Filipino family values

[akthung]

matanong ko lang po mga sis.

kaya ko pinost eto dito kasi, alam nyo yun, tayong mga nakaalis at naninirahan na sa ibang bansa, iba na ang level ng paguunawa sa ating sarili.

kumbaga its like leaving your the comforts of your parents at nanirahan ng sarili. kumbaga makikita nyo yung positive and negative traits ninyo di ba? lalo na na nacocompare natin sarili natin sa iba ibang cultures.

ang filipino parents, napansin ko, talagang mapag -utos ba. kahit sa simpleng bagay, inuutos pa din. hindi lamang sa parents kung pati din sa senior na kapatid.

among Filipinos ba eto or marami din sa ibang lahi? particularly non asian na lahi?

i'm just curious talaga.

thanks in advance

[mystella]

nung bata pa ako, maraming utos parents ko. pero ngayon na adult na ako, hindi na sila mautos. they already know that i can now take care of myself, may isip na ako at siguro, napatunayan ko na yun in some ways kaya tiwala rin sila sa akin.

[lyn]

Guilty ako jan, I'm trying to curb it....

Most of the time nauutosan ko palagi yung mister ko to get something when I can get it on my own. :blush:    Like what my mom said, wag yung bibig mo ang ipapahanap sa gamit but yung mata, paa at kamay mo.

But sometimes, nasp-spoiled din ako kasi if I do it naman my husband will say just to sit and let him do it. But really, I know, I should insist!!! He-he-he Bad! Bad! Bad!

[kvandenhaak]

I don't think this is peculiar to Pinoys. Ang mga hipag ko ganon din eh.

[justbeingme]

I have Brazilian friends and their family values is similar to Pinoys. Brazilian parents are like Pinoys when it comes to raising their kids and yeah that includes the mautos part.

[port80*]

Bro, I have Asian staff in my store (Malaysian, Indonesian, Iraqi) and they complain about the same.  Parents will always be parents no matter what race or nationality   Kahit siguro yung mga puti dito sa atin ganun din naman.  It's just part of growing up I guess -- not to be lazy but to teach kids to move their bums and do housework

In our household though when I was growing up, my mom will always make us do housework.  She doesn't believe in making utos things she can for herself like get water or food because that would be setting a bad example.  Kaya lumaki rin kami ng ganun -- what you can do for yourself, do.

[akthung]

then you have a great mom. hindi yung nasa tabi mo na nga iuutos mo pa na ibigay sa iyo.

[port80*]

^Haha, mahirap lang kasi sila lumaki, walang puedeng utusan na iba kundi mga sarili nila.  Kahit kami, as soon as we were old enough to do housework, my mom stopped getting maids.  If I remember correctly, we only had yayas and maids until I was about 10 years old.

[akthung]

kami di naman, pagkatapos namin ng grade 7 hindi na kami nag maids...

sometimes lang talaga nakakairita eh nasa labas ka, tatawag sila para lang tanongin paano gamitin yung HD recorder...or this and that...or malayo ka....tapos yung ipapaabot nasa tabi pala. lol

i dunno, maybe kanya kanyang kinalakihan din.

[allredndizzy]

Pwede bang isama dito yung male chauvinism? Na babae lang gumagawa ng household chores... alam ko nagbabago na `to pero it still exists in our home so it`s still a pet peeve of mine. 

[justbeingme]

malayo ka....tapos yung ipapaabot nasa tabi pala. lol

LOL. Ganyan din sa min. Di ko din na-gets ang rationale behind that. LOL. Nakakatakas lang ako pag may hawak akong libro.

[cutesexything]

Hey guys so I was reading this thread and I like it. To be honest I was raised in a filipino culture however, I was born in cali, my parents WERE really strict growing up particularly when it came to when I could date. My father didn't allow me to date til I was 18 and even then I wasn't allowed of the house. I never understood why majority of my friends where white and mixed. I hate the fact that they gave me curfews and a bunch of restriction since I was the youngest and only daughter out 5 older brothers so I got fed up with and left home at 19 and became my own person. I am now married to a Vietnamese and him and I grew up the same asian cultures are very a like its conservative. However despite hating the way I grew up in the end I realize that I want to raise my children with the same values that my husband and I a costumed too. I'm not sure if it helps but if you have any questions let me know.