Author Topic: single moms. share your stories (Read 32355 times)

k_heart · « **Reply #260 on:** August 27, 2012, 03:43:18 pm »

^^Sis Jhen,tama si sis Slick, dapat binigyan ka talaga nila ng solo parent ID. Kalowka dyan sa municipal office nyo ha. Yung staff namin na sinasabi ko nakakuha sya ng solo parent id also kahit live in sila nung BF nya. 2 yung kids nya, yung isa lang ang sa bf nya. Sa office kasi namin, kulang benefits pag single mom. Although sa panganganak naman, they have the same benefits as the married moms.

jhenpretty · « **Reply #261 on:** August 28, 2012, 08:56:27 am »

Thanks sis slickchick and sis k_heart sa advice and info. I will try to apply ulit for solo parent ID para maavail ko yung solo parent benefits. Nakakaloka nga sila e. They advice me pa na makipagbreak sa bf ko and dapat daw pakasalan ako. Kakaloka sila.. Thanks ulit. ^_^

yabsko · « **Reply #262 on:** November 19, 2012, 10:25:13 pm »

masakit, mahirap...pero sa una lang yun. Time heals all wounds although you will never forget, but at least we have a remembrance of the lesson that once allowed us to know our worth and showed us how strong we are. .

no regret.

22 yrs old na ko.. malapit na maging single mom.. we're not in good terms ng pinagbubuntis ko.. nagtatago na sya ee. pero kaya ko to.. aalagaan ko ng ayos magiging baby ko,kahit nagiisa lang ako.

jhenpretty · « **Reply #263 on:** November 20, 2012, 02:56:28 pm »

Hello sisses! Hindi na pala ako nakapag-post back ulit. Nakakuha na ako ng solo parent ID and I was surprise dahil hindi nila ako tinanong kung may bf pa ako.. Thank God.. For now Solo Parent Leave pa lang ang naggagamit ko using this ID.. ^_^

pretty empress · « **Reply #264 on:** December 14, 2012, 09:46:56 pm »

i am single mom for 6yrs now, sa una lang ako nahirapan, until dz past few months, nagkaroon ako ng depression due to trauma. Kumakapit lang ako kay God, di rin ako yung mahilig magshare sa family coz im the eldest, ayaw ko ipakitang weak ako..di rin talaga ako sanay mag open up, nahihirapan ako, unang sentence pa lang nahagulgol na ako.. LOL! But still life must go on..

TowBerryBlue · « **Reply #265 on:** December 15, 2012, 10:10:44 pm »

joining!

newly single mom of a very gwapo 1 year old boy. mahirap lalo na pag iniintindi ko ang gastos pero i am learning. Actually, I learned how to spend my money wisely and at the same time, nagpa-plan na talaga ako. I know I have to work hard for my son and kahit pagbaliktarin ko na naman ang umaga at gabi, gagawin ko.

I have a hard time trusting people. As in, parang wala akong tiwala sa mga tao ngayon. Feeling ko lahat sila lolokohin ako. I know this too shall pass. Maraming blessings actually. Yung mga inaantay ko na emails, dumadating na isa-isa.

May nag shut nga ng door sa akin, sangkaterba naman na window ang bumukas and di ko napansin, may mga door din na nag open. Masyado ko kasi pilit binubuksan yung nakasarang door na. haay!

I also learned how to forgive. As in total forgiveness! Feeling ko when I did that, na free ko yung sarili ko sa hatred and bitterness. I'm still a work in progress pero I am getting there. Oh yeah, mas gumanda ako! lolz...

sweetwitch · « **Reply #266 on:** January 25, 2013, 03:44:09 pm »

Joining din!

i'm a soon-to-be single mom... as i was reading your stories lumalakas ang loob ko to face, i guess, the biggest challenge of my life. though ok naman kami ni SD, wala pa din sya lakas ng loob na humarap sa pamilya ko. so sabi ko sa kanya, kung di pa din sya magkakalakas ng loob na humarap before i give birth (7 mos preggy), pasensyahan na lang pero sa akin ko iaapelyido ang baby. pero parang pinipiga ang puso ko thinking na bukod sa walang middle name ang anak ko, ang makikita sa birth cert nya sa father eh UNKNOWN. Ipinagpepray ko pa din na sana bigyan sya ni Lord ng lakas ng loob.

happy ako na may ganitong thread... and thank you girls for sharing your stories... a big help indeed.

cheers to the single moms!

jhenpretty · « **Reply #267 on:** February 21, 2013, 11:36:05 am »

Dito lang ako for you sisses.. Mahirap talaga yung walang napagsasaabihan ng problem.. Stay strong.. May magandang reason at plan si God para sa atin.. ^_^

chiqmom · « **Reply #268 on:** February 21, 2013, 02:35:54 pm »

Quote from: pretty empress on December 14, 2012, 09:46:56 pm

i am single mom for 6yrs now, sa una lang ako nahirapan, until dz past few months, nagkaroon ako ng depression due to trauma. Kumakapit lang ako kay God, di rin ako yung mahilig magshare sa family coz im the eldest, ayaw ko ipakitang weak ako..di rin talaga ako sanay mag open up, nahihirapan ako, unang sentence pa lang nahagulgol na ako.. LOL! But still life must go on..

I feel you sis. I also don't like talking about my story because I'd rather move on, and forget the pain. Kapag iniisip ko lang, mas lalong masakit. But I'm with good terms with my husband, we are friends now. But still, as you look back, you will still feel like something is missing.

momentum · « **Reply #269 on:** February 28, 2013, 02:18:00 pm »

kung pwede lang mag-resign nalang sa work and just stay at home to take care of my kid instead of dealing with the stress of having a nanny na hindi mapagkatiwalaan and can't do the job

stressed ka na nga sa kakawork and being alone, carrying all the burden, stressed ka pa dahil sa nanny na hindi makatrabaho nalang ng maayos para makahinga ka naman. buwisit!

mariadj · « **Reply #270 on:** March 02, 2013, 05:03:52 am »

^same predicament tayo sis

viellemacey · « **Reply #271 on:** April 09, 2013, 09:20:47 pm »

single mom here

the very 1st moment n nalaman ko na preggy ako ininform ko agad si bf.at 1st ok sya, sinasamahan nya ko sa ob and when we found out that i'm at the high risk pregnancy, i decided, and he agreed, na umuwe ako sa province namin while he's finding a way to inform his parents tsaka pinsan ko lang kasama ko sa apartment kaya mahirap talaga for me. and when i'm already here na nagpalokoloko na, tapos saka sinabi sakin na di pa sya ready maging family guy. imagine ako pa mismo nagsabi sa mom nya over the phone na preggy ako. akala ko magiging ok lahat but when dad asked them to come over just to talk at para kahit papano may makita naman yung mga kapitbahay namin kung sino ang daddy naku dami na nila dahilan, kesyo walang magaasikaso ng business, blah blah. i tried to understand them, muka naman kasing kapanipaniwala dahilan nila until sabihin sakin ng mommy nya na "bata ka pa naman makakahanap ka pa ng iba. hindi lang naman ikaw ang nagkaganyan" she even said "sana sinabi nyo agad sakin ni _____ nung maliit pa yan para nagawan ng paraan, may tita syang head nurse sa pampanga" ( parang gusto nya ipaabort? ). OMG napatahimik talaga ako, di ko inexpect yung ganung words sa isang ina. that made me decide to let myself be a single mom. sabi pa nila kung gusto ko raw talaga tatanggapin naman nila ako punta na lang raw ako manila at susunduin nila ako punta sa bahay nila. tama ba naman yun e alam nilang buntis ako tapos ako pa talaga uutusan nila. nung sinabi ko na ayoko, ayun di na sila nagparamdam.

nung nanganak ako ininform ko dad ng baby ko kasi pre-term baby sya, grabe hanggang text lang nagawa nya. di man lang tumawag kahit na alam nyang nakaincubate yung baby namin. tapos nung nalaman nya na almost ok na si baby namissing in action na naman.

ang pinakanakakaloka todo post pa sya ngayon sa fb ng pictures nila ng gf nya, which i found out pangalawang gf na nya simula nung nabuntis ako. hayyyy ang kati nya wagas ang pagkahipon

di ko sya inaunfriend, gusto kong makita nya yung greatest blessing na tinanggihan nya

at first it was really very difficult, and yung mga tanong at mga chismis ng mga chismosang walang kwenta make it harder pa. pero aminin natin mga mommy mas namomotivate (sa lahat ng bagay) tayo because of our babies

BTW 3 months na ang baby z ko and i'm happy, my family's happy. super spoiled sya ng dad ko

jaemi33 · « **Reply #272 on:** April 11, 2013, 03:02:51 pm »

Hi to all the single moms here. I'm not a single mom but MY MOM is, so I just want to cheer everyone and share my mom's inspring story in here.

My mom divorced with my dad when I was 14. She has four children including me with my dad. Houswife lang siya nung una kaya wala talaga siya money to support us so she decided to work abroad and left us to our lola and tita. It was very hard to see how my family fall apart and to be seperated with my mom kasi mama's girl ako, pero naging okay naman kasi pinuno naman kami mag kakapatid ng pagmamahal ng relatives namin. Nung married pa sila ng dad ko, my siblings and I were going to private school na may pangalan talaga but then nung nag divorce sila kala namin lilipat kami ng school pero she forced us to keep going on the same school. She never missed our needs kahit na nasa abroad siya, tapos there comes a time na lahat kami pumunta na sa abroad to live with her, doon ko lang nawitness kung gaano ka laki yung sacrifice na binigay ng mom ko para sa amin.

She was living in a small apartment since she was trying to save money for us. Her life routine was to work and sleep talaga. She burried herself to work para hindi niya kami mamiss. Just thinking that my mom spent couple of christmas and her birthdays alone in that small apartment breaks my heart. Kahit na hirap na hirap siya never niyang pinapakita sa amin na umiiyak siya (except ngayon na mejo malalaki na kami mas comfortable na siya ipakita sa amin ang weak side niya since she can depend on us now) She let me go to an expensive university here and even let me go to study abroad. For her, kami talaga ang no. priority niya in life and to give us best of everything.

I really repsect, admire and love my mom. I always feel her love for us and kahit ngayon wala pa kami naibabalik sa kanya, we definitely appreciate whe she has done for us. So lahat ng single mom there, I just like to say na all of you are beautiful and strong independent women and I respect all of you with that. In time, maririnig niyo rin yan sa mga anak niyo and I just hope to hear that everything was worth it

By the way, my mom is in a relationship now with different man and she really looks happy now

When the right time comes, all your sacrifices will come back to you as big fat blessings.

momentum · « **Reply #273 on:** April 12, 2013, 09:21:54 am »

^ Thank you very much sis jaemi33 for sharing your story. It is very inspiring. We single moms always strive to give the best to our kids and mold them to be the greatest they can be so they can be happy, even if it means being selfless most of the time and doing all this on our own.

pinkswirls12 · « **Reply #274 on:** April 17, 2013, 10:33:39 pm »

joining mga sis. i am not yet a mom but i am 33weeks pregnant now. i am single since nov last year and i have no communication with SD since december. i am decided to have my baby's surname same as mine but sometimes this makes me teary eyed. thinking that my daughter will not have a middle name and for sure she'll ask about it in the future. but i am very thankful to God everyday for the people surrounding me especially my family and friends who did not judge me and my situation and for a safe and healthy pregnancy. right now, i am very excited to see, hold and cuddle my baby girl..

viellemacey · « **Reply #275 on:** April 18, 2013, 12:59:12 am »

^middle name issue is also my worry. it breaks my heart everytime i think of how to explain to her when she start asking "why" without her getting hurt because i know there's no way i could take the pain away, truth really hurts, sucks! this world is so cruel, people are very judgmental and insensitive. no matter how hard we ( single moms ) try to pretend that life is still beautiful even without their dad, others will always have their own way of breaking that barrier and exposing our child to pain

pinkswirls12 · « **Reply #276 on:** April 18, 2013, 09:38:06 am »

^my worry sis is when she will go to school. no middle name, father's name is unknown or n/a. haaaay life! i just pray that our children will understand why these things happened. that they may not see us as a selfish mother but a protective one..

slickchick · « **Reply #277 on:** April 18, 2013, 10:28:45 am »

^ hi sis pinkswirls and viellemacey. that was also one of my worries when i was still pregnant. but as my son was growing (he's now 6 years old turning 7 this april), and with the support of family and genuine friends, the problem with the middle name became the least of my worries. children nowadays are smart. as long as you are honest, open, and patient in explaining to them (in an objective manner) what happened, they will and they can understand.

viellemacey · « **Reply #278 on:** April 18, 2013, 10:39:59 am »

^^same here. girl din baby mo? last week i opened a savings account for my dau and this super pakialamerang teller told me i should ask my baby's dad to atleast sign an affidavit of paternity para may middle name baby ko. nakakainis kita nya na nga na NA nakalagay dun sa father's name eh.

^thank you sis. actually ngayon pa lang iniisip ko na paano ihahandle ang sitwasyon kapag nagtanong na si baby. ayoko lumaki sya na laging may ? sa sarili.

pinkswirls12 · « **Reply #279 on:** April 18, 2013, 04:07:09 pm »

^^thank you sis. naiisip ko lang mga batang bully. sabihan ang anak ko, weird ka walang middle name! hindi ko pa naman alam magiging personality ng anak ko so siguro dapat nga wag ko na muna alalahanin yun.

^yes sis, ill be having a baby girl. alam mo sis minsan naiisip ko sana bago magkamuwang baby ko, makilala ko na ang tamang lalaki for me at iadopt nya si baby. bago man lang magschool ayos na ang lahat kaso parang ang desperada tignan di ba. nakakairita yang teller na yan ah!! sana naman iorient sila sa work na hindi typographical error ang walang middle name. yun na talaga yun. nakakaoffend sila..

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Author Topic: single moms. share your stories (Read 32355 times)