Author Topic: Child Support Thread (Read 18836 times)

crazylove · « **Reply #100 on:** June 01, 2012, 10:42:26 am »

Quote from: gorgeousmama on January 05, 2011, 12:36:21 am

first and foremost sis it depends on the capacity of your husband, the court will decide depending on the father's income AND HIS FINANCIAL CAPABILITY and the needs of the child..

it will depends on the father if he is willing, but UNDER the law me limit

^^tama ka sis, ang alam ko may limit nga siya..tinago ko yung nabasa ko na column at papakita ko sana sa sister ko..kilalang atty. yung nagsulat doon, di ko na po babanggitin baka po bawal..

dyeniramos · « **Reply #101 on:** June 23, 2012, 03:22:56 pm »

Quote from: kikaygimikera on February 05, 2010, 07:56:17 am

êmailed you sis.

Hi! pa join sa topic. I too have problems regarding child support. Can you also help me by emailing me a sample. Really appreciate your help on this sis.

thanks.

lilibethcat · « **Reply #102 on:** July 05, 2012, 12:57:40 pm »

Hi Sisses, nagfile din ako ng for child support. Pero nagbigay sya ng power of attorney sa abogado nya para he does not have to appear or be cross-examined. Im asking for half of his salary pero he wants to lower the amount. Tapos ako ngayon ang gusto i-cross examine ng abogado nya in 2 weeks. Kabwisit!!! Wala sya dito ngayon, nagbabakasyon kasama ng kalukadidang nya sa ibang bansa, ang kapal talaga ng mukha! Naiiyak ako minsan bakit ba ang malas ko naman sa napangasawa ko. Feeling ko pinapatagal nya process until he gets the chance to leave the country for good eh. Pwede ba ipa-hold order sya para di na makalabas next time?

chinie · « **Reply #103 on:** July 13, 2012, 05:13:48 am »

Hi Sisses! My brother's case is different. He is already separated from his wife and they have a daughter. Not legally separated though but they were not living together for 2 years na. He continues to support the child. He buys milk and diapers every payday to last for 2 weeks. Inaabot nya dun sa nanay. Walang palya. Ang nakakainis dito hindi naman pinapahiram sa kanya yung bata. HIndi nya nailalabas man lang. Andaming kundisyon kesyo dapat kasama sya eh hindi naman sila sabay nga restday. Gusto ng brother ko kahit man lang weekend eh makasama naman nya yung bata kahit once a week lang. Tapos nagyon mas sobra makademand kulang daw yung binibigay eh hindi rin naman malaki sweldo ng brother ko sakto lang and he's renting on his own so sakto lang talaga. 50/50 din sila sa tuition. My brother sends na lang the money thru wire transfer kasi ayaw nya makita pagmumuka nung nanay since ayaw naman ipakita yung anak nya. Ngayon nagsend pa daw sya ng demand letter, yung kapatid ko naman nakikipagmatigasan na din kasi bakit sya magbibigay eh ayaw naman ipahiram sa kanya. Sobrang nakakainis kasi kami gusto din namin makita pamangkin namin pero hindi pwede. Ang kapal! Sorry ha pero sobrang kapal talaga..I noticed puro side ng mothers andito pero ano ba dapat gawin dito? Sobrang unfair kasi. Hindi naman nagkukulang sa sustento. Tapos eto pa nalaman namin na andami nakaplano na bakasyon neto ni ate so kaya siguro para wala na syang gastusin sa anak nila. Kung makapagsabi sya ng gastos parang hindi nya anak yung pinapakain nya. Ok lang namin samin na samin na lang yung bata. Ano ba pwede ifile or para magkaron sila ng compromise. Ang lakas kasi ng loob nya kasi nasa kanya yung bata. Help naman mga sis..

L.B. · « **Reply #104 on:** July 19, 2012, 12:20:07 pm »

^ aww! bakit ganyan naman yung gurl, rights naman ng father na makita ang anak kahit na hiwalay na sila. bakit niya ipagdadamot since nagbibigay naman bro mo, unfair nga yun!
^dapat mag-usap sila nung gurl kung pano set-up nila sa bata, or pwede rin siguro na gawa sila ng agreement. kung ayaw talaga ng gurl, abay kuha ng kayo ng legal adviser/ attorney kaya.

chinie · « **Reply #105 on:** July 20, 2012, 12:55:39 am »

^feeling ko kasi hindi pa sya nakakamove on..me girlfriend na kasi yung kapatid ko now..yun ang ginagamit nya para makaganti siguro..gusto na lang ng kapatid ko maging maayos sila para sa bata pero hindi na ata talaga magkakabalikan. Mga bata pa kasi tong mga to, masyado lang nagpadalos dalos

. Yung girl pa nagfile ng demand parang hindi nagsusutento. Question is pwede bang mabago yung mga nakalagay dun para maging fair naman? Nakalagay kasi dun puro kundisyon nung girl.

chiqmom · « **Reply #106 on:** July 20, 2012, 09:43:52 am »

^that's just her demand, now its up to your brother na linisin sarili nya from all the accusations.

Sis, I have to be honest here, I understand the case of the wife because that's exactly my demands too. I hate to differ pero siguro you can also use my opinion to understand where the girl is coming from. Peace.

Like the wife, my first demand was for the father not to be able to go out with the kids without my presence. Why? Because when umalis sya sa buhay namin, and when he decided to flirt with other girls, I was the one who stood strong for the kids. I was the one who pretended that life was still beautiful despite the aches that their father was giving. I was the one who had to protect the kids from other people's talkings like "yung dad nila nakita ko may kasama iba". I had to explain the painful truth in the most subtle ways just for the kids to still remain positive about life, about their father.

And when umalis sya, the kids' life started to revolve around me. Ako lahat from simple everyday events to family day sa school. Tapos all of a sudden just because gusto na ng dad umeksena, magbabago lahat yung usual routine namin? No. Hindi sa ayaw ko maging part sya ng life namin because the truth is, I begged too many times for him to at least spare some time with the kids but he was too busy flirting around. So if he wants to be really a dad to his kids, ang sakin lang, take it slowly. Sasama muna ako during the first few meetings para maging at ease naman yung bata. My condition was not to bring the kids sa bahay nila until the time na close na sila ulit as a father. This way, hindi masschock yung bata.

I hope maayos na ng brother mo ang problem. Its about compromise lang naman. Nagkasundo kami ng husband ko sa ganung setup and I like to believe we're ok now. He's now part of the kids' life, more than before. And I must agree, kelangan sa magasawa may legal intervention para yung mga conflicts maayos. Nung una I thought magaaway lang kami but through legal arrangement, naging friends ulit ki. Good luck.

jenybasti · « **Reply #107 on:** July 21, 2012, 02:36:28 am »

ibang usapan din kasi pag nagloko yung lalaki dba..

Marshmallow · « **Reply #108 on:** July 24, 2012, 01:04:50 am »

Ask ko lang.. Ilan percent from sweldo ba dapat ibigay ng lalaki sa bata? Yun cousin ko kasi magpapa annull na sila tapos yun lalaki 12k lang bigay tapos pumapalya pa. Engr. si lalake sa magandang company.

chiqmom · « **Reply #109 on:** July 24, 2012, 08:36:06 am »

^sa settlement ang dapat daw is 70/30. 70 percent sa bata tapos 30 percent na lang matitira sa kanya. pero pumayag na ako sa 50/50. although i know pineke nya yung document about how much income nya.

jenybasti · « **Reply #110 on:** July 24, 2012, 02:02:02 pm »

nasa abroad yung tatay ng mga anak ko.gusto ko lang malaman kung anong legal action dapat kong gawin pag di sya nagpadala??

Marshmallow · « **Reply #111 on:** July 24, 2012, 08:03:42 pm »

Chiqmom, thank you. Sabihan ko cousin ko about that. Hindi pa naman sila nag start sa annullment. kasi ang lalaki gusto makipaghiwalay. Yun cousin ko nasa Singapore.

pinklilac · « **Reply #112 on:** July 24, 2012, 09:19:55 pm »

Mga sis pano kung self employed lang si ex at walang fix income.dati kase parang diniscourage ako ng lawyer na kesyo di employed si lalake at wala proof of income kaya pede magdahilan na walang kita.
May ganito na bang sitwasyon sa inyo?

kikaygimikera · « **Reply #113 on:** July 25, 2012, 01:47:20 am »

Hi all! Can you recommend a lawyer re. my boyfriend's case?

Kasi naghiwalay sila ng ex girlfriend niya 4 years ago and he's been supporting his child naman. Pero sa tingin ko lang naman eh sobra sobra na? Kasi si BF yung nag papaaral (full tuition,books,uniform,miscellaneous, baon kada buwan) and sometimes the ex will text us asking for an amount of money na nakikita ko lang sa Facebook niya na she's using it for her gimmicks.

Sobrang mabait si BF kaya eto naman siya bigay. Katulad ng birthday, the ex wanted a bonggang birthday celebration but clearly they cannot afford it so shes asking BF for money.

Sa totoo lang, yung status ng girl, literal taga squatters area, pati ugali nya squatter din mga sis. Everytime magtetext yun asking for money, may kasamang mga mura "PuT@ naman magbigay ka naman ng pera sa anak mo." As if hindi kami nagbibigay ng pera sa kanya. Nakakasama ng loob. Nagagalit ako pero wala akong magawa.

Gusto ko nang gawing legal, matapos na to. My BFs monthly pay isnt enough for the money shes asking us. Ako palagi ang nasasabit. Im a single parent myself. I work and earn for my son kasi wala akong makuhang support sa dad niya. Hindi nako humingi ng child support kasi what the heck, sasakit lang ulo ko kakahingi, itatrabaho ko na lang.

Nagagalit ako, gusto ko na magkaron ng ending itong paghihingi niya. Nagbibigay naman kami pero clearly it isn't enough.

ivy u. · « **Reply #114 on:** July 25, 2012, 12:53:22 pm »

hi sis kikaygimikera,
buti nalang sis x-gf niya lang yun kung hindi mas malaki problema..
parang may nabasa ko somewhere na depende sa net ng bf mo kung magkano lang pwede ibigay sa child. hindi naman siguro pwedeng ipilit ang hindi naman kaya ng bf mo, lalo na kung minimum average lang sahod niya..
daanin niyo nalang sa legal process, tsaka kausapin niyo narin siguro yung X niya para tahimik nalang kayo pare-pareho..

kikaygimikera · « **Reply #115 on:** July 25, 2012, 05:12:37 pm »

Jojo2978: mag 7 years old po this August 4 yung bata. Can you elaborate please? Paanong custody case and sabit na yung support? Gusto ko sana legal na para wala nang kung ano tinatalak yung ex nya.

Ivy u.: oo sis. My bf is supporting a huge amount na hindi na nya kaya. Maliit kuno pero kung itototal mo malaki din. Ako [textspeak!] umaako. Mag gf and bf pa lang kami pero parang asawa lang ako na nagbibigay ng support. I don't know where to start.

Jojo2978 can u pm me for details.?I hope we can meet up.

ivy u. · « **Reply #116 on:** July 26, 2012, 12:14:45 pm »

^ aww! bakit naman ganun sis, abonado kapa. parang di naman yata tama.

share ko lang yung sa pinsan ko(2nd cousin), alam ko nanalo yung case niya about child custody, way back 2003 yata yun so medyo matagal narin. nga pala yung pinsan ko lalake at maganda rin naman yung work niya sa manila..

10 years old na yata yung bata that time..sabi kasi pag-under 7years old pababa sa nanay talaga ang custody pero pag over na sa 7 pwede na ilaban yung custody ng bata. nga pala hindi rin pala kasal yung 2, nabuntis niya nung college pa sila pareho..maayos naman sila nun, may sustento every month, sa school lahat sagot niya. but then, parang hindi daw kuntento si girl. siguro naburyung na si pinsan sa kulit nung babae, nagfile na lang siya ng child custody, tinanong naman daw yung bata kung kanino gusto sumama, eh gusto sa papa niya ayun wala magawa si girl..at least daw sa kanya ang bata control niya mga gastusin.

chinie · « **Reply #117 on:** July 27, 2012, 06:10:00 am »

Quote from: chiqmom on July 20, 2012, 09:43:52 am

^that's just her demand, now its up to your brother na linisin sarili nya from all the accusations.

Sis, I have to be honest here, I understand the case of the wife because that's exactly my demands too. I hate to differ pero siguro you can also use my opinion to understand where the girl is coming from. Peace.

Like the wife, my first demand was for the father not to be able to go out with the kids without my presence. Why? Because when umalis sya sa buhay namin, and when he decided to flirt with other girls, I was the one who stood strong for the kids. I was the one who pretended that life was still beautiful despite the aches that their father was giving. I was the one who had to protect the kids from other people's talkings like "yung dad nila nakita ko may kasama iba". I had to explain the painful truth in the most subtle ways just for the kids to still remain positive about life, about their father.

And when umalis sya, the kids' life started to revolve around me. Ako lahat from simple everyday events to family day sa school. Tapos all of a sudden just because gusto na ng dad umeksena, magbabago lahat yung usual routine namin? No. Hindi sa ayaw ko maging part sya ng life namin because the truth is, I begged too many times for him to at least spare some time with the kids but he was too busy flirting around. So if he wants to be really a dad to his kids, ang sakin lang, take it slowly. Sasama muna ako during the first few meetings para maging at ease naman yung bata. My condition was not to bring the kids sa bahay nila until the time na close na sila ulit as a father. This way, hindi masschock yung bata.

I hope maayos na ng brother mo ang problem. Its about compromise lang naman. Nagkasundo kami ng husband ko sa ganung setup and I like to believe we're ok now. He's now part of the kids' life, more than before. And I must agree, kelangan sa magasawa may legal intervention para yung mga conflicts maayos. Nung una I thought magaaway lang kami but through legal arrangement, naging friends ulit ki. Good luck.

Thanks for the reply sis..hindi sila naghiwalay because of third party, hindi talaga sila nagkasundo na lang. Yung girl kasi parang late bloomer kung kelan nagkaasawa tsaka natutong gumimik and hindi nagpapaalam na naging cause ng lagi nilang pagaaway. Sana nga maayos na nila and makamove on na din yung girl sobra talagang manggipit eh. Pero pinagpapasensyahan na lang muna ng brother ko yung ex nya and continues to give in to her demands makita lang yung bata. Hinhintay na nga lang nung kapatid ko na dumating na sa age anak nila na pwede na mamili regarding custody. And wala din naman syang extrang money to go thru legalities so super pasensya na nga lang talaga and divine intervention. Sana kasing lawak mo magisip yung ex ng kapatid ko and hindi sarili lang ang iniisip. Kais sa ginagawa nya yung anak din nila nagsusuffer.

lawyer_mom · « **Reply #118 on:** September 10, 2012, 01:08:48 pm »

for husbands abroad na hindi nagbibigay ng support the easiest way is to file a complaint for RA 9262, you don't need a lawyer for this except for the preparation of the complaint-affidavit. The prosecutor will handle your case. The court will also issue a warrant of arrest against the erring husband. in case of the husband who wants to see their child, the remedy is to file a petition for visitation rights and ask for court supervised visitation

jenybasti · « **Reply #119 on:** September 28, 2012, 05:16:38 pm »

^ sis san ba makakakuha ng kopya ng affidavit for child support?pwede kaya padala ko sa kanya yun tapos papirmahin ko sya??

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