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Re: single moms. share your stories
« Reply #20 on: May 19, 2009, 03:09:18 PM »
^ganun ba... i'm 22 and bf ko 21, same lang pala tayo.. 1 year ang age gap.. oo nga noh? sana bilis ng panahon... sana nga july na para makita ko na baby ko. excited na ako sobra, and nervous at the same time.
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« Reply #21 on: May 19, 2009, 09:51:12 PM »
i'm a single mom too..hiwalay ako sa ex-hubby ko for almost 3 years na din..like chiqmom, sinubukan ko na din na isalba marriage namen..I believe naman that there's a room for a second chance..kaso kung anak mo na magsa-sacrifice..better not!..wala talaga sa age ang maturity..sa age nyang 35, hindi pa yata talaga sya ready to raise his own family and to do his parental responsibilities..minsan nga iniisip ko na sana hindi na lang ako ang nag-initiate na magpakasal na kame noon pero nangyari na eh..ang pinakamagandang nagyari lang sa relationship namen eh binigyan nya ko ng anak..

mahirap pakisamahan ang lalaking napaka higpit sa pera..nakakahiya man sabihin pero yun ang isa sa mga reasons ng paghihiwalay namen..pati sarili nyang anak pinagdadamutan nya..thankful ako at may stable job ako at kaya ko buhayin anak ko..I've been emotionally and verbally abused..tiniis ko lahat yun for the sake of our marriage..pero dumating sa point na hindi ko na talaga kaya na pati family ko inaaway nya..

 sis vanessas...if I where you...enjoy ko muna maging single mom..pero nasa sayo parin yan..hindi ko naman kilala yung guy..if you think na he will be a good hubby and a father..go!..good luck, take care buntis!  ;)
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« Reply #22 on: May 20, 2009, 01:12:35 AM »
Hello..Di ko alam kung makaka-tulong ako.
Pero here is my story.

(hello mga co-sorority twinkle, natalie at jenie!)

Single mom din ako, im 24 yrs old.. recently seperated sa domestic partner ko (dec 08 officially, pero on roller coaster na kami oct 08).

Nabuntis ako 2006 sa guy na di ko masydong kilala (3 months palang kami noon) so we decided na mg-sama kami without my parents blessing kasi nga inlove. Gusto ng mom ni guy na mag pakasal na kami kaso against ang parents ko kasi wala akong future sa guy na yun. Chinese kasi, so alam niyo na mapili.

At first we are happy, nakatira ako sa house ng mom niya (single mom din siya) together with his siblings.

He was a god fearing person, mabait, sweet, a good father and etc etc..
 
For 2 and a half years we are Happy.. (lahat lahat na yun gf/bf,pregnancy and with baby) I stop counting my happy days at oct 08.
 
then the unmasking begins...

By oct 08 bininyagan si baby umuwi ako ng province ko kasi sagot ng parents ko gastos, after the event bumalik na si guy sa house then bigla nalang niya sinabi na wag na muna kami bumalik kasi ng breast feed pa si baby turuan ko muna mg bottle. para mg work na ako and help ko siya. sounds fishy diba?

oct-dec it's been hell for me.. puro away at lahat ng rason pwede niyang ibato sakin para lang di bumalik, nasabi niya.

Then i called it quits on christmas day 08! we ended our relationship.. we parted as friends. pero wala akong peace of mind.

Then he told me na my plan na siya umalis sa house ng mom niya since hiwalay na kami, and pwede na akong bumalik dun pero di siya dun titira.. LAKI NG SIRA NG ULO NIYA NOH!

So on January ng surprise visit ako sa house nila. Di na siya doon naka-tira. Guess what my nakita akong classified ads. then my puro circle  sa mga apartment for rent. so pinuntahan ko, nakita ko siya my binahay palang iba. di ako niki pag away. ngpakita lang ako na nakita ko sila.. then umalis din ako agad...

Buti nalang at di kami kasal.

moral lesson:
  • Wag padalos dalos sa desisyon.
  • Wag mo ibuhos ang buhay mo sa taong di mo pa kilala, Better kilalanin mo muna.
  • Try to see your parents point of view, malay mo tama pala.


Add ko pa. Now si guy umaasa pang maayos pero not now wag madaliin. kasi di niya kayang hiwalayan si girl.. keep moving forward lang ako at wag daw ako mg close ng door. ???

I've close my doors already.. no second chances if that day comes... Rock solid na ang heart ko..

Now...my baby is 2 years old. di ko pa masasabing super mom ako. kasi financially tinutulungan ako ng parents ko. I want to give everything to my daugther without my ex help. kasi i know di mg bibigay yun.. (bitter ba)..


Summary na yan.. LOL.. sana maka pulutan ng aral ang kaguluhan ng buhay ko.. hehe.


Try mo yung lounge namin.. mahahawa ka sa kabaklaan namin. LOLS
« Last Edit: May 20, 2009, 01:17:09 AM by Lee+Ench »
Haayan na natin di kasi siya BAKLA. LOL!

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« Reply #23 on: May 20, 2009, 07:44:58 AM »
lee..amen!!!  ;)

vanessas..2nd the motion ako kay lee..join ka sa lounge namen, puro kabaklaan dun pero masaya..full of energy and happiness..haha..kapupulutan ng magandang aral ng buhay.. ;D
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« Reply #24 on: May 20, 2009, 08:05:50 PM »
sis lovesick:

oo nga halos parehas lang pala tayo.

grumaduate ka na ba? and do you have work ba?

paano set-up niyo ng father ni baby?

dumating ba sa point na naisip niyo nung preggy pa kyo na sana wala nalang si baby para mas madali lahat. na sana dumating nalang siya pag ready ka na?

kasi hindi pa talaga ako ready. hindi ko maimagine kung anong klaseng buhay mabibigay ko sa kanya.

i have soo much dreams na lumalabo ng maabot ko dahil nanjan na si baby. paano ko siya iiwan. prinomise ko pa naman sa saili ko na never kong iiwan si baby kasi ako mama at papa ko nasa states parehas. at ang hirap lumaki na wala papa or mama.

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« Reply #25 on: May 20, 2009, 08:21:24 PM »
sis bjgem

buti nalang hindi kami nagpakasal kahit nabuntis ako. sabi kasi nila mahirap daw talaga pag kasal na.

hmm tingin ko naman he'll be a good father and husband pero not financially kasi mas may diskarte ako sa buhay. mas may pangarap ako. siya kasi mahina loob. na yon lang talaga major pinagtatalunan namen. ni hindi makahingi ng pera sa parents niya hello hindi naman pera lalapit sa kanya noh. hindi naman sila mahirap, na kaya naman siya bigyan at sinabi naman samenn na support nila kame financially. pero ok lang sakin maging mas provider sa future.

yan din kinakatakot ko na baka sa pag pupumilit kong isave relationship namen dadating din pala sa point na bibitaw ako.

btw ako pala lagi nangaaway. normal ba talaga sa buntis yon?

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« Reply #26 on: May 20, 2009, 08:27:58 PM »
sis lee

thanks sa pag share ng story mo.  :)

grabe naman dad ng baby mo. buti di mo iniskandalo? kung ako yon nakoo.

musta naman kayo ng dad ni baby? may communication pa kayo?

hay kung nandito lang kasi parents ko siguro mas madali magdecide.


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« Reply #27 on: May 20, 2009, 08:34:55 PM »
sis smoochyz

yon nga ginagawa ko lagi. isip ako ng isip. at mas nangunguna na mgstay kay bf. kasi wala naman reklamo sakanya masyado. yon diskarte lang talaga niya.

normal ba talaga na emotional? hindi talaga ako ganito before. dati wala lang ako pake sakanya/samen laging siya nalang naghihirap sa relation. ngayon umikot na mundo.

share ko tong quote kaya mas nangibabaw din na magstay kay bf:

"you will know you made the right decision, when you  pick the harder choice yet your heart is at peace"
« Last Edit: May 20, 2009, 08:41:32 PM by vanessas »

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« Reply #28 on: May 20, 2009, 08:37:36 PM »
sis bjgem and sis lee


saka na ko join sa lounge pag official single mom na ko.

wait single mom naman na ata ako kasi were not married diba?

pero kasi kami paren eh. haha
« Last Edit: May 20, 2009, 08:43:47 PM by vanessas »

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« Reply #29 on: May 20, 2009, 08:42:56 PM »
^masyadong emotional ang buntis...dalawa lang yan eh..kundi ka iyakin eh..HB ka lagi..hehe..
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« Reply #30 on: May 20, 2009, 11:21:41 PM »
Mareng vanessas

pag isipan mong mabuti, Much better kung di kayo kasal for now ah, since ng sesecond thoughts ka.

Ikain mo nalang pag ng emo-emo mode ka or itulog mo nalang hehe (tinuruan mg amok noh).. don't forget your vitamins and anmum plus fruits and water.. focus on your baby's health.

*** ng stealth mode na ako kay SD (sperm donor). kahit laging online di ko pinapansin, kasi I ask him never to bother us, wag na niyang asahan na mg oonline pa ako at text. (kadramahan LOL)


@ mga Bruha...
BOW! hehe! Emotera mode ako kagabi share ko lang.

naloka ako sa mga other topic sa soul sisterhood my ouch effect sa akin.. di nakayanan ng aking kabaklaan! lalo na sa delicate balance wahahow! di na kaya ng powers ko.. ngayon lang ako naka-explore dito!  *toinks
Haayan na natin di kasi siya BAKLA. LOL!

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« Reply #31 on: May 21, 2009, 05:56:27 AM »
^geez! yun pala meaning ng SD....nababasa ko dun sa isang thread, akala ko naman eh, name ng boyfie....at least malinaw na sa akin ngayon....
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« Reply #32 on: May 21, 2009, 09:02:05 AM »
^hahaha...hahahaha talaga...Sperm Donor nga..kase yun lang naman contribution nila eh..

Lee....what's the particular topic ba?? haha..ma bisita nga..bakla! hindi ba tayo nag jump ng thread.. ;D
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« Reply #33 on: May 21, 2009, 02:13:03 PM »
sis lovesick:

oo nga halos parehas lang pala tayo.

grumaduate ka na ba? and do you have work ba?

paano set-up niyo ng father ni baby?

dumating ba sa point na naisip niyo nung preggy pa kyo na sana wala nalang si baby para mas madali lahat. na sana dumating nalang siya pag ready ka na?

kasi hindi pa talaga ako ready. hindi ko maimagine kung anong klaseng buhay mabibigay ko sa kanya.

i have soo much dreams na lumalabo ng maabot ko dahil nanjan na si baby. paano ko siya iiwan. prinomise ko pa naman sa saili ko na never kong iiwan si baby kasi ako mama at papa ko nasa states parehas. at ang hirap lumaki na wala papa or mama.

not yet sis, college undergrad here.. pero nakapag trabaho na ako abroad. met the father of my baby abroad. hirap nga ng set-up namin kasi hindi man lang siya tumatawag, once a week lang communication namin sa chat pa talaga. ako na lang ang nag-aadjust. hindi na lang ako umasa sa kanya, hindi ko na rin binanggit sa kanya tungkol sa financial support para kay baby. sabi na rin kasi ng mom ko na hayaan ko na lang daw. sabagay mas okay pa rin yung may initiative siya paano tutulong, kaso wala eh. all i get was his self-pitying stories.. kaya hindi ko na naikwento sa kanya ang updates kay baby. parang nahihiya na ako sa kanya. pero sis, malay mo swerte sa atin babies natin. pag makita natin siya, maging okay na ang lahat. btw, nag-offer ba bf mo na magpakasal kayo? did you try to ask him if he only wants to marry you because of the child or he really wanted to? :)
seize the day :)

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« Reply #34 on: May 21, 2009, 03:48:34 PM »
I am a single mom, I never got married for reason na ayaw nang parent ko. Kakatuwa! But I never regretted being a single mom kahit pa ang hirap nang pina sukan ko! I have 4 daughters, now they are 24,23,16, and 14 years old. Lahat iyon pinalaki ko mag isa. I was working at the age of 13 years old pa lang ako and helping my parents also sa family business namin. Left and right ang trabaho ko. I never ask any support sa father nila. Ayoko lang nang sakit nang ulo, at parang nag papalimos ako. Ganon ako ka pride! I never got married for reasons na ang pinag hirapan ko gusto ko sa mga ank ko lang mapunta. Kaso mas ang hirap nang loob ko nang malalaki na sila. Eto na ang manahan kahit pa hinde pa ako patay. Well [textspeak!] 2 kong panganay may work na sila. But I never ask anything o tulong sa kanila, hangang sa kayanin ko pa rin ang lahat until now. Ang hirap nang maging single mom un lang yon. Basta ang alam ko lang ngayon obligasyon ko at responsiblidad ko sa kanila. Minsan nakakapagod din kahit mahirap intindihin, iniintindi ko kahit nasasaktan ako!  :'( :'( :'(

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« Reply #35 on: May 21, 2009, 04:02:27 PM »
^yan naman ang problema ng pagiging single mom....pag malaki na ang mga anak at may kanya kanya ng mundo....parang dun mo lang maiisip na nag-iisa ka...noon di mo pa masyado napapansin kasi libang ka sa trabaho at sa pagpapalaki sa kanila...ganyang-ganyan ang naramdaman ko noon....
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« Reply #36 on: May 21, 2009, 04:42:21 PM »
^^naku 3 years old pa lang baby ko..pero iniisip ko din yang ganyang scenario..ngayon pa lang medyo ngarag na ko dahil mag start na sya mag school..mahirap umasa sa SD kase..

siguro naman may makakasama pa ko sa buhay..huhu...emote! emote! emote!
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« Reply #37 on: May 21, 2009, 05:48:13 PM »
^sis bjgem, swerte mo nga kasi nakayanan mo ang lahat. inspired lang siguro sa baby mo noh? what happened to the SD? may communications pa kayo sis?
seize the day :)

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« Reply #38 on: May 21, 2009, 09:15:45 PM »
^inspiration talaga mga bebe..si SD, siguo nasa hell na..joke!! hiwalay na talaga kame..may case nga kame sa RTC eh..

naku...baka matakot kayo mag-asawa ha...enjoy life..ibaiba naman kapalaran naten...hehe..naks!!
Women have strengths that amaze men.  They bear hardships and they carry burdens, but they hold happiness, love and joy....If there's one flaw in women, it is that they forget their WORTH

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« Reply #39 on: May 21, 2009, 10:00:13 PM »
^oo sis. takot na kami mag-asawa. parang ayoko na tuloy. jowk.
seize the day :)

 

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