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Author Topic: do you feel offended pag directly or indirectly sinasabing matanda na kayo?  (Read 42165 times)

hunny_ally

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nope. Im 33yo. its not old-old but im not a teenager either kaya balewala sa akin if they say im old. most of the time, people think im younger and are even surprised that i have 3 kids already. i take good care of my skin (i still have yet to see a wrinkle on my face) and i *try* not to gain the much weight (i tend to look old whenever i gain weight). one time i really took offense was when i was in the salon and this gay who was blow drying my hair asked me if "mag-ninang sa kasal" daw ba ako. what the....yes im old but not ninang-level old. i didnt leave him any tip  >:(

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It's the other way around naman this time. Last night, may nakasalubong kami ni mommy na relative na di ko kilala sa grocery. He asked what year na daw ako an anong course tin-take. Nasabi ko tuloy, magt-trenta na po ako ngayong taon. ;D Dapat matuwa ako pero hindi ako natuwa. Mas parang na-offend ako dito for some reason.
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Natatawa lang ako kung masabihan na matanda na but this is very rare. Mas usual yung akala bata pa, natatawa lang din ako dito ::)

I think kung totoo naman na matanda na, hindi dapat ma-offend. Ang offending lang is if sinabi yun in a negative way as in referring to mistake tapos sabihin sayo na "matanda ka na kasi kaya ka ganyan".

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Nobody has told me this yet but I'll feel sad kapag may nagsabi.  I'll feel sad because they might be telling me that I'm old to remind me na medyo hindi na bagay na kumilos or mag-isip na parang bata pa.  I think sometimes sinasabi ng mga tao na you're old not because you look old but to just remind you that you have to act like your age. 

I often notice that people think it's cool when you take a virtual exam of how old your brain is and the results would turn na your brain is younger than your actual age.  I don't understand why people like it more to act or think younger than their actual age.  It just goes to show a lot about your immaturity.

I mean it's so nice na at the age of 30, kapag nagpunta ka sa bar or casino, hihingan ka parin ng ID pero hindi naman na maganda na at that same age nag-ta-tantrums ka parin diba?   
« Last Edit: April 17, 2014, 08:44:30 AM by charming_jess »

manhattanite

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^Agree and kudos for giving fresh perspective on the question.  Women put such a premium on looking younger than their age that the other aspect of getting older - being more mature in decision-making, handling problems, dealing with people, acquiring more skills that make us more competitive in the workplace and society - often gets overlooked.  Muka ka ngang 10 years younger than your actual age, pero kung ugali mo kasing immature din, waley.

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32 na ko pero ok lang kahit na sabihan akong tumatanda na.. totoo naman eh.. ang problema sa akin minsan nakakalimutan ko na nadagdagan na naman pala ng 1 year ang age ko hehe
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People always assume i'm younger than my 32 years. Nakakainis lang yun mga people who know my real age telling me na i should start thinking of starting a family na, that i'm not getting any younger. Hay...don't i know that.

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Deadma lang dapat pag ganun.

It's not a woman's sole purpose in life to get married, have a family by bearing children, etc.
It's also not the measure of success. Kesa naman ipilit mo tapos di maganda maging ending or worse, broken family ::)

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^ True.  There are people lang talaga who feel that they have to say something kahit hindi naman nakakatulong. I really stand by the adage: "If you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all."  ;D

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^ i can relate with you sis. im often told i look younger than my age tas pag nalaman na 32 na tanong agad kelan daw ba ako magpapakasal para makabuo na ng pamilya..
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