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Re: single moms. share your stories
« Reply #40 on: May 22, 2009, 04:44:40 PM »
oi lovesick wag ka matakot mag asawa malay mo makahanap ka ng matinong lalaki ngayon which is very very few nalang ata kaya nga maswerte nalang ngayon yung mga happily married. pero ako strike 2 ko na to kaya di na talaga ako mag aasawa as in napatunayan ko na na malas ako sa mga lalake kaya focus nalang ako sa mga baby i know sa kanila ako sweswertehen hehe.
i was afraid to get hurt , to be rejected again but there i landed and i dont know how to stop the pain.

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« Reply #41 on: May 22, 2009, 06:59:25 PM »
^bakit sis? ano nangyari? malay mo mahulog naman loob natin sa mga boys... haha... as of now, mahirap talaga maghanap ng matinong lalake. pray na lang tayo baka magrasyahan. :)
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« Reply #42 on: July 15, 2009, 02:52:35 AM »
sobrang saya, lalo na pag nakikita mong lumalaki na si baby at maraming ng bagong nalalaman. Nakakawala ng pagod at sobrang nakakatuwa :)
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« Reply #43 on: July 16, 2009, 02:13:48 AM »
I am a single mom, I never got married for reason na ayaw nang parent ko. Kakatuwa! But I never regretted being a single mom kahit pa ang hirap nang pina sukan ko! I have 4 daughters, now they are 24,23,16, and 14 years old. Lahat iyon pinalaki ko mag isa. I was working at the age of 13 years old pa lang ako and helping my parents also sa family business namin. Left and right ang trabaho ko. I never ask any support sa father nila. Ayoko lang nang sakit nang ulo, at parang nag papalimos ako. Ganon ako ka pride! I never got married for reasons na ang pinag hirapan ko gusto ko sa mga ank ko lang mapunta. Kaso mas ang hirap nang loob ko nang malalaki na sila. Eto na ang manahan kahit pa hinde pa ako patay. Well [textspeak!] 2 kong panganay may work na sila. But I never ask anything o tulong sa kanila, hangang sa kayanin ko pa rin ang lahat until now. Ang hirap nang maging single mom un lang yon. Basta ang alam ko lang ngayon obligasyon ko at responsiblidad ko sa kanila. Minsan nakakapagod din kahit mahirap intindihin, iniintindi ko kahit nasasaktan ako!  :'( :'( :'(

sis never kayo nagpakasal ng babydaddy mo? ako kasi 2 na ang anak namin ni babydaddy and di din kasal. super love mo ba sya at umabot pa sa 4 ang kids nyo kahit di kasaL? ang galing mo sis. kinaya mo palakihin ang mga anak mo..

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« Reply #44 on: July 16, 2009, 02:34:38 AM »
Im a single mom too.
My son is already 13 mos.
Nangangapa parin kasi wala akong work now and wala ang parents ko dito.
Kami lang ni baby and yaya.
Mahirap pero nakakaya naman.
Sad din ang story ko.
But masaya kami ni baby.
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« Reply #45 on: July 16, 2009, 09:55:32 AM »
hay grabe din talaga maging single mom. pag malaki na mararamdaman mong magisa ka nalang. which make sense bakit ang mga single mom pag malaki na anak ay nagkaka-bf na.

sis ilovezach paano mo kinaya? parang parehas tayo ng situation. nasan na daddy ni baby??

i know malalagpasan naten lahat single moms. :)

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« Reply #46 on: July 16, 2009, 09:36:42 PM »
^ i dont care san na sya  :)
nasa manila sya, I decided to go home i my parents house kasi.
He is working and he gives financial support naman kay baby.

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« Reply #47 on: July 16, 2009, 11:28:25 PM »
^ hindi kayo good term ni daddy ni baby? hay. ano ba yan kinakabahan ako samen.


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« Reply #48 on: July 17, 2009, 12:38:55 AM »
^ hindi in good terms, but its better this way  :)

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« Reply #49 on: July 17, 2009, 06:26:28 AM »
ako din single mom.. 2 na anak ko, both boys.. mahirap maging single mom specially pag kinakapos ka na sa finances.. pero don't worry sis, God is good. maniwala ka.. :D
"Pakawalan mo yung mga bagay na nakakasakit sa iyo kahit na pinasasaya ka nito. Wag mong hintayin ang araw na sakit na lang ang nararamdaman mo at iniwan ka na ng kasiyahan mo."

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« Reply #50 on: July 17, 2009, 10:13:19 PM »
hello mommies! aba, ang ibang sisterettes na nasa kabilang thread andito rin pala.. diba sis bjgem and lee? hehe.. ;)

single mom din po ako to my 3-year old son. for me, mahirap na masarap maging single mom. mahirap dahil solo mo ang expenses. mahirap dahil we should be able to show both strictness and compassion lalo na sa pagdi-disiplina sa bata. pero masarap maging single mom kasi you are in sole control on how you want to bring up your child. walang hubby or in-laws na makikialam sa iyo. as a mother naman, hindi naman natin palalakihin ng baluktot ang mga babies natin diba? another thing is, as a single mom, i think i am enjoying the "best of both worlds" - yung freedom ng pagiging single and unattached, and yung fulfillment ng isang mother. just my opinion lang po.  :)
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« Reply #51 on: July 17, 2009, 10:36:06 PM »
pero mga sis never niyo ba naisip daddy ni baby? 

kailan niyo natanggap na never na kayo maging buo as a family? or up to now youre still hoping that one day makukumpleto kayo.

syempre bilang babae we never dreamed or planned to be a single mom.

tama ba?

 

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« Reply #52 on: July 17, 2009, 11:09:45 PM »
^ sis vanessas, siguro mas nangingibabaw yung galit ko nun sa dad ng baby ko kaya madali ako naka-move on. but i guess part of the moving-on process is also forgiving him and letting go of the bitter feelings. pero forgiving is not equal to giving him another chance. NO WAY. iam 100% sure that things are better now kesa kung nagsama pa kami at kinasal. i would be better off with my son, and he would be better off with his beliefs and his family. ok na ako kahit pa single mom ako. kahit pa siguro makita ko yung dad ng baby ko na with another woman. baka kamayan ko pa sila at batiin sila ng genuine/sincere wishes of congratulations kapag nakita ko na may iba na sya. it just means na ok na rin sya at hindi na nya kami hahabulin pa in the future.  :)
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« Reply #53 on: July 17, 2009, 11:36:26 PM »
^hay sis nakakabilib pero at the same time natatakot ako lalo sa pwedeng maging future ko. hindi ata ako kasing strong niyo. pero try kong kayanin lahat ng ibigay saken. :(

hindi ba hinahanap ni baby daddy niya?

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« Reply #54 on: July 18, 2009, 12:14:50 AM »
^ sis, yung boss ko dati nung nalaman nya na preggy ako out of wedlock, isa lang ang sinabi nya sa akin and it made an impact. sabi nya, "Hindi ibibigay ni God 'yang trial na 'yan sa iyo kung alam Nya na hindi mo kakayanin".  ;)

as of now hindi nya hinahanap. at this early kasi unti-unti ko na syang ino-orient sa situation namin. pero syempre without divulging all the details kasi di pa maiintindihan ng bata yun. at this early he knows wala sya "papa" (dada kasi tawag nya sa tatay ko,lolo nya). his "papa" left us kasi may mga bagay na hindi namin talaga mapagkasunduan. pero it doesn't mean na wala syang papa eh abnormal na sya. kasi kahit wala syang papa, mahal naman sya ng buong family ko.

nasa 'yo yan sis. always pray.  :)
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« Reply #55 on: July 20, 2009, 04:35:33 AM »
I am a single mom of four.  I have 2 boys and 2 girls who are identical twins.  I've been a single mom for almost 10yrs.  Mga sis, magulo ang naging buhay ko noon to the point that even some of my relatives call me "pokpok,haliparot,makati etc" because my eldest has a different father.  Di na daw ako natututo sabi nila.  It came to a point that sobrang hirap ng finances tapos sobrang depressed pa ko because wala akong nakakausap.  I separated myself from the society kahit sa friends ko.  Ang tagal kong walang kaibigan na nakausap.  I was afraid na kahit sila will judge me and it'll just add up to my depression.
Dumaan ako sa point na i wasn't able to buy yung milk sa lata..laging nakabox lang ang afford ko.  Kahit yung diapers tipid lalo na when I had the twins.

grabe pa ang mga pinagdaanan ko na I became too matured for my age.


Fast forward natin ang story.  Through prayers, I was able to overcome everything.  Okay na ko financially pero minsan kulang pa rin lalo na the 4 of them are all in school. 

Prayers lang and courage to face all the trials.  I had no other choice but to be strong for myself and for my kids.

Now, I can say that am okay.  My eldest gets to see his dad pero since ayaw na sumama sa kanila, stop na rin ang support.  My youngest son and my twins have no memory of their father.  Last time na nakita sila ng father nila was during their baptistm na wala pa silang 1 year old that time.


Life was difficult. I can say that I haven't had any decent sleep in 10yrs.  I have a lot to complain about pero the pain and stress vanishes when I get to see the smile on my kids faces.  My kids are doing great in school. Honor students ang 3.  They make me proud. Sabi ko nga sa sarili ko na baka di ako swerte sa pag-aasawa pero swerte ako sa mga anak ko.


I'm not regretting that I became a single mom and a mom at a young age but I would not wish this to happen to anyone else.  The pain's not a joke. The hardships are not easy.



ROCK ON, SINGLE MOMS!


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« Reply #56 on: July 20, 2009, 08:58:40 AM »
^ sis grabe story mo.  :o

sobrang strong mo. your kids are so lucky to have a mom like you.

hay.

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« Reply #57 on: July 20, 2009, 08:55:38 PM »
i'm also a single mom of a 3 mos old baby girl.. gonna leave her sa parents ko for work abroad. It is a very hard decission but this is all for her. I'm very positive that we will be fine without her dad. Her dad and I are not in good terms at wala din kami communication since 4 mos preggy ako.. still, i can say.. i'm/we're better off without him. I don't love him that much to keep him and he is not even worth keeping. I'm happy being a  mom, masaya ako sa anak ko, pero magsisimula pa lang ang laban.. napakalaking sakripisyo kasi ang mapalayo sa kanya, kelangan eh..
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« Reply #58 on: July 20, 2009, 09:10:53 PM »
^sis halos pareho tayo ng plan. kung papalarin ng Diyos mangingibang bansa din ako. magiipon talaga ako ng bonggang bongga.and syempre para narin sa self growth , ayoko pagsisihan na hindi ko ginawa ang gusto ko. baka si baby pa masisi ko.

btw hindi mo ba naisip na takot lang sa responsibility daddy ni baby mo? ano ba nangyare sa inyo? if you dont mind sharing your story.
« Last Edit: July 20, 2009, 09:12:57 PM by vanessas »

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« Reply #59 on: July 21, 2009, 12:37:22 AM »
 

   Working abroad crossed my mind millions of time.  Syempre para I will be able to provide better future for my kiddos.  Pero naisip ko rin na wala na silang dad tapos mawawala pa ko.  I'm still torn ngayon kasi I really need to secure their future.  My parents are supportive pero parang di ko talaga kaya kasi seeing my kids everyday gives me strength. ???
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