i'll share mine too
i used to belong to the NBSB hehe! I grew up in the province, my mom was strict and i grew up without a father figure always with me..my dad is a seaman, he is away 80-90% of the year. but he is the one man i always look up. very responsible, loving and he makes up for the time not spent while he is with us. he is gentle and very humble. he is also a very intelligent and wise father. so my ideals are based on his character. i always have the thought " when i'll have i BF it would be like my papa" in my Elementary days, i experience having crushes, the kiligs and all that but no one really pursued me. in HS, the kilig and the butterflies on my stomach was more intense, but since Mama was strict I wasn't allowed to go out or party outside, so parties would be held at our house. sleepovers with girl friends were also allowed as long as it is on our house. somebody was showing interests but i think my idea of a perfect man hindered me plus the fact that all of us in our class are friends so there are really no romantic involvement. I graduated HS without a BF but i had major crushes which had made me cry (now i just laugh about it whenever i remember) My mama would also spend time with us, so my childhood was complete without the need or longing to be filled up.
During my college days,we moved here in Manila, many was showing interest, calling me at home but since my mom was really strict she would interview the caller, ask the Q's who, where, how, how come and all sorts of the Questions mutations, all you could imagine. so no one got the courage to pursue me. the farthest i've been was to go to mass, or look for our internship place or to wait for my sundo ( which is usually my pinsan-who is the driver, my brothers na nasundo na din and sometimes with my mama pa din) so there is really no chance for someone to court me. and as if my ideals were already set. i would find fault to them,my complains would sound like, too nerdy, too ma presko, hindi masyadong ganito, hindi ganyan.
as before, me and my friends would spend our time on our house. cooking, going out and having fun together. No boys, we would talk about them but almost all of us doent have a BF yet, so there’s no preassure to have one.
that time my father was already asking me if i already have “the one” and i could clearly remember how our conversation went and i told him " hindi ako magkaka BF nang hindi mo kasing bait PaPa"
I have a major crush on our neighbor, 6 years my senior, who would patiently talk to me, drive for me and sometimes makes fun of me.and i"ve already started praying a St Claire novena my friend gave to me. I was also talking to God to lead me to the right guy. before, i would ask God to make a certain guy i like fall for me, but I learned that God don't do that if it's not meant to be.I then learned that to ask God, It should be according to his will and not mine. "If he is for me Lord, then it's meant to be, make a way Lord" was my constant prayer. after a few years, my neighbor who is my crush had a GF so i lost my hope. I went on with my life, still with no BF, then one day he volunteered to drive for me, and i found out that he and his GF broke up. He took my number (pager) and promised to send a message. I was sooo kilig at that time. But again , I said to God " God If it's really him, then Give me a sign, please, i've been praying for you for so long already, please do not let me hope again, if he is the one then i will hear from me this week, if it's my other crush ( which was my schoolmate) if i'll see him this week first then he's the one. Please Lord" was how i talked to the Lord.
I was hopeless yet hopefull that he would page me, we've known each other since we were kids but he havent even called me at home but i was still hoping. the chance of bumping to my schoolmate crush was more possible that time, since we were in the same campus, same course, and he borrowed my calculator and anytime he could come and return it to me. while my neighbor crush is always out-o-ftown for his training.
about 5 days after neighbor crush took my pager number, somebody paged me "happy Valentines"-G (it was Feb) i was guessing who could that be, the name wasnt familiar at all. the next day, i received a page again saying "will you be my valentine"-F. that is his name. i found out later on that his name is actually FG. I was euphoric that time. as if i was flying or something. and he paged me before i saw my other crush.
so i ask the Lord if this is really it, FG then continued paging me, sending me cards and showing me i was imporatnt, until he courted me and he told me " if i will be good enough for you, and you will accept me, you will be the last girl i'll love in my life" i was shocked, he would only be my first and he seemed very serious with me already, I never anticipated what to say, but he was gentleman enough not to wait for my answer. He then courted me formally, but my mom was against it at first, but he was so persistent and mabait and so ideal. before pala sabi ko kay God, : god, sana ang maging Bf ko kasingbait at katulad ni FG " hindi pa sya naliligaw noon ha.
but God gave me FG, I was only asking for the one like him , GOD gave me HIM!
In short, he became my first BF, then we got married and now my mom loves him to bits. He would even dye my mom’s hair when I was pregnant and I am not allowed to come in contact with ammonia.
now I know that God must have said when I was asking for somebody to like me "wait, i have chosen the right one for you at the right time"
Up to now, both of us are praying, always praying for God’s guidance in our relationship.