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hotmom · « **Reply #80 on:** June 16, 2011, 08:14:22 pm »

i need help too how can i claim a child support my ex is in the states we got 2 kids together where can i ask for help and pls do share po ng sample for demand of child support i might try to mail nlang the company where he working in the states...by the way hes american..

chiqmom · « **Reply #81 on:** June 16, 2011, 09:15:16 pm »

^sis demand letters are supposed to be given by attorneys.

cool_chique · « **Reply #82 on:** June 21, 2011, 11:56:32 am »

i'm so confused these past weeks
i filed ra 9262 to my korean ex through PAO. we are not married. naghiwalay kami late last year and since then wala talaga siyang sustento so may mga nagadvise sa father ko na ilapit ko nga daw sa PAO. So i did. support ang habol ko pero since korean siya, sabi ng lawyer criminal case 9262 ang ifile muna namin para pwede siyang ihold. kasi pag support case lang, pwede siya umalis ng bansa.

hinihintay ang decision ng fiscal kung iaakyat sa korte yung kaso. while waiting for this, nagfile na ulit kami ng lawyer sa PAO ng child support. what i didn't know kelangan ko pala kumuha ng documents ng income niya. eh ILLEGAL ALIEN siya dito. ilang years na pagsasama namin, wala akong nakitang payslip. ang employer niya dito ay korean din at galit sakin dahil nadadamay daw business niya sa kaso namin. so wala talaga ako makuhang solid proof na may income siya. what i know is meron siya not less than 30k income based on our expenses before. ngayon, DINEDENY NIYA NA MAY INCOME siya at ang pwede lang niya ibigay ay 5K a month which is sabi ng lawyer ko, pwede pang ilaban ng lawyer niya!

ngayon super naguguluhan ako kung itutuloy ang mga kaso o magkanya-kanya na lang kami. kasi super stressful. parang wala na ngang katapusan. Ngayon, kaya kong buhayin anak ko pero once magaral na siya baka next year, grabe, ang laki ng expenses! sabi ng lawyer ko, better ituloy ang cases para ngayon palang maghabol nako kesa pag tumagal pa, di na alam kung san siya hahanapin. ON THE OTHER HAND, parang gusto ko ng less complicated na buhay. since kaya naman niyang walang communication sa anak ko, e kung ituloy tuloy ko nalang kaya. at least hindi sobrang confused ng anak ko habang lumalaki na 2 magkahiwalay na parent ang nagpapalaki sakanya? ipaliwanag ko nalang na mahal siya ng tatay niya pero talagang nagkahiwalay na kami?

o IPADEPORT nalang kaya namin since illegal alien siya dito???
sooooo confused....

jacky071087 · « **Reply #83 on:** August 20, 2011, 07:40:44 am »

I just want to seek advice from you regarding my situation on what would be the best move or decision to make.

I’m currently 5 months pregnant and the father of my baby is one of my officemates. He is married and has 3 kids. We had an extramarital affair. I am single, with 2 kids. He knows I am pregnant and we have talked about it. I told him I only need financial support for my baby since I am also supporting my parents, siblings and my 2 kids. He promised he will take care of my delivery. I told him the estimated cost of CS delivery would be around 50k and he agreed. We had a good relationship except when we had debates and discussions about the support after I give birth. I told him I’m not even demanding for a fixed amount every month and any amount will do because I know he also has his own kids. He doesn’t want to talk to me about it and we started having fights, which in turn greatly affected me emotionally. An incident happened that I had vaginal bleeding and it happened while I was at work. I was on leave for a few days and when I came back, our bosses have learned about my situation. He doesn’t reply to my text messages anymore and even if we see each other everyday at work, it was as if, he didn’t know me. I explained our situation to my bosses and told them what I really needed.

Last month, we talked closed doors, with 3 of our bosses as witnesses. I clearly told him what I want but he insisted that he doesn’t want to have any communication with me anymore. He just said he will ask someone to deposit the money for my delivery but he can’t say directly that he will give support after that. He said “Pwede naman pero ayaw ko ng may communication satin.”. He even threatened me that if I text or call him, he wont give anything. He said I could give him the child after birth and he would find someone who could take care of the child but I wont see my child anymore. I told him that would not happen because I choose to take care of my child. After our 1 hour of talk, I still didn’t get any assurance from him. One of our bosses recommended having any memorandum of agreement or any written proof that he will agree on giving support but he doesn’t want to. I also told him about me thinking of getting an Affidavit for the child support but he said he wont sign anything. I recorded our conversation, just in case.

The last time we talked was when I asked how much he would give for the delivery. We only talked thru chat in our office. He said he doesn’t know how much he could give. I gave him my bank account number. He said he doesn’t want to know or hear anything about me anymore.

Right now, I’ve heard that he has a plan to resign and he is absent almost every other day. If he would resign, I know he still would earn from being a photographer. We don’t talk anymore and he also has changed his mobile number so I can’t contact him anymore. Im just worried that I will not get anything even for the delivery. I know where he lives but I don’t want to make any wrong move or even go there just to beg for money. I know his wife and family doesn’t know anything about it yet and I told him I won’t make any scandal.

What I really want to happen is to get an assurance that he would support my child in anyway. If he doesn’t want to have any communication with me anymore, that would be fine as long as he finds a way to give the support. I am planning to take actions after I give birth to avoid stress but not seeing him around and having zero communication worries me a lot.

Thank you in advance for any advice that you can give.

iam_miel · « **Reply #84 on:** August 24, 2011, 12:38:59 am »

the situation isnt about me, but Im concerned about this person...

my chinese ex got his former filipina gf pregnant (his ex before me) & was "blackmailed" into dealing with her in secrecy since napikot lang daw sya & his family might disown him if they find out na nakabuntis sya..It happened months after they had already broken up..He supported her financially, 1.5k per week but stopped sending her money on her 7th month..Since hindi na nya mahagilap si ex, the girl decided to talk to my ex's mom na lang..She told his mom everything, mag-ex na sila pero may nangyayari pa din, na nabuntis sya at gusto daw ni ex na isekreto to protect his family & she agreed provided he'll take care of her & the baby financially..May kaya sila ex, mayaman nga actually (business and stock holder ng hotel sa Binondo), but his mom only agreed to give her 50k for "humanitarian purposes"..The mom said na since si girl daw ay ex-gf na ni ex, hindi daw nila kikilalanin yung bata..Caesarian delivery yung girl & kinulang yung pambayad sa hospital so she asked ex's mom again for money..The mom gave her additional 20k & said last na daw yun, they wont give anymore..They asked the girl to sign an agreement na once she receives the 20k hindi na sya maghahabol for the baby kahit kailan..The girl signed naman to get the baby out of the hospital & kept her word..Hindi na sya nagparamdam dun sa family ng ex ko..

Meron bang laban si girl against my ex's family kung gusto nya maghabol for their child? Honestly, kawawa si girl dahil pobre lang sila, habang yung family naman ni ex nagpapakasawa sa pera..What can she do? I would really wanna help her..

alright777 · « **Reply #85 on:** August 30, 2011, 02:21:18 am »

Quote from: jacky071087 on August 20, 2011, 07:40:44 am

I just want to seek advice from you regarding my situation on what would be the best move or decision to make.

I’m currently 5 months pregnant and the father of my baby is one of my officemates. He is married and has 3 kids. We had an extramarital affair. I am single, with 2 kids. He knows I am pregnant and we have talked about it. I told him I only need financial support for my baby since I am also supporting my parents, siblings and my 2 kids. He promised he will take care of my delivery. I told him the estimated cost of CS delivery would be around 50k and he agreed. We had a good relationship except when we had debates and discussions about the support after I give birth. I told him I’m not even demanding for a fixed amount every month and any amount will do because I know he also has his own kids. He doesn’t want to talk to me about it and we started having fights, which in turn greatly affected me emotionally. An incident happened that I had vaginal bleeding and it happened while I was at work. I was on leave for a few days and when I came back, our bosses have learned about my situation. He doesn’t reply to my text messages anymore and even if we see each other everyday at work, it was as if, he didn’t know me. I explained our situation to my bosses and told them what I really needed.

Last month, we talked closed doors, with 3 of our bosses as witnesses. I clearly told him what I want but he insisted that he doesn’t want to have any communication with me anymore. He just said he will ask someone to deposit the money for my delivery but he can’t say directly that he will give support after that. He said “Pwede naman pero ayaw ko ng may communication satin.”. He even threatened me that if I text or call him, he wont give anything. He said I could give him the child after birth and he would find someone who could take care of the child but I wont see my child anymore. I told him that would not happen because I choose to take care of my child. After our 1 hour of talk, I still didn’t get any assurance from him. One of our bosses recommended having any memorandum of agreement or any written proof that he will agree on giving support but he doesn’t want to. I also told him about me thinking of getting an Affidavit for the child support but he said he wont sign anything. I recorded our conversation, just in case.

The last time we talked was when I asked how much he would give for the delivery. We only talked thru chat in our office. He said he doesn’t know how much he could give. I gave him my bank account number. He said he doesn’t want to know or hear anything about me anymore.

Right now, I’ve heard that he has a plan to resign and he is absent almost every other day. If he would resign, I know he still would earn from being a photographer. We don’t talk anymore and he also has changed his mobile number so I can’t contact him anymore. Im just worried that I will not get anything even for the delivery. I know where he lives but I don’t want to make any wrong move or even go there just to beg for money. I know his wife and family doesn’t know anything about it yet and I told him I won’t make any scandal.

What I really want to happen is to get an assurance that he would support my child in anyway. If he doesn’t want to have any communication with me anymore, that would be fine as long as he finds a way to give the support. I am planning to take actions after I give birth to avoid stress but not seeing him around and having zero communication worries me a lot.

Thank you in advance for any advice that you can give.

I feel sorry for you. Sana wag kang ma-offend ha. Pero mali kasi yung ginawa niyo, Since alam mo na pamilyado yung lalake sana di mo na lang siya pinatulan. Ngayon tuloy, problemado ka.

Sorry sis pero medyo mainit ulo ko sa mga ganyan. Sana maayos mo problema mo.

peaceinsolitude · « **Reply #86 on:** October 11, 2011, 06:35:09 am »

How much can an ex-girlfriend ask for child support. Alam naman niya na may asawa at anak ang nakabuntis sa kanya though separated?

Hesterliness · « **Reply #87 on:** October 12, 2011, 08:53:12 pm »

File a case against him.Support yourself with documents proving he is the father.This kind of scenario are not surprising since this guy only "did" it for fun.Asking for financial support is like cutting their neck alive so if telling his family about you will pressure him then do so.This is no longer about your mistakes but about your unborn child who is being unwanted by his own father.Just fight for your child's right.He'll do everything to get rid of you and it's your job to make him f***!

hotmom · « **Reply #88 on:** October 26, 2011, 04:58:34 pm »

can anyone please send me a sample of a demand letter for child support. my ex is american he has 2 kids with me i dont know where to ask some help since im in the province ...

NyLyM_nAyR · « **Reply #89 on:** November 01, 2011, 12:21:23 pm »

Help naman mga sis ..my husband is in Canada pero may GF na siya dun..nagpapadala naman siya kaso kulang minsan ako pa nangungulit sa kanya..tapos sinasabihan pa ako ng buwisit daw ako pag pinapaalala ko obligation niya. I want everything to be legal sana para di ko na kelangang mag beg.. Minsan kase sasabihin niya, uy puwede bang ganito muna kase bumili ako ng kotse, bumili ako ng ganito, nasira yung ganito and all..panu ba un? help me naman mga sis...TIA

lulay23 · « **Reply #90 on:** November 02, 2011, 12:22:07 pm »

dear all..

need some advice...i dont know how to start it..my ex hubby are already separated for almost 2 years now...may kinakasama na cia..[textspeak!] girl kung bakit kame naghiwalay and to top it all..nag anak pa cia dun..so for the start na naghiwalay kame..wala sia binigay na support...how do i go about it..gusto ko problemahin nya di [textspeak!] support for my daughter..hindi un puro sa isang anak lang nya sa labas..we are still married..

thanks for all the help

peaceinsolitude · « **Reply #91 on:** February 17, 2012, 11:10:25 am »

Mga sis pahelp. How long can child support court cases and battles last? And how much ang pwedeng magastos? I know that an illegitimate child if named sa Dad dapat may sign sa birth cert. Pano if wala? Would it make it longer?

I know that a child wheter illegit has rights pero may panananagutan ba ang father ng chilld sa exgf niya?

chiqmom · « **Reply #92 on:** February 17, 2012, 12:19:23 pm »

^^same case tayo sis although he never got the girl pregnant and they're not together anymore. first step is, go to your attorney.

some think na mas gugulo if may intervention ng attorney but this is not always the case. actually naging mas maayos pa kami ng husband ko (we're not together) after the demand for child support. he gets to visit the kids and the kids get to have their rights protected.

sa baranggay pa lang naayos na namin. my attorney told me na before court, sa baranggay muna. my attorney send him a demand letter first. tapos noong hindi nagreply, sa baranggay na kami. sa last summon, nagappear sya. yung first two, hindi sumipot.

i'm glad din na naayos namin sa baranggay pa lang kasi kung hindi i will really push the case sa court.

hotmom · « **Reply #93 on:** March 09, 2012, 07:18:18 pm »

okay lang ba if i write the US consular about askin just child support since american dad ng mga kids ko wala na kasi akong other ways and im totally broke no support for 2 yrs and i really need a financial help from thier dad and i cant afford to pay for the atty..kaya ill try to write them nalang ..pwede kaya iyon? pls help me and give me some input mga sis..pa email naman kahit draft lang ng demand letter i have no idea kasi....

spacemonkey · « **Reply #94 on:** March 14, 2012, 05:46:11 am »

our family is going through this problem right now... and maybe this is more of a rant, but i do need some advice.

my younger brother is still in school, he's training to be a pilot, so he still doesn't have a job.

him and his wife have separated because she'd go out every so often with her friends and leave us with the baby. she's still in college, which my dad paid for, and her allowance would also come from my dad.

her and her family, who are not that well off in the first place, never had to spend for anything, until on their baby's first birthday, she blew up and asked for separation from my brother --- then ran off with the baby.

it wasn't until they ran out of money to take care of her did they return her to us. they're not well off, she doesn't have a decent job, or even a stable place to stay in manila... since she left our house, she stayed with her friends, going from house to house. never even bothered to visit her baby during holidays with us.

i think when she finally realized she needed us (for money) she started being all sweet to my brother and asking for help for allowances, and other things. my brother is a good guy, so he gave her money a couple of times, only to find out she's been using it to party and go drinking with her friends.

and whenever she'd pickup the baby to bring to her parents (bataan), my brother would go with them, take care of transportation, buy milk, buy diapers, and give her more than enough money for the baby, even when all is provided for.

it was good at first, until my brother noticed that whenever he'd send them money, she'd stop replying to him on how the baby is, and would ignore him all over again. only if she needed money (for school allowance and "for the baby") would she contact him again.

also, whenever we'd get the baby, we'd find out shes been buying the cheap brand of diapers for her.

so, just last month, she comes over our house, with no warning, saying that shes taking the baby to bataan. shes been a biitch to my brother all week long, and then while they were about to leave, she asks -- no, demands my brother for money... we said no.

but eventually i caved in and gave her just enough to take the bus home. we swore never to give her money again. BTW, she brought with her the baby's milk and diapers we bought, which was supposed to stay at our house.

then after two weeks, her and her mom sent my brother dozens of texts asking for more money for the baby. my mom just wanted it to be over, so they send money... after a week, they bug my brother again, saying the baby ran out of milk and diapers, which is weird because we sent more than enough money.

we just feel so used. we love the baby so much, and spoil her and give her everything when shes with us, but my brother's ex and her family are NOT contributing anything, and what we want, since the girl wanted to be a single mom, is for her to take some responsibility --- pero wala talaga eh.

is it so bad if we stop giving money? we'd help, if they needed milk, we'll buy milk. if they run out of diapers, we'll send diapers, clothes, new toys, we'd give it to her if she needs it...

but money --- i think we've had enough.

Maldita AKO · « **Reply #95 on:** March 17, 2012, 07:44:20 am »

Hi good morning sissies

what if nabuntis ni guy si girl then ayaw aukin yung responsibilities sa baby, pwde ba masampahan ng kaso yung guy?

cool_chique · « **Reply #96 on:** April 15, 2012, 01:09:51 am »

Quote from: lulay23 on November 02, 2011, 12:22:07 pm

dear all..

need some advice...i dont know how to start it..my ex hubby are already separated for almost 2 years now...may kinakasama na cia..[textspeak!] girl kung bakit kame naghiwalay and to top it all..nag anak pa cia dun..so for the start na naghiwalay kame..wala sia binigay na support...how do i go about it..gusto ko problemahin nya di [textspeak!] support for my daughter..hindi un puro sa isang anak lang nya sa labas..we are still married..

thanks for all the help

Sis lamang ka kasi hindi lang anak mo ang pwde mong hingan ng support. Pati ikaw pwede kasi legal wife ka. Basta kumpleto ka ng documents- marriage certificate, birth certificate na may pirma ng asawa mo (acknowledgement, very important). Go to PAO or any lawyer

cool_chique · « **Reply #97 on:** April 15, 2012, 01:25:48 am »

Quote from: peaceinsolitude on October 11, 2011, 06:35:09 am

How much can an ex-girlfriend ask for child support. Alam naman niya na may asawa at anak ang nakabuntis sa kanya though separated?

Sis you need a document to support that he is the father -birth cert with his signature. You can ask depending how much your baby needs monthly then you can round that up. What is important is that you have proof that he can support your child (example his payslips, business registration,etc). Anything that can prove that he has income. Without this,he can say that he has no job and therefore cannot give support. If you are not married, only your child can ask for support.

jenybasti · « **Reply #98 on:** April 16, 2012, 07:03:30 am »

what if nasa abroad tatay ng mga anak ko?di din kami kasal pero nakapirma sya sa birthcertificate.ano ba dapat gawin?

crazylove · « **Reply #99 on:** June 01, 2012, 10:33:15 am »

hi mga sis!
may ganitong thread pala..dapat pala sister ko ang nagbabasa nito para makapag-share din dito..anyway, ok naman yung agreement nila ng ex-husband(annulled na sila)..may mga documents silang pinirmahan pareho, nakalagay doon kung magkano monthly ang ibibigay, at yung sa tuition ng bata 50/50 sila..

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