng 10 years, nangulubot sa kunsumisyon, i won't even be surprised kung magpatingin ako e may malalang sakit na pala ako all caused by extreme stress.
kung ipapamukha mo ba sa kanya yung mga maling ginawa nya, will it benefit you? hayaan mo na lang, kase holding on to someone na maiiwan mo in your life's journey e dapat na lang iwanan to tend to their own lives...
im now at a stage na iniisip ko na mabuti naman syang tao. yun na lang. God's plans will be revealed in His own time, at dun ako naghohold on.
sarap kaya ng feeling na may nagaadmire na bago, flirting stage ulet, remember the feeling you had when you were still flirting with your ex, feeling lang ha, not with him. diba sarap ulet mafeel, kase pag tagal mo na bf di na ganun yung thrill and excitement diba..
and if in the end, kayo pa din pala, then it will be a pleasant surprise for sure, coz after all the pains he had caused im sure you'd still wanna be with him "if the time is right and for all the right reasons".
i'm open for reconciliation naman, as long as it is God's blessing.


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Re: Lesson learned after the breakup
« Reply #44 on: July 04, 2010, 08:05:42 AM »
I think sis part ng moving on yun, yung anger at first then a few days weeks after lalambot ka na, kaso ang pigilan mo yung isipin yung "siguro kung ituloy namen magbabago pa sya, masaya sana kame etc etc" kase nakupo, ang tindi ng kurot nyan sa dibdib. ang hirap itulog.
ako super galit sa ex ko, as in tumanda ako ng 10 years, nangulubot sa kunsumisyon, i won't even be surprised kung magpatingin ako e may malalang sakit na pala ako all caused by extreme stress.
kung ipapamukha mo ba sa kanya yung mga maling ginawa nya, will it benefit you? hayaan mo na lang, kase holding on to someone na maiiwan mo in your life's journey e dapat na lang iwanan to tend to their own lives...
im now at a stage na iniisip ko na mabuti naman syang tao. yun na lang. God's plans will be revealed in His own time, at dun ako naghohold on.
sarap kaya ng feeling na may nagaadmire na bago, flirting stage ulet, remember the feeling you had when you were still flirting with your ex, feeling lang ha, not with him. diba sarap ulet mafeel, kase pag tagal mo na bf di na ganun yung thrill and excitement diba..
and if in the end, kayo pa din pala, then it will be a pleasant surprise for sure, coz after all the pains he had caused im sure you'd still wanna be with him "if the time is right and for all the right reasons".
i'm open for reconciliation naman, as long as it is God's blessing.

sis nung pumunta ako s akanila di ko makaya magalit. kasi pag natingin ako sa maamo nyang mukha  ;D pati mapupungay na mata ayon nanlalambot ako ::) kaso di maiitago that time [textspeak!] agony na nararamdaman ko na kita naman nya. like you sinabi ko rin naman na he's a good person naman, siya lage nagpapakumbaba kaso naisip ko di lang yon ang mahalaga apra tumibay ang relasyon need talaga [textspeak!] may attitude. you know right now may liitle hope ako na kami sana sa future pa rin. kaso pag naiisip ko [textspeak!] flaws nya then [textspeak!] mga hindi ko nasabi ayon di ako matahimik. >:( kahit sabihin ko na "god help me po" nasisira talaga araw ko. hard habit to break ika nga... haysss  :'(

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Re: Lesson learned after the breakup
« Reply #45 on: July 04, 2010, 09:15:57 AM »
lage naman ganun may hope mga babae na magiging sila pa din ng ex...
kung ang breakup nyo e about flaws lang ni guy, at hindi 3rd party sa part nya, pwede pa maayos yun, pwede mo naman sabihin sa kanya in a nice way yung mga panget nya na ugali pag nagusap kayo ulit (na sya ang nag inititate). ako ganun sa ex ko, e dahil lage na lang ginagawa ang bad habits, I ended up nagging him all the time, sumbatera nga ako e
pero he would always come back, I must have done something right after all, kaso the issues we had were more than flaws, 3rd parties na ang sangkot..
remember absence makes the heart grow fonder, so wag ka na magparamdam sa kanya, coz no matter how long you've been separated, kung ikaw talaga ang mahal nya, he'll come back, di mo kelangang tulungan sya to realize that by always making your presence felt.
just stop communicating, just be there na lang to see if he ever comes back or changes for the better, so don't change your number etc etc, unless you totally want to get rid of him in a yucky way as in you super despise him to the core, then by all means maglaho ka na sa buhay nya.
if he doesnt come back, lunukin mo na lang lungkot mo, umiyak ka hanggang tumanda ka pa ng another 10 years, coz that's the end of it.
mabuti ng umiyak ka na may katapusang timeframe, kesa umiyak ka for the rest of your life na kasama sya with a miserable life.

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Re: Lesson learned after the breakup
« Reply #46 on: July 04, 2010, 11:52:25 AM »
lage naman ganun may hope mga babae na magiging sila pa din ng ex...
kung ang breakup nyo e about flaws lang ni guy, at hindi 3rd party sa part nya, pwede pa maayos yun, pwede mo naman sabihin sa kanya in a nice way yung mga panget nya na ugali pag nagusap kayo ulit (na sya ang nag inititate). ako ganun sa ex ko, e dahil lage na lang ginagawa ang bad habits, I ended up nagging him all the time, sumbatera nga ako e
pero he would always come back, I must have done something right after all, kaso the issues we had were more than flaws, 3rd parties na ang sangkot..
remember absence makes the heart grow fonder, so wag ka na magparamdam sa kanya, coz no matter how long you've been separated, kung ikaw talaga ang mahal nya, he'll come back, di mo kelangang tulungan sya to realize that by always making your presence felt.
just stop communicating, just be there na lang to see if he ever comes back or changes for the better, so don't change your number etc etc, unless you totally want to get rid of him in a yucky way as in you super despise him to the core, then by all means maglaho ka na sa buhay nya.
if he doesnt come back, lunukin mo na lang lungkot mo, umiyak ka hanggang tumanda ka pa ng another 10 years, coz that's the end of it.
mabuti ng umiyak ka na may katapusang timeframe, kesa umiyak ka for the rest of your life na kasama sya with a miserable life.

sis un saken di ko na iintayin na may 3rd party. mata ng ex ko kasi e hyper. sala sa init sala sa lamig attitude nya in short di nya alam kung ano ba talaga gusto nya sa buhay pati sa relasyon hindi nya alam it affects too much pati ako. emotional and mental abuse na ang nanyayare saken sa pagtry na pag intindi s akanya kaso panu ako makikipag fully commit o settle in future kung irresponsible [textspeak!] guy. sa una magsosorry den pag kaharap muna ako ang sisisihin.

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Re: Lesson learned after the breakup
« Reply #47 on: July 04, 2010, 12:09:40 PM »
yaiks, medyo malala yan, I once had an irresponsible bf, mas madali sakin pakawalan kase practical ako e.
find a guy na stable, may ambition, goal getter, pero relationship material pa din.
masasabi ko lang e.. mahirap mag bf ng irresponsible..
not to offend or sorry in advance, ang naiisip ko kase pag irresponsible ang guy, yung tipong pag lumabas e babae lahat gumagastos. babae naghahanap ng work for the guy. babae gumigising sa lalake by ringing his cell para di malate sa work. babae nagpapasa load.
general thinking naman yun sis (or dinedescribe ko lang asawa ng kumare ko), sana hindi naman ganyan sitwasyon nyo. remember mo na lang sis, ngayon pa lang miserable ka na, how will it get better kung wala sa atittude nya maging responsible.
So lesson mo to be learned, let go of stressors.

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Re: Lesson learned after the breakup
« Reply #48 on: July 04, 2010, 03:20:02 PM »
yaiks, medyo malala yan, I once had an irresponsible bf, mas madali sakin pakawalan kase practical ako e.
find a guy na stable, may ambition, goal getter, pero relationship material pa din.
masasabi ko lang e.. mahirap mag bf ng irresponsible..
not to offend or sorry in advance, ang naiisip ko kase pag irresponsible ang guy, yung tipong pag lumabas e babae lahat gumagastos. babae naghahanap ng work for the guy. babae gumigising sa lalake by ringing his cell para di malate sa work. babae nagpapasa load.
general thinking naman yun sis (or dinedescribe ko lang asawa ng kumare ko), sana hindi naman ganyan sitwasyon nyo. remember mo na lang sis, ngayon pa lang miserable ka na, how will it get better kung wala sa atittude nya maging responsible.
So lesson mo to be learned, let go of stressors.

ako nagastos nung naging kami porke alam nyang pinapadalhan ako ng papa ko ng allowance. ka turn off one time nung nasa bus kami den naglabas lang ako ng pamasahe na para lang saken sabi nya agad e >>> e [textspeak!] saken asan??? kapal! pati sa jeep, tricycle ako nabayad. ang akin lang naman pag pupunta ako sa kanila o dito samen sana paghandaan man lang nya. ldr kasi kami, walang ka effort effort e. nung huli nga nakipagtalo na ako kasi gusto sumama pag uwi saken e sabi ko talaga wala na ako pera para sa pamasahe mo. dun ata medyo napahiya siya nagbayad ng kanya pati sa tricycle kaso intro boy un e. sayang kagwapuhan nya kung walang hiya naman.

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Re: Lesson learned after the breakup
« Reply #49 on: July 04, 2010, 03:49:02 PM »
ngek wala na ko masasabi sister... breakin mo na... wag ka manghinayang sa gwapo, ex ko din gwapo, pag naiisip ko mukha nya haay may kilig ako na ewan pa din somehow, pero the rest? naku po, as in allergy na, kayang kaya pakawalan talaga

wala na yan sis... sorry ha, pero eeeeew...

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Re: Lesson learned after the breakup
« Reply #50 on: July 04, 2010, 04:04:11 PM »
ako nagastos nung naging kami porke alam nyang pinapadalhan ako ng papa ko ng allowance. ka turn off one time nung nasa bus kami den naglabas lang ako ng pamasahe na para lang saken sabi nya agad e >>> e [textspeak!] saken asan??? kapal! pati sa jeep, tricycle ako nabayad. ang akin lang naman pag pupunta ako sa kanila o dito samen sana paghandaan man lang nya. ldr kasi kami, walang ka effort effort e. nung huli nga nakipagtalo na ako kasi gusto sumama pag uwi saken e sabi ko talaga wala na ako pera para sa pamasahe mo. dun ata medyo napahiya siya nagbayad ng kanya pati sa tricycle kaso intro boy un e. sayang kagwapuhan nya kung walang hiya naman.

shocks sis nakarelate ako. LDR din kami at ako taga gastos, kasi pinapadalahan din ako ng allowance. kahit kapag pupunta siya samin bibigyan ko siya ng pamasahe pabalik, pang date, etc ako taga gastos. Minsan ako din nagloload sakanya. student pa lang ako and i get evrything from my allowance. Extra money ko naman yun pang gastos ko sakanya kaya hindi rin ako nasshort. Ang sakin lang, effort naman na magipon diba? kahit ba sabihin natin na nageeffort siya lumuwas dito sa manila, e hello ako naman gastosmula sa pamasahe nya paglabas ng bahay niya. Gwapo din siya sis. Haay. minsan nga nasusumbat ko na sakanya pag magkaaway kami yung gastos ko at nasasabi ko hanap ka ng bagong sponsor mo. I know mali yun kasi bukal naman sa loob ko yun pag gastos kasi gusto ko din siya makasama pero yung nakikita at alam ko na may pera siya pero ayaw niya lang talaga magipon. kapal muka diba.

dapat naba itigil pag ganun?

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Re: Lesson learned after the breakup
« Reply #51 on: July 04, 2010, 04:29:05 PM »
hahaha sis medyo nakarelate naman ako sayo na nanunumbat na sa gastos, hmmm.. mukhang may trend... pag gwapo ata medyo may financial issues... di ko nilalahat ha..
nakakasama ng loob kase alam mong may pera pero yung pera mo gagastusin. same same...
dapat na ba itigil? oo naman! hehe
kelan ka pa nyan gagastusan sis

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Re: Lesson learned after the breakup
« Reply #52 on: July 04, 2010, 04:35:19 PM »
Oo di nga lahat ng gwapo may financial issues :)
actually di naman siya financial issues talaga, ayaw niya lang siguro gumastos talaga. hehe nakakpikon nga kasi ang dami niya pang gas kapag may lakad sila ng friends niya tapos pangload wala.

guys talaga oh sa una paimpress todo gastos satin tapos pag tagal nababaliktad na, tayo na gagastos.

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Re: Lesson learned after the breakup
« Reply #53 on: July 04, 2010, 04:38:59 PM »
ngek wala na ko masasabi sister... breakin mo na... wag ka manghinayang sa gwapo, ex ko din gwapo, pag naiisip ko mukha nya haay may kilig ako na ewan pa din somehow, pero the rest? naku po, as in allergy na, kayang kaya pakawalan talaga

wala na yan sis... sorry ha, pero eeeeew...

break ko na sya sis may 2 weeks na kami wala. wag ko lang siya makikita ulit with matching pungay mata paktay tayo dun ahahahha

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Re: Lesson learned after the breakup
« Reply #54 on: July 04, 2010, 04:45:45 PM »
shocks sis nakarelate ako. LDR din kami at ako taga gastos, kasi pinapadalahan din ako ng allowance. kahit kapag pupunta siya samin bibigyan ko siya ng pamasahe pabalik, pang date, etc ako taga gastos. Minsan ako din nagloload sakanya. student pa lang ako and i get evrything from my allowance. Extra money ko naman yun pang gastos ko sakanya kaya hindi rin ako nasshort. Ang sakin lang, effort naman na magipon diba? kahit ba sabihin natin na nageeffort siya lumuwas dito sa manila, e hello ako naman gastosmula sa pamasahe nya paglabas ng bahay niya. Gwapo din siya sis. Haay. minsan nga nasusumbat ko na sakanya pag magkaaway kami yung gastos ko at nasasabi ko hanap ka ng bagong sponsor mo. I know mali yun kasi bukal naman sa loob ko yun pag gastos kasi gusto ko din siya makasama pero yung nakikita at alam ko na may pera siya pero ayaw niya lang talaga magipon. kapal muka diba.

dapat naba itigil pag ganun?

[textspeak!] saken nung kami pa after nung nag silent type ako kahit di ko pinamukha ayon nahiya siya. nung sinasabi kung wala ako pera kaya limit na [textspeak!] pagpunta ko sa kanila binigyan ako ng 100 sinosoli ko ayaw tanggapin. den nung last kung punta sa kanila nung brineak ko siya binibigyan ako ng pera pampasahe ewan ko lang kung seryoso siya e bad mood na ako that time. ang ginawa ko kinukuha ko pera sa kanya pero di ibigay pero nakuha ko..after nun tinapon ko sa mukha niya  ;D inis ang loko kinurit ako. sis saken kasi iniisip ko [textspeak!] future. i asked always baka ako pa ang bumuhay sa kanya lalo nat tamaritis siya. he is still student at age of 25 nagbalik school kasi. e ang tamad niya, walang disiplina sa time etc. syempre may dream wedding naman ako kahit paano. nung huli araw araw nag eecho saken [textspeak!] " you deserve to be happy girl..let him go... he put too much emotion on you..."

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Re: Lesson learned after the breakup
« Reply #55 on: July 04, 2010, 04:47:29 PM »
ay onga pala break na kayo haha sensya naman
isipin mo na lang, bata ka pa para maging sugar mommy no.
nood ka na lang ng sex and the city series, ako lage pag may breakup, nood ako nyan, kahit paulit ulit, baka makadagdag for you to realize na wag na dapat balikan ex mo.

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Re: Lesson learned after the breakup
« Reply #56 on: July 04, 2010, 04:49:26 PM »
Oo di nga lahat ng gwapo may financial issues :)
actually di naman siya financial issues talaga, ayaw niya lang siguro gumastos talaga. hehe nakakpikon nga kasi ang dami niya pang gas kapag may lakad sila ng friends niya tapos pangload wala.

guys talaga oh sa una paimpress todo gastos satin tapos pag tagal nababaliktad na, tayo na gagastos.

[textspeak!] saken nasumbat ko ata [textspeak!] " sa pang basketball na pang taya may pera ka pero sa pagpapaload  agad nawawalan ka" naku katurn off naman kung girls pa ang galante di ba? ano gusto niya mangyari balang araw ako na nga ilaw ng tahanan ako pa rin padre de pamilya?  ::)

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Re: Lesson learned after the breakup
« Reply #57 on: July 05, 2010, 03:17:02 AM »
Huwag makipagbalikan kay X... :P
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Re: Lesson learned after the breakup
« Reply #58 on: July 05, 2010, 04:10:46 PM »
forgive and dump.
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Re: Lesson learned after the breakup
« Reply #59 on: July 09, 2010, 06:33:29 PM »
Just don't give everything. Magtira ka para sa sarili mo.
And don't ever beg.

 

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