Author Topic: NBSB Ladies, anyone? :) (Read 36168 times)

gurly_blu27 · « **Reply #220 on:** April 14, 2012, 04:28:06 pm »

I'm turning 25 this year and NBSB pa rin ako.. I don't feel bad about it though.. Looking at the brighter side of it, at least I do have a time to love myself even more.. Look for areas for improvement and make the best out of me..

patchuchai · « **Reply #221 on:** April 14, 2012, 11:38:11 pm »

im 38; ngayong gusto ko na wala man lang. haay

Girltalker2 · « **Reply #222 on:** April 15, 2012, 10:16:37 am »

^ dont worry sis, mas matanda pako sayo.

wala sa age yan. it's destiny. so just pray - na sana mahanap natin ang happiness in life - kahit single man or with a SO.

quiet_angel18 · « **Reply #223 on:** April 15, 2012, 10:31:22 am »

Minsan iniisip ko may mali siguro sa akin

Ayaw ko na lang isipin minsan about relationships but everywhere I look may reminders... hayyy

I just pray na sana if I'm born to be alone for the rest of my life, sana ma-accept ko & still be happy. Hirap kasi ng mag-isa sa life. But I'm still hoping that very soon He will find me & I recognize him.

angelique_1523 · « **Reply #224 on:** April 19, 2012, 01:24:24 am »

still NBSB and now i am a Graduate of 4 year course

All thanks to God..sometimes I'm sad maybe because of one aspect of my life that I cannot get until now..sometimes all i need is a companion who can [textspeak!] me, care fr me, miss me, but one thing that I''m sure is if I ever fall because of this needs .. This is to shallow...I need someone who wants to have a serious relationship that he will decide to commit and think about settle down and have a family with me...one man woman ako ee.. ayoko ng paiba iba...so i'm still waiting for God's will..

I enjoy my life right now! I learned a lot . I enjoy my career thats all that matters now and my famil love ..

Girltalker2 · « **Reply #225 on:** April 19, 2012, 07:53:53 am »

^ yes sis, enjoy mo muna life habang bata ka pa.

Quote from: angelique_1523 on April 19, 2012, 01:24:24 am

I need someone who wants to have a serious relationship that he will decide to commit and think about settle down and have a family with me...one man woman ako ee.. ayoko ng paiba iba...so i'm still waiting for God's will..

Also once that someone comes along, before you step into a bf-gf relationship, make sure you have "shopped around" din and not focus on 1 person blindly for the rest of your life - just because you NEED someone to love you and care for you. Ako kasi yan din ang napagdaanan ko before, gusto ko serious relationship, syempre sino ba naman ayaw di ba? Kaso kaya most of us end up broken hearted kasi that's how we see life. Meet the one prince charming and live happily ever after. Kaso life is not that way. Maybe for some lucky few (na baka mas mababa pa sa odds kesa sa manalo ka sa lotto).

I was there, been there, done that. So just sharing my 2 cents. Nagserious relationship ako ng maaga, did not know any better and end up marrying my one and only bf. In hindsight, should've dated more, mingled more and seen more.

Tsaka hindi naman ibig sabihin, magb-bf ka lagi. it is more of "dating", "MU", before jumping into that serious relationship. that way, you can compare notes, you know what you want and not just settle for the person you are with kasi mahal mo na sya, you also get to know more about yourself, how you are in relationships, how you handle things, etc.

@JLO · « **Reply #226 on:** April 19, 2012, 01:22:34 pm »

Quote from: sakura_bloom on April 12, 2012, 02:07:29 pm

@JLO

^Last time I check, hindi pag-kain ang mga babae, hindi bagay. If a guy really wants the girl, he should have the guts to pursue her.

^Yung mga lalaking ganyan, gusto lang ng easy to get. Yung girl na madali makuha dahil alam na nya kung pano kunin. Tamad mangligaw. Gusto instant relationship na. Yung mga taong ganyan, hindi pangmatagalan.

idk how to group the guys.. but, dapat maging open tayo sa manliligaw kasi we will never know kasi who has the real genuine intention...

creammson · « **Reply #227 on:** April 20, 2012, 12:45:04 pm »

I'm 39..NBSB din....

toypoodledog123 · « **Reply #228 on:** April 20, 2012, 08:57:53 pm »

maybe we can focus sa mga bagay na meron tayo ngayon.. like our family, perhaps be closer to them.. find more time to bond with them and also with our friends. sa work, or sa spiritual wellness.. baka may mga hindi pa kayo nattry na sports or any recreational activities.. before we share our life with someone else, it's best to ask ourselves: na-maximize ba natin ang single life natin?

rheinfall18 · « **Reply #229 on:** April 26, 2012, 02:35:14 pm »

been single until i'm 25 years old. now i'm in a 2 years relationship already.

i remember sabi ng matatanda samin "lumandi" daw ako para magkaroon ng bf. i don't think this helps kasi i don't have any idea where or how to start. i dated one guy lang but i didn't work kasi after all i realized he's not my type. instead i focused na lang on my own social lifestyle, being with close friends, spending more time with my family and worked hard for a better career. eventually i found my partner sa work din.

so i guess just go with the flow. don't harsh yourself on the fact that you're still single. and enjoy your single life dahil kapag nagkaroon ka na ng partner definitely mamimiss mo ang buhay single mo. ^^

oshiawase · « **Reply #230 on:** May 27, 2012, 11:23:04 am »

21 here! currently attending grad school

Well, at first it's by choice since estudyante ako (good girl kuno).

Now that I have finished college without a bf, I think I am just plain UGLY and NOT ATTRACTIVE

(

oshiawase · « **Reply #231 on:** May 27, 2012, 11:24:59 am »

Quote from: angelique_1523 on April 19, 2012, 01:24:24 am

still NBSB and now i am a Graduate of 4 year course All thanks to God..sometimes I'm sad maybe because of one aspect of my life that I cannot get until now..sometimes all i need is a companion who can [textspeak!] me, care fr me, miss me, but one thing that I''m sure is if I ever fall because of this needs .. This is to shallow...I need someone who wants to have a serious relationship that he will decide to commit and think about settle down and have a family with me...one man woman ako ee.. ayoko ng paiba iba...so i'm still waiting for God's will..

I enjoy my life right now! I learned a lot . I enjoy my career thats all that matters now and my famil love ..

parehas tayo!!! so I guess we're of the same age. Even my NBSB friend now has a suitor and soon-to-be boyfriend

oshiawase · « **Reply #232 on:** May 27, 2012, 11:43:47 am »

Quote from: anne_zero9 on November 16, 2010, 09:08:28 pm

NBSB din ako..
22 na ako. Wala din kasing naliligaw sa akin saka hindi rin ako ganung kabarkada. Simple lang masyado ang life ko. Walang gaanong thrill. Natatandaan ko pa nung college ako yung mga times na may BF talaga lahat ng friends ko. Grabe OP talaga ako..tas yung mga friends ko..basta!parang nakalimutan na ata na kasama/kasabay ako (bitter??!!)

Tas ngayon naman, medyo nakakasawa ng makinig sa mga love stories ng friends mo. hay..parang kailan kaya darating yung time na ako naman ang mag share hindi yung ako na lang lagi ang listener.

sad din kung minsan.....

Funny! We're almost in the same boat. Have this NBSB friend who will be having a BF soon and she's telling me all their lovey dovey moments and every time, I think "NBSB na yata ako forever

"

princessette · « **Reply #233 on:** May 27, 2012, 12:34:13 pm »

and here I thought I'm the oldest NBSB in the country

sa totoo lang wala naman ako nakikita mali sa pagiging NBSB, yung mga taong hindi lang maaccept na there are people like us, gaya ng may mga bakla at tomboy. Ewan ko ba kung sino pa mga kaclose mong tao or like your family sila pa natatakot or namprepressure sa katulad nating NBSB na para bang abnormal ang walang lovelife! Anyways, turning 30 this year and i'm looking forward celebrating it but my family and loved ones are like hala 30 ka na wala ka pa din bf, plano mo bang maging old maid blah blah blah

sana man lang suportahan na lang nila ako haiz

to all NBSB out there cheers!

sa mga nasa 20's at worried sa pagiging NBSB, just take your time bata pa naman kayo

CHLayson · « **Reply #234 on:** May 28, 2012, 12:44:11 pm »

yes I am, I still hope that one perfect guy will come along.

sardonyxmemoirs · « **Reply #235 on:** June 03, 2012, 07:35:40 pm »

I know I'm still quite young at age 16, but I feel so ashamed of not having a boyfriend yet. Para bang pag may nakaalam, may malaking karatula na nakasaplak sa king nagsasabing: "HELLO! I'M UNWANTED, UNLOVABLE, UGLY AND DESPERATE!" Kaya eto, nagkukunwari akong may boyfriend pag may nagtanong. Super pa-mysterious effect pa ko. Hindi ko talaga kayang umamin eh.

Actually, may mga nagka-crush na sa kin pero di naman counted kasi grade school pa ko nun! Bata bata pa kami nun. As an adolescent, wala pang nagkakainteres sa kin ever. Nadedesperado na ko ng sobra, gabi gabi akong umiiyak.

janix athena · « **Reply #236 on:** June 05, 2012, 12:14:40 am »

^Sis, alam kong this may be easier said than done, but you have to trust that things will work out. For now, at age sixteen, your self-esteem is still forming and you need a lot of reassurance that you are lovable. So I think you don't really need a bf yet (at that age, a bf is an unhealthy distraction from your studies), what you crave is to get feedback that somebody finds you attractive and lovable. Sabi mo random guys whistle at you in the malls/streets so take that as a sign that yes, you are beautiful.

Sa ngayon sis, focus your attention on your strengths: matalino ka, magaling mag-alaga, friendly, etc etc. Your physical beauty -- darating ang araw na you can afford to take better care of yourself, when you're working. Getting braces, hair treatments, facials, those kinds of things will help you blossom into a prettier version of yourself. For now, I hope you can stop na magkunwari sa friends na may bf ka, kasi it won't give you peace of mind knowing that your white lies can be discovered anytime. And that will put you in an even less attractive light.

I really hope you won't get into a relationship motivated by insecurity. I had a friend who was fond of phonepals/textmates whom she ended up having FUBU relationships with. That's the kind of thing intelligent people do just to feel validated and loved, even though it's not the real kind of love. So don't fall into that trap. Make sure that when you decide to enter a relationship, you feel whole. And you feel happy about yourself. And you can start that process now, by addressing the things about you that you have control over. And then the rest... leave it up to God. I don't know if you believe in Him, but my faith helped me through tough times when I was struggling with self-esteem issues. I didn't end up sleeping around just to prove that I'm attractive, which sadly some girls do and are still doing.

Because I wasn't in a hurry and waited on God's guidance, I met the man that I would marry at age 26. That's 10 years older than your age now. Now imagine you have a bf this early, you would most probably be pressured to give in to his sexual advances before you reach the age of 20. Then because you started out too young he would feel like hindi pa sya sawa sa pagka-binata nya and would start flirting with other girls, you break up. Pero by this time nabigay mo na ang virginity mo. And there are men out there who will be ok with that, meron ding hindi. So you cut your chances at finding The One by the percentage of guys who want a virgin. Ilang percent ba yun, 50%? 30%?

You get the picture?

While you're studying focus on your studies. Lovelife will come later, when you've had a chance to love yourself muna, and discover what you want in a partner.

sardonyxmemoirs · « **Reply #237 on:** June 05, 2012, 10:27:55 am »

@janix athena Super thanks sa advice. Alam ko namang tama yan, kaso ang hirap sabihin sa sarili eh. Feeling ko kasi kadalasan ang pangit pangit ko talaga, walang paawa effect, as in nakakaiyak talaga. Kailangan ko lang talaga ng iba na magsasabi sa kin na ayusin ko muna ang sarili ko. Thanks ulit.

Anyways, tama ka. At marami din naman talaga akong ambisyon sa buhay. Aral-aral muna.

anirazc anasor · « **Reply #238 on:** June 05, 2012, 12:09:18 pm »

Quote from: sardonyxmemoirs on June 03, 2012, 07:35:40 pm

I know I'm still quite young at age 16, but I feel so ashamed of not having a boyfriend yet. Para bang pag may nakaalam, may malaking karatula na nakasaplak sa king nagsasabing: "HELLO! I'M UNWANTED, UNLOVABLE, UGLY AND DESPERATE!" Kaya eto, nagkukunwari akong may boyfriend pag may nagtanong. Super pa-mysterious effect pa ko. Hindi ko talaga kayang umamin eh.

Actually, may mga nagka-crush na sa kin pero di naman counted kasi grade school pa ko nun! Bata bata pa kami nun. As an adolescent, wala pang nagkakainteres sa kin ever. Nadedesperado na ko ng sobra, gabi gabi akong umiiyak.

you're not alone sis.. it also happened to me.. at 16years old, i also have no suitors, may nagkakacrush pero di naman nanliligaw, so hindi counted yun.. i was peer pressured by all my friends love life..feeling ko ang pangit pangit ko talaga..
then i started new life pag tungtong ko sa college. i built my personality, i study hard and even watch night news to broaden my knowledge, and invest in kakikayan (di naman uber, tipong mabango lagi, fine smooth hair and nice skin, lip and cheek tint. ayaw ng guys ang ma mukup!advice ko lang.hehe)

and i started loving my self in the process..
now i'm passed that stage, somehow, growing old leaves insecurity behind.
im 22 now. and living a full life. also met my boyfriend, may first.
the Lord above is just preparing you for what He will give you.

don't fret.

@JLO · « **Reply #239 on:** June 05, 2012, 04:13:57 pm »

Quote from: princessette on May 27, 2012, 12:34:13 pm

and here I thought I'm the oldest NBSB in the country

sa totoo lang wala naman ako nakikita mali sa pagiging NBSB, yung mga taong hindi lang maaccept na there are people like us, gaya ng may mga bakla at tomboy. Ewan ko ba kung sino pa mga kaclose mong tao or like your family sila pa natatakot or namprepressure sa katulad nating NBSB na para bang abnormal ang walang lovelife! Anyways, turning 30 this year and i'm looking forward celebrating it but my family and loved ones are like hala 30 ka na wala ka pa din bf, plano mo bang maging old maid blah blah blah sana man lang suportahan na lang nila ako haiz

to all NBSB out there cheers!

sa mga nasa 20's at worried sa pagiging NBSB, just take your time bata pa naman kayo

me question po ako.. kung oks lang... NSSB din ba kayo?

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