Author Topic: Lesson learned after the breakup (Read 50778 times)

Foodict · « **Reply #280 on:** May 29, 2012, 12:11:38 am »

Biggest lesson so far:

One reason why it's hard to move on is FEAR. We fear that we will never be as happy as we were in the relationship that ended. We fear that we wont have anyone to care for us in the future. We fear that we dont deserve to be happy.

The worst thing about fear is that it can cause us to act in desperation. Acts that can permanently destroy any chance for proper closure or even reconciliation.

Courage isnt the lack of fear, its doing the right thing in the presence of fear.

angelita · « **Reply #281 on:** May 29, 2012, 08:32:21 am »

Letting go could also be the best decision not just for you but for the person you love.

blackgreen · « **Reply #282 on:** May 29, 2012, 10:49:30 am »

^i agree with you sis! sometimes what's best for them is painful for us.

hisana · « **Reply #283 on:** May 29, 2012, 10:08:25 pm »

Na hindi naman end of the world after a breakup. Kailangan lang ng lakas ng loob; see it as just one bump on the road.

(this, from a long-term relationship)

dumpee.o13 · « **Reply #284 on:** May 30, 2012, 02:00:33 am »

Quote from: hisana on May 29, 2012, 10:08:25 pm

Na hindi naman end of the world after a breakup. Kailangan lang ng lakas ng loob; see it as just one bump on the road.

(this, from a long-term relationship)

^ right. everything happens for the best reason. and i know that God has a better plan for me.

angelita · « **Reply #285 on:** May 30, 2012, 08:18:44 am »

After the break up, it will be a roller coaster of emotions. Sometimes you think you're ok sometimes you're not. But you'll know eventually when you have finally bounced back.

cosmochick · « **Reply #286 on:** June 09, 2012, 09:50:29 pm »

that it will all get better in time...!

treasure · « **Reply #287 on:** June 17, 2012, 09:42:44 pm »

My bf suddenly disappeared and stopped communicating a week before my bday. I was so confuse and hurt because I thought he was making ways to save our rocky relationship. Yes, there were lots of questions, all WHYs. At first, I really wanted answers. I think it was so unfair of him to just dumped me without any signs or notice, or so i thought. Signs are everywhere pala. He has lots of excuses everytime we meet up,kesyo gnon,kesyo ganyan.Twice cia hindi ngpunta sa usapan namen,the last was when he suddenly cut communication with me. Hindi pa nagsink in sken ang ginawa nia not until Monday (Friday sna kme magkikita) Inayos ko sarili ko that Monday. I decided to cry. I gave myself sometime to grieve and feel the pain of what he did. Then, I cleared my mind. I have decided to move on gracefully,with pride and dignity. Yes, I am still hurting pro I saw the positive side of what he did. I have accepted the fact na hindi na cia babalik at iniwan nia na ako. I know,kapag nakakita cia ng pagkakataon, he will say sorry for what he did. I prayed hard to the Lord, and true,prayers can move mountains.Hindi ko masasabing masaya na ako now because it's so fresh. I am still sad, pero hindi ko ipipilit ang sarili ko sa isang taong ayaw na sa akin.I have to love myself first before others can love me.Pag ngkita kame, I know wala cia isusumbat sa akin. I respected his decision when he closed the chapter of his life with me. There are no regrets, only fond memories and laughter. Someday, you will realized why it didn't work out for the two of you. kase,may ibang guy na magpapasaya pa sayo. and i know that someday, tuturuan ako ni Lord ulet magmahal sa tamang tao, tamang panahon,tamang pagkakataon. I always pray to the Lord to give me a forgiving heart, deeper understanding and so much humility. Someday,pg ngkita kame, I know in my heart,he will say sorry. I am still sad and grieving, but my heart and mind is determined to move on.Life is beautiful.There is still life after a broken relationship...

tsutsat · « **Reply #288 on:** June 17, 2012, 10:04:48 pm »

to be excited about who's next because the former sucks! (even though it really hurts! ugh

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spitfire · « **Reply #289 on:** June 18, 2012, 08:48:19 am »

There is no other way but to move on and forget.. no looking back!

angelita · « **Reply #290 on:** June 18, 2012, 09:39:51 am »

We need to be heartbroken to grow.

yssayjayla · « **Reply #291 on:** June 18, 2012, 09:42:51 am »

Quote from: treasure on June 17, 2012, 09:42:44 pm

My bf suddenly disappeared and stopped communicating a week before my bday. I was so confuse and hurt because I thought he was making ways to save our rocky relationship. Yes, there were lots of questions, all WHYs. At first, I really wanted answers. I think it was so unfair of him to just dumped me without any signs or notice, or so i thought. Signs are everywhere pala. He has lots of excuses everytime we meet up,kesyo gnon,kesyo ganyan.Twice cia hindi ngpunta sa usapan namen,the last was when he suddenly cut communication with me. Hindi pa nagsink in sken ang ginawa nia not until Monday (Friday sna kme magkikita) Inayos ko sarili ko that Monday. I decided to cry. I gave myself sometime to grieve and feel the pain of what he did. Then, I cleared my mind. I have decided to move on gracefully,with pride and dignity. Yes, I am still hurting pro I saw the positive side of what he did. I have accepted the fact na hindi na cia babalik at iniwan nia na ako. I know,kapag nakakita cia ng pagkakataon, he will say sorry for what he did. I prayed hard to the Lord, and true,prayers can move mountains.Hindi ko masasabing masaya na ako now because it's so fresh. I am still sad, pero hindi ko ipipilit ang sarili ko sa isang taong ayaw na sa akin.I have to love myself first before others can love me.Pag ngkita kame, I know wala cia isusumbat sa akin. I respected his decision when he closed the chapter of his life with me. There are no regrets, only fond memories and laughter. Someday, you will realized why it didn't work out for the two of you. kase,may ibang guy na magpapasaya pa sayo. and i know that someday, tuturuan ako ni Lord ulet magmahal sa tamang tao, tamang panahon,tamang pagkakataon. I always pray to the Lord to give me a forgiving heart, deeper understanding and so much humility. Someday,pg ngkita kame, I know in my heart,he will say sorry. I am still sad and grieving, but my heart and mind is determined to move on.Life is beautiful.There is still life after a broken relationship...

treasure --- i like what you said. prayers talaga di ba.

treasure · « **Reply #292 on:** June 18, 2012, 12:28:31 pm »

hello.i am new here and i can't send personal message/reply on my account.thanks po sa mga messages. i only have one choice when he dumped me--that is to move on and get a life of my own. i know he has his personal reason.hindi nko naghahanap ng sagot for now,baka lalo ako masaktan. past na un, i dont look back to it anymore.it was a learning experience. learn to grieve and move on. life is short, don't make it shorter. we all deserve to be happy and find that someone who'll make us happy as well.pls pls pls,love yourself more than anything else. pag feeling nio iniwan kyo or inaapi or nsasaktan, it would not happen lest you allow it. if you feel some negavibes, pray [textspeak!],pray hard,hardest maybe. God is so good. He wont desert us.if iniwan na tyo ng lahat, ang Dyos laging nsa tabi naten. ask help kay God but at the same time help yourself na mging ok din

phoebe1811 · « **Reply #293 on:** June 29, 2012, 05:34:35 am »

-some relationships are temporary
-don't lose yourself while in a relationship.find time to have a "me" time.
-have a separate group of friends.
-hindi pala siya ganon ka yummy! hahaha LoL
-dami pa pala guys out there hahaha

lonelymiss28 · « **Reply #294 on:** June 29, 2012, 06:13:46 am »

treasure: we have the same story, ganyang-ganyan din ang ginawa ng ex ko sa akin 11 years ago. and like you pinaubaya ko na lang din sa Diyos ang lahat...and you know what

after I met my husband saka ko lang nalaman ang reason kung bakit ginawa sa akin ng bf ko yun....because we are not meant to be and God has more special plans for me and that is to be with someone who will make me his queen.

gridiron babe · « **Reply #295 on:** July 04, 2012, 01:14:10 pm »

life goes on... for you, for him, and for everybody else.

manang02 · « **Reply #296 on:** July 04, 2012, 03:49:43 pm »

the difference between LOVE and COMMITMENT.

He loves me and eagerly wanted to marry me, but he broke his commitment by cheating on me while we are engaged.

I love him but could no longer commit myself after what he has done.

Nakakahinayang ang 8 years.

The Vow · « **Reply #297 on:** July 06, 2012, 03:50:42 pm »

I learned to have a self respect and high esteem, widom and some virtues... But I learned the hard way!

treasure · « **Reply #298 on:** July 06, 2012, 09:29:35 pm »

Quote from: lonelymiss28 on June 29, 2012, 06:13:46 am

treasure: we have the same story, ganyang-ganyan din ang ginawa ng ex ko sa akin 11 years ago. and like you pinaubaya ko na lang din sa Diyos ang lahat...and you know what after I met my husband saka ko lang nalaman ang reason kung bakit ginawa sa akin ng bf ko yun....because we are not meant to be and God has more special plans for me and that is to be with someone who will make me his queen.

hello! there are times i feel so sad and hurt pa din, but i would not allow him to hurt me again.tama ka, someday and in God's perfect time, the right guy will come din for me.

nicoletta · « **Reply #299 on:** July 17, 2012, 08:55:49 pm »

In my case, I learned that friendship outside the relationship is important. When you break up with your boyfriend, who else can you turn to but your friends.

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