Author Topic: NBSB Ladies, anyone? :) (Read 36146 times)

janix athena · « **Reply #200 on:** March 27, 2012, 03:36:42 pm »

^Thanks sis, yeah meron pang subtitle yung book na "Be dating in six months or your money back" Haha. Funny lang.

@sis abuanddiego: Wala naman masama sa pagiging old maid kung yun talaga ang gusto mong mangyari. Pero if you're miserable being alone, and you ask, "Bakit kaya? Maganda naman ako, matalino, etc" Then something needs to be done. Masaklap naman na magpaka-old maid just because tinamad lang, tinamad na magbago, to go out of her comfort zone, to meet people.

So for people who choose to remain single, and people ask why, dapat wala nang embarassment on your part when you give your reply. Because you know in your heart, you could have had a lovelife, Pinili nyo lang talaga ang single-blessedness. Nothing wrong with that.

ayanlanz · « **Reply #201 on:** March 28, 2012, 02:59:30 am »

hehe...dapat pala magpa-enlist ako dito.

i just turned 30 last last week and still NBSB

bakit nga ba?
i'm not sure if this is destiny or choice.

Basta ang mahalaga lang sa akin is I'm happy and contented on what and where am I right now.

Anne101 · « **Reply #202 on:** March 28, 2012, 11:29:02 am »

ayanlanz, wag kang mag.alala sis hindi ka nag.iisa. marami akong kilala yung iba pa nga more than 30 na. uso na ata yan ngayon lalo na kung workaholic.

janix athena, sis bought the book last night. di masyadong excited noh? interesting nga siya, thank you!

janix athena · « **Reply #203 on:** March 28, 2012, 11:46:23 am »

^Wow I'm happy that you gave the book a try sis. Happy reading!

imyourangel · « **Reply #204 on:** April 03, 2012, 11:54:33 pm »

Proud to be NBSB

I do have standards na hindi naman impossible, but quite high.
I think it's better to wait than to settle for anything less than God's best. I'm a fan of Joshua Harris' books. If you're familiar with his principles then no need to explain further

poetrytoprose · « **Reply #205 on:** April 04, 2012, 12:54:22 pm »

I have written about why I am single in my blog. There's nothing wrong in being single. It's better to wait than get involve with someone for wrong reasons, imho.

minjeas · « **Reply #206 on:** April 08, 2012, 03:29:28 pm »

actually the problem nowadays are the guys?

makahanap ka man ng lalake ng gusto mo, usually ang case, bading, taken na or hindi ka type. in my case, okay lang sakin kahit nbsb for life pero yun nga, yung enviroment kasi, mga tao nakapaligid sayo they will pressure you na to the point na iisipin mo na may problema na sa sarili mo kahit wala naman.

abuanddiego · « **Reply #207 on:** April 08, 2012, 04:13:11 pm »

Quote from: minjeas on April 08, 2012, 03:29:28 pm

yung enviroment kasi, mga tao nakapaligid sayo they will pressure you na to the point na iisipin mo na may problema na sa sarili mo kahit wala naman.

he he he bahala sila sa mga buhay nila, mapressure sila kung gusto nila. masarap kaya maging single---living young and wild and free!

pero girls, do you believe na merong mga taong destined to be single for life? as in yung talaga hindi magaasawa?

ayanlanz · « **Reply #208 on:** April 09, 2012, 10:38:07 pm »

^maybe hindi destine, choice siguro.

my mother's youngest brother, hindi na talaga nag-asawa. we asked why and he answered na ayaw nya sumakit ang ulo tulad nang sa mga kapatid na may mga pamilya na.

for me, ok lang kasi siya ang kasama namin sa mga galaan at travel trips.

sakura_bloom · « **Reply #209 on:** April 09, 2012, 11:23:04 pm »

^NBSB here.

Sa akin choice siya. May mga guys na nagpa-cute. Yung PG flirting. Pero walang nanligaw. Dahil siguro alam nilang mabasted din sila. Sabi ng friends ko baka masyado daw mataas standards ko. Feeling ko naman hindi masyado mataas, may standards lang. I won't date a guy dahil available siya, or basta lalaki siya. I want an equal. Sometimes, before it even starts you know it won't work. You know it in your gut. Wala kayong chemistry. It feels like a fling, hindi totoo. So why waste each others time?

There are times na I feel na in terms of dating & courting I'm left out. It's sad sometimes. But then I realize that I don't really feel alone, it's more of I feel envious of my friends dating and getting married. At eto ako, nene pa din (which isn't a bad thing). And then I hear stories from my friends of love stories gone sour and marriages broken.

There are indeed people who chose NOT to get married, to be single forever. Marriage isn't for everyone. There are people who can't imagine themselves getting pregnant, having children, marrying someone (even if they are NOT priests & nuns). It's like this: Even if all women have a uterus, it doesn't mean that she is obligated to have children. It's a choice. It's her body. It's her life.

^^Going back, I just don't know when to risk, how to risk. Or maybe I just haven't met someone worth risking.

dashee · « **Reply #210 on:** April 09, 2012, 11:27:03 pm »

Quote from: abuanddiego on March 27, 2012, 03:02:03 pm

^masama ba talagang maging old maid? madami akong kilalang ganyan, at parang yan nga ang pangarap ko sa buhay haha!

ahh kasi sabi dun sa dating office ni bf, may expiration date daw ang babae...this has something to do with having babies i think.

kapag 28 na daw ang girl, dapat daw kasal na kasi yun daw ang "best time" nila as a woman. kaya yung mga officemate nya dati na girls, namomroblema/nalulungkot na kapag single pa rin sila by that age.

abuanddiego · « **Reply #211 on:** April 10, 2012, 04:01:09 pm »

Quote from: ayanlanz on April 09, 2012, 10:38:07 pm

ayaw nya sumakit ang ulo tulad nang sa mga kapatid na may mga pamilya na.

Quote from: sakura_bloom on April 09, 2012, 11:23:04 pm

There are indeed people who chose NOT to get married, to be single forever. Marriage isn't for everyone. There are people who can't imagine themselves getting pregnant, having children, marrying someone (even if they are NOT priests & nuns). It's like this: Even if all women have a uterus, it doesn't mean that she is obligated to have children. It's a choice. It's her body. It's her life.

yan ang mga sagot na inaantay ko

lalo na yung sinabi ni sis sakura, ganyang ganyan ang take ko on marriage and having a family. I hope mas marami pa ang maging mas open-minded when it comes to relationships kasi di naman lahat iisa ang tinatakbo ng isip. May mga taong sadyang hindi feel ang marriage and having kids, kaya hayaan na natin sila at wag ng makialam ng may buhay ng may buhay. Madalas kasi pag wala kang karelasyon iniisip agad na may mali sayo, kagaya na lang ng sinabi ni sis dashee about the expiration date. haha! ano tayo de lata? at lahat ba ng kinasal gusto ng anak? I know someone na ganyan din ang sinabi about women, at talagang malakas ang paniniwala nya that all women should have kids, at di kami magkasundo hehe.

Girltalker2 · « **Reply #212 on:** April 10, 2012, 07:31:28 pm »

Quote from: dashee on April 09, 2012, 11:27:03 pm

ahh kasi sabi dun sa dating office ni bf, may expiration date daw ang babae...this has something to do with having babies i think. kapag 28 na daw ang girl, dapat daw kasal na kasi yun daw ang "best time" nila as a woman. kaya yung mga officemate nya dati na girls, namomroblema/nalulungkot na kapag single pa rin sila by that age.

Yan ang problema sa society natin. Maraming makikitid ang utak. Parang ang mga babae kelangan mag-asawa at a certain age, then maging this ideal wife na tipong "Stepford Wife" [you guys know that movie?]. Yun lang ang role nya.

Kahit pa naman may bf ka, society does not stop asking kelan ka ikakasal. Once married, kelan ka magkakaanak. Once may anak na, kelan ang 2nd, etc etc.

Nakakapikon din. kasi ako I am way past 28yo na, hehe. Worse, I am separated. So talagang tipong ostracized talagako ng society. Admittedly, I am much much happier not being in Pinas, di ko lang alam kung dahil mas open minded ang mga tao outside of Pinas or mas konti lang kachika ko dito kaya di ko masyado naririnig ang mga pintas ng mga tao.

And sharing lang din, it is because I am not in Pinas, I came to terms on my separation with my hubby at dahil nga tingin ko mas hindi mapanghusga mga tao dito.

sakura_bloom · « **Reply #213 on:** April 11, 2012, 12:31:57 am »

Quote from: abuanddiego on April 10, 2012, 04:01:09 pm

I hope mas marami pa ang maging mas open-minded when it comes to relationships kasi di naman lahat iisa ang tinatakbo ng isip. May mga taong sadyang hindi feel ang marriage and having kids, kaya hayaan na natin sila at wag ng makialam ng may buhay ng may buhay. Madalas kasi pag wala kang karelasyon iniisip agad na may mali sayo, kagaya na lang ng sinabi ni sis dashee about the expiration date. haha! ano tayo de lata? at lahat ba ng kinasal gusto ng anak? I know someone na ganyan din ang sinabi about women, at talagang malakas ang paniniwala nya that all women should have kids, at di kami magkasundo hehe.

^Tama sis! Hindi tayo lata!

^^Actually, kahit year 2012 na, women can vote, women can run for public office etc, there's still alot to work for and aspire for regarding gender equality. And educating people to change stereotypes and stop discrimination.

Minsan, iniisip ko na baka ako single ay dahil I'm in the Philippines. People here are very traditional, patriarchal & judgemental. My parents always told me that really can't imagine me having a relationship with a Filipino. Hindi daw kami bagay. And as they say, parents are usually right.

@JLO · « **Reply #214 on:** April 11, 2012, 05:17:43 pm »

nairinig nyo na ba to ----> Shes too cute/beautiful to be single....

At age 24, beautiful/cute etc... guys daw kahit gusto si girlalu eh di na sya babalakin mangligaw pa... kasi nga shes too cute to be single meaning me mali sa kanya kaya at that age shes still single... seems like the guy wont make an effort na to ligaw

sakura_bloom · « **Reply #215 on:** April 12, 2012, 02:27:51 am »

Quote from: @JLO on April 11, 2012, 05:17:43 pm

nairinig nyo na ba to ----> Shes too cute/beautiful to be single....

At age 24, beautiful/cute etc... guys daw kahit gusto si girlalu eh di na sya babalakin mangligaw pa... kasi nga shes too cute to be single meaning me mali sa kanya kaya at that age shes still single... seems like the guy wont make an effort na to ligaw

^Or the guy just can't step up to the plate and be a man.

Girltalker2 · « **Reply #216 on:** April 12, 2012, 08:05:30 am »

One time my friends were discussing about - how to have a bf...

Sabi nga namin, sa dami ng available women out there - magaganda at bata, tapos hindi naman nga lahat nagpapaligaw, sino pa ba ang papatol samin - medyo conservative kasi barkada namin - sino pa papatol pag nasa mid to late 30s na, ang dami pa kamong arte. So we came to a conclusion na hindi nanga talaga puede magkabf pa at our age kasi katakot takot na paglalandi ang kelangan mong gawin to win the race. So either sikmurain mo ang hindi mo nga nakagawian or just be single for life.
This was when we were in Pinas.

But now that I am not in Pinas, medyo nag iba ang aking pananaw. Parang kahit na nasa 40s or 50s ka na, meron at meron parin para sa iyo. Yun nga lang, am not in dreamland, chances are slimmer as you get older. Pero meron nakalaan for you, kung hahanapin mo sya.

@JLO · « **Reply #217 on:** April 12, 2012, 12:38:49 pm »

nakakatuwa ang reply mo sis... win the race.... seems like babae pa ang need to win the race than the man to win you haist... yet you have a point..... sabi nila the guy daw is like picking an apple from a tree, but its too hard to climb up daw the tree so what he would do is just he would pick up the one na nalaglag na or yung nasa ground.. what this means is that yung hawak kamay na dun na lang sya settle kahit the best apples are at the peak of the tree.

@JLO · « **Reply #218 on:** April 12, 2012, 12:42:12 pm »

Quote from: sakura_bloom on April 12, 2012, 02:27:51 am

^Or the guy just can't step up to the plate and be a man.

ang pagakakaintindi ko kasi dun is that... like eating out,,, when u know someone had ate there already at masarap daw... u would give it a try else pag wala pa sa barkada mo naka try nun... clueless ka and you wont waste time... to go there and check it out.... so ang babaeng single .. is like ayaw ng guy na sya ang mag try kung pano ligawan tong babaeng to... else aantay sya ng iba to do that and if that works.. nasa queue na nya yun haha

sakura_bloom · « **Reply #219 on:** April 12, 2012, 02:07:29 pm »

@JLO

^Last time I check, hindi pag-kain ang mga babae, hindi bagay. If a guy really wants the girl, he should have the guts to pursue her.

^Yung mga lalaking ganyan, gusto lang ng easy to get. Yung girl na madali makuha dahil alam na nya kung pano kunin. Tamad mangligaw. Gusto instant relationship na. Yung mga taong ganyan, hindi pangmatagalan.

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Author Topic: NBSB Ladies, anyone? :) (Read 36146 times)