praying for your partner in life

[numonorean]

sis ericaberica, ang galing naman.  He really gave you what you asked for.   at may bonus pa!

i don't really know if the same thing will happen to me.  para kasing hindi siya ang focus ko ngayon.  pero minsan din napapaisip ako.   lalo na kapag kasama ko mga kaibigan ko at parang mas worried pa sila kesa saken.  but i believe in prayers.  lahat ng pinagdasal ko ng matindi e nag-grant niya.  eti lang yata.   siguro dahil alam niyang hindi pa ko handa.

[ericaberica]

How did you prepare yourself pala? how did your build your character?

Hmm, hirap sagutin nito, pero try ko i-summarize, hehe. Bago ko nakilala si H, I did not love myself and God.  I was really confident in work and school, but inside I was shattered.  I had a lot of hang-ups and insecurities. 

So, I always prayed for wisdom, faith, courage, growth.  And God gave that to me by making me go through tests of fire.  Hay, ang dami kong pinag-daanan.  So I guess that was my preparation for H.  I grew up big time.

If we met seven years ago, malamang hiwalay rin kami and he would be the one that got away.  Spoiled kasi ako dati eh.  Tsaka mas magulo akong kausap kaysa ngayon.   

sis ericaberica, ang galing naman.  He really gave you what you asked for.   at may bonus pa!

i don't really know if the same thing will happen to me.  para kasing hindi siya ang focus ko ngayon.  pero minsan din napapaisip ako.   lalo na kapag kasama ko mga kaibigan ko at parang mas worried pa sila kesa saken.  but i believe in prayers.  lahat ng pinagdasal ko ng matindi e nag-grant niya.  eti lang yata.   siguro dahil alam niyang hindi pa ko handa.

Thanks for the comment, hehe.  Tama ka, kapag handa ka na by God´s standards, malalaman mo kung sino siya.    Importante na si God ang mag-decide when ka ready. Akala ko rin di pa ako handa for H kasi marami pa rin akong insecurities when I met him. Nag-break pa nga kami.

Napanood mo ba yung My Sassy Girl?  Parang ako yung girl doon and siya naman yung guy.  Sinusuntok ko siya sa arm pag naiinis ako. Tapos minsan, papasundo ako in the middle of nowhere. Minsan sasabihin ko sa kanya, I hate his face and that his pores are big.    Tiniis niya yun although I was clearly pushing him away.  Akala ko dapat "perfect" na ako when I get married.

When we broke up, that was when I lost my phone.  I softened up and realized, siya na nga talaga. Wag ko nang tigasan ulo ko.  Pray ako ng pray na sana ma-recognize ko yung God´s choice tapos pasaway naman ako.  So sabi ko sa sarili ko, tama na, let go na of my hang-ups. 

Pero, yun pala the reason why we were supposed to meet at that point is because, kasama ko siyang mag-de-deal with those insecurities.  I got healed from them because he was with me.  Same with him and his issues.  We are still growing together.

[icegurl]

^Wow sis, nakaka-inspire talaga ang story mo. 

I think the first thing that I need to do is love myself. Kulang pako sa aspect na yan. Eh diba sabi nga nila how can you love someone else pag hindi mo naman love ang sarili mo.

Oh well, I'm learning. Thanks for sharing sis ericaberica.

[numonorean]

^^wow.  thank you, sis.  tama si sis icegurl.  ang inspiring ng story mo.

i can somehow relate to how you felt.  pakiramdam ko kasi e ganun ako ngayon.  ganun ako for the longest time.  alam ko talagang maldita ako.  matigas ang ulo ko.  sabi pa sakin ng best friend ko, i have a talent of pushing people away.  at dahil madami din akong hang-ups, i just built one wall after another.  ngayon lang ako slowly nagle-let go.  hindi din ako sigurado kung gaano katagal 'tong process na 'to.  pero when i started, sabi ko na lang all in His time.   thanks for sharing, sis.  at least ngayon alam kong may pag-asa pa 'ko.

^sis, good luck din sa 'yo.  dadating din siguro yung time natin, mare.

[ericaberica]

You are welcome.   Mahahanap niyo rin yan.  Deal tayo, pagdasal natin hanggang mahanap niyo na.   Sabihin niyo na lang sa akin kapag may nakukutuban na kayo, hehe.

[icegurl]

^ sure sis, thanks sa prayers. I'll keep you posted pag meron na

[ayen]

Hmm, hirap sagutin nito, pero try ko i-summarize, hehe. Bago ko nakilala si H, I did not love myself and God.  I was really confident in work and school, but inside I was shattered.  I had a lot of hang-ups and insecurities. 

So, I always prayed for wisdom, faith, courage, growth.  And God gave that to me by making me go through tests of fire.  Hay, ang dami kong pinag-daanan.  So I guess that was my preparation for H.  I grew up big time.

If we met seven years ago, malamang hiwalay rin kami and he would be the one that got away.  Spoiled kasi ako dati eh.  Tsaka mas magulo akong kausap kaysa ngayon.   

Thanks for the comment, hehe.  Tama ka, kapag handa ka na by God´s standards, malalaman mo kung sino siya.    Importante na si God ang mag-decide when ka ready. Akala ko rin di pa ako handa for H kasi marami pa rin akong insecurities when I met him. Nag-break pa nga kami.

Napanood mo ba yung My Sassy Girl?  Parang ako yung girl doon and siya naman yung guy.  Sinusuntok ko siya sa arm pag naiinis ako. Tapos minsan, papasundo ako in the middle of nowhere. Minsan sasabihin ko sa kanya, I hate his face and that his pores are big.    Tiniis niya yun although I was clearly pushing him away.  Akala ko dapat "perfect" na ako when I get married.

When we broke up, that was when I lost my phone.  I softened up and realized, siya na nga talaga. Wag ko nang tigasan ulo ko.  Pray ako ng pray na sana ma-recognize ko yung God´s choice tapos pasaway naman ako.  So sabi ko sa sarili ko, tama na, let go na of my hang-ups. 

Pero, yun pala the reason why we were supposed to meet at that point is because, kasama ko siyang mag-de-deal with those insecurities.  I got healed from them because he was with me.  Same with him and his issues.  We are still growing together.

wow touch naman ako dito...ask ko lang mga sis is there any particular saint to devote a novena for "the one"? im 30 already and kulang na lang ipamigay na ako ng parents at cousin's ko...overstaying na daw ako sa bahay namin at dapat daw may bayad na pagtira ko don kaya dapat daw mag-asawa na ako...eh pano kaya yon wala naman akong bf though hindi naman ako nagwoworry kase most of my friends are still single pero syempre im still praying for this particular person...hay...

[rainbow11]

^girl, i found it.. try to google: prayer for suitable partner/husband. basta nakita ko, si st.catherine pala. goodluck sa 'tin!

[freeswan]

halos same kami ni sis ericaberica ng story.

i also had several boyfriends dati. my first breakup was when i was in 2nd year high school. grabe, ang sakit mga sis. then i really prayed to God. "God, d ko kaya ng walang partner pero titiisin ko. pag binigyan mo ako, make sure na love niya ako." yun lang ang sinabi ko. it took me a year to find the next bf. while waiting for him, nagccount ako "Lord, 6 months na, wala pa rin siya." naiinip na ako nun. ganun pala yun, pagsanay ka na na may bf, pag nagbreak kayo, hahanap-hanapin mo yung feeling na may nakakausap ka anytime you want to.

tapos nung nameet ko na second big relationship ko. ok ah! "Thank you Lord, mahal niya ako." true enough, sobrang mahal niya ako to a point na possessive na siya. and worse, yun lang alam niya, mahalin ako. pero d niya ako nauunawaan. love niya ako in a selfish way. d ko kinaya yun. kelangan kong makipaghiwalay sa kanya kasi nasasakal ako pero abot langit yung pagmamahal ko sa kanya siya din sa akin pero feeling ko if ever pakasalan ko siya, d ako magiging maligaya for myself. kaya humindi ako sa offer ng pagpapakasal. i was young then. but he was rich. inisip ko talaga yun, d bale ng wala ng fancy gifts and fancy dinners. kahit wala ng magsusundo sa akin everyday from school, "Lord, give me wisdom to know if siya nga." hindi nga siya. naghiwalay kami. this time, times two yung sakit. 3 years kami nun and mahal ko siya. mahal na mahal. wala naman third party pero ayoko lang talaga yung pagiging seloso and possessive niya. minsan kasi effect ng drugs. nagddrugs kasi. pero ibang story naman namin yung drugs. so ayun, break na kami. pero for a year nagkikita pa rin kami, on/off secretly kasi mahal pa namin ang isa't isa. bati/ away. ganun hanggang sa napagod ako. i prayed to God "Lord, sana bigyan mo ko ng someon na aalagaan ako ang love ko. d bale ng hindi mayaman basta kaya akong buhayin. " I waited patiently. while waiting, I had several bf's yung basta lang sabihin na may bf ka pero alam mong for fun. para lang d ako mainip and d ko mapansin yung time. ayoko na kasi magbilang kung ilang months na ang nagdaan na single ako. yikes! i felt cheap talaga nun. if ever walang bf, walang araw na d ako umuuwi na lasing para lang makatulog. then lumayo ako, i found myself. i found my first job. then i met my fiance now. at first magkaaway kami, then naging friends. hindi ko inisip that he'll eventually become my bf. d ko lang napansin na nagiging close kami. akala ko lang isa lang 'to sa mga flings ko. turns out he's very serious. super bilib ako sa sacrifices na ginawa niya for me. then naalala ko yung prinay ko kay God "someone na magaalaga and mahal ako", siya nga. very maalaga to me. it's been 5 years since that prayer. now, and pinpray ko na everyday is "bless our relationship. let us grow with your love and blessing." sa awa Niya, eto kami ngayon, magkasama sa isang house, preparing for our wedding this December. ang bait pa ng fiance ko. man of God pa. ang bait talaga ni Lord.

[ericaberica]

^Nice one sis swan. Ano yung signs na naramdaman mo that made you believe he is the one?

[freeswan]

you know sis, sa lahat ng lalake na nakilala ko, siya lang ang nakaintindi ng past ko, mga pinagdaanan ko. when i got sick and is in the hospital for a week, he was with me and left his job para lang masamahan  ako hospital. when i want to go out of town with my girlfriends and ayoko siya kasama, he understands, may kasama pang pocket money. hehe. minsan pag pagod ako sa work, pag-uwi ko sa house, may food na ko and ready na yung bed para pag natulog ako, malinis. basta super alaga talaga ako.

[pinkychel]

nainspire naman ako sa stories nyo mga sisses. there is really power in waiting ano? and much more and bigger(redundant ba?ahehe) power in prayer. come to think of it, hindi talaga ako yung type na pinipray yung soon-to-be partner-n-life ko. though i pray for him once in a while pro not religiously talaga. as in yung parang passing lang kumbaga to think na nbsb ako in my age of 23. hayz. thanks for the inspiration mga sisses!  im looking forward to meet God's best for me.

[prettymom]

i'll share mine too 

i used to belong to the NBSB hehe! I grew up in the province, my mom was strict and i grew up without a father figure always with me..my dad is a seaman, he is away 80-90% of the year. but he is the one man i always look up. very responsible, loving and he makes up for the time not spent while he is with us. he is gentle and very humble. he is also a very intelligent and wise father. so my ideals are based on his character. i always have the thought " when i'll have i BF it would be like my papa" in my Elementary days, i experience having crushes, the kiligs and all that but no one really  pursued me. in HS, the kilig and the butterflies on my stomach was more intense, but since Mama was strict I wasn't allowed to go out or party outside, so parties would be held at our house. sleepovers with girl friends were also allowed as long as it is on our house. somebody was showing interests but i think my idea of a perfect man hindered me plus the fact that all of us in our class are friends so there are really no romantic involvement. I graduated HS without a BF but i had major crushes which had made me cry (now i just laugh about it whenever i remember)  My mama would also spend time with us, so my childhood was complete without the need or longing to be filled up.

During my college days,we moved here in Manila, many was showing interest, calling me at home but since my mom was really strict she would interview the caller, ask the Q's who, where, how, how come and all sorts of the Questions mutations, all you could imagine. so no one got the courage to pursue me. the farthest i've been was to go to mass, or look for our internship place or to wait for my sundo ( which is usually my pinsan-who is the driver, my brothers na nasundo na din and sometimes with my mama pa din) so there is really no chance for someone to court me. and as if my ideals were already set. i would find fault to them,my complains would sound like, too nerdy, too ma presko, hindi masyadong ganito, hindi ganyan.
as before, me and my friends would spend our time on our house. cooking, going out and having fun together. No boys, we would talk about them but almost all of us doent have a BF yet, so there’s no preassure to have one.

that time my father was already asking me if i already have “the one” and i could clearly remember how our conversation went and i told him " hindi ako magkaka BF nang hindi mo kasing bait PaPa"
I have a major crush on our neighbor, 6 years my senior, who would patiently talk to me, drive for me and sometimes makes fun of me.and i"ve already started praying a St Claire novena my friend gave to me. I was also talking to God to lead me to the right guy. before, i would ask God to make a certain guy i like fall for me, but I learned that God don't do that if it's not meant to be.I then learned that to ask God, It should be according to his will and not mine. "If he is for me Lord, then it's meant to be, make a way Lord" was my constant prayer. after a few years, my neighbor who is my crush had a GF so i lost my hope. I went on with my life, still with no BF, then one day he volunteered to drive for me, and i found out that he and his GF broke up. He took my number (pager) and promised to  send a message. I was sooo kilig at that time. But again , I said to God " God If it's really him, then Give me a sign, please, i've been praying for you for so long already, please do not let me hope again, if he is the one then i will hear from me this week, if it's my other crush ( which was my schoolmate) if i'll see him this week first then he's the one. Please Lord" was how i talked to the Lord.
I was hopeless yet hopefull that he would page me, we've known each other since we were kids but he havent even called me at home but i was still hoping. the chance of bumping to my schoolmate crush was more possible that time, since we were in the same campus, same course, and he borrowed my calculator and anytime he could come and return it to me. while my neighbor crush is always out-o-ftown for his training.
about 5 days after neighbor crush took my pager number, somebody paged me "happy Valentines"-G (it was Feb) i was guessing who could that be, the name wasnt familiar at all. the next day, i received a page again saying "will you be my valentine"-F. that is his name. i found out later on that his name is actually FG. I was euphoric that time. as if i was flying or something. and he paged me before i saw my other crush.
so i ask the Lord if this is really it, FG then continued paging me, sending me cards and showing me i was imporatnt, until he courted me and he told me " if i will be good enough for you, and you will accept me, you will be the last girl i'll love in my life" i was shocked, he would only be my first and he seemed very serious with me already, I never anticipated what to say, but he was gentleman enough not to wait for my answer. He then courted me formally, but my mom was against it at first, but he was so persistent and mabait and so ideal. before pala sabi ko kay God, : god, sana ang maging Bf ko kasingbait at katulad ni FG " hindi pa sya naliligaw noon ha.
but God gave me FG, I was only asking for the one like him , GOD gave me HIM!
In short, he became my first BF, then we got married and now my mom loves him to bits. He would even dye my mom’s hair when I was pregnant and I am not allowed to come in contact with ammonia.

now I know that God must have said when I was asking for somebody to like me "wait, i have chosen the right one for you at the right time"
Up to now, both of us are praying, always praying for God’s guidance in our relationship.

[pinkychel]

^so cute ng story mo prettymom. excited na tuloy ako sa aking own love story. ahehe. 

[freeswan]

@ericaberica, not much of a significant sign talaga sis. yung dapat makakita akong roses ibig sabihin siya na nga. hindi ganun. i did not ask God for signs. i just ask him na if siya man, ibigay na niya. until yung mga ginagawa ni fiance ko sa akin, those are signs na pala pero since hindi ako umasa sa signs, naniwala ako that those gestures are ways of showing his love for me.

last night i told my fiance about this thread and asked him if siya din ba prayed to God. surprisingly, he said YES. his prayer daw was ibigay na daw yung para sa kanya, kasi dati prayer niya, "lord, sana si ganito na. ibigay niyo na siya sa akin. " eventually, naging broken hearted siya a lot of times. but when he's patient and asked God for that someone, I came to his life. hehe. happy story. na touch ako.

[gabo]

..ganda naman ng mga lovestory nyo...sana ibigay na ni GOD yun para sakin...LORD sana magbago na siya...

[ericaberica]

Freeswan, nice to hear that he also prayed for you.    H did that as well kaya siguro tiniis niya ako kasi binigyan siya ni God ng grace to handle me at that time.

[pinkychel]

pag dumating na si Mr. Right ko I'll also ask him if he prayed for me. hehe. 

[ericaberica]

wow touch naman ako dito...ask ko lang mga sis is there any particular saint to devote a novena for "the one"?

Sorry sis di ko nasagot kahapon.  Wala I just prayed everyday to God na please take care of my future husband.  Alam mo ang funny diyan is that I was praying for him even if I had another bf at that time. 

Mararamdaman mo naman kasi if He is not God´s choice.  Paano ko nalaman?  Kasi lagi akong sinasaktan emotionally nung boy na yun. 

[icegurl]

Nakaka-inspire mga story niyo. It somehow made me hopeful na there is still someone for me.
Meron kasi akong self-confidence issues. Feeling ko, I'm never that good for anyone. I have this notion kasi na you have to be perfect for someone. Ewan ko ba naman san ko nakuha yung ganong thinking.