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vanessas

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single moms. share your stories
« on: May 02, 2009, 12:31:38 PM »
im having a hard time deciding kung magstay ba ko with may partner or raise my child alone.

i really need inspiring stories from mommies na nagdaan din sa ganitong stage.


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Re: single moms. share your stories
« Reply #1 on: May 03, 2009, 11:31:25 PM »
I'm a single mom and I am happy. My ex and I we never get close enough to think of getting married. My parents at first gusto nila pero syempre I am the deciding body not them. Hindi maganda yung nangyare kase the guy never acknowledge me when I was pregnant. Simula pa lang alam ko na ang gagawen ko decided na ako that I want to raise my child alone.

Mahirap sa una especially, I was broke then, I never had a job for 6 months except yung savings ko. Right now I have a good paying job abroad my boy is with my parents and we are happy. Blessing talaga ang baby kase nung dumating siya gumaan yung buhay namen.

I am out of the country right now, pero I am happy because I know my boy is with my parents.

Recent lang my ex is trying to communicate with me, he finally comes to his senses that he wanted to see my boy and wanted to be a father. I refuse , though I will let him see my boy karapatan ng anak ko to know his family from the other side.

I'm a single mom and I am happy. :)

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Re: single moms. share your stories
« Reply #2 on: May 04, 2009, 12:21:18 PM »
im not a single mom yet but im planning to be, sana lang makaya ko, most of the single mom i know they say that its really hard because there's no father image, no financial help and you alone do all the things parents should do to raise your child well.

im a strong person and i know i can handle those things alone in raising a child, my problem is will my family accept my decision to have a child but not have a husband? does society accept the child as a person not as a putok sa buho? i dont want my future child to suffer. haaay....

pero Im really proud to all single mom's out there who really do all their best to survive the hardship in raising a child alone.  :)
"kung gusto maraming paraan, kung ayaw maraming dahilan"

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Re: single moms. share your stories
« Reply #3 on: May 05, 2009, 12:21:52 AM »
sis gypsygurl ako kasi nandiyan naman yon bf ko pero parang kulang. though siya nagbabayad ng ob at mga meds ko. narealize ko din na hindi na ko masaya. and i know i will be a better person na wala siya.

at parents ko naman nasa states pareho, lola ko lang at kuya kasama ko.

never mo ba hinanap yon dad ni baby while pregant?

sis annie_barzaga exactly yon din iniisip ko matatanggap ba ng family ko yon decision ko maging single mom. eh may pagkaconservative at makaluma pa naman sila pagdating sa ganito.

di ko talaga alam saan magsisimula.

ako din gusto ko maging proud na single mom at masabing happy ako.

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Re: single moms. share your stories
« Reply #4 on: May 05, 2009, 12:38:47 AM »
im a  single mom too.  :)

kinasal kami ng dad nina baby when i was just 19. ayoko man isipin that time, i guess totoo talaga yung sinasabi ng iba na mahirap ang buhay may asawa.

after 3 years of marriage, everything was shattered. dont get me wrong, i we tried  to save our marriage but hindi lang talaga nakaya.

now, im the supermom. im responsible for everything, from finances to emotional needs nina baby. no support of whatsoever from their dad.

nung ngyari yung hiwalayan, i was never scared about what will happen next because i always believe that GOD will never leave me naked. He will provide all your needs as long as you  let him work on you.

masakit, mahirap...pero sa una lang yun. time heals all wounds although you will never forget, but at least we have a remembrance of the lesson that once allowed us to know our worth and showed us how strong we are.

no regret.


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Re: single moms. share your stories
« Reply #5 on: May 05, 2009, 04:21:29 AM »
ako din single mom!  ;D

don't wori sis, kung sa tingin mo eh hindi ka na magiging productive with your baby's dad, don't pursue in marrying him. mas sakit lang sa ulo yan in the future. everything will fall into places. mahirap na masarap ang maging solo parent. it's all worth it, mawawala ang pagod mo kapag nakikitang mong lumalaki na ang anak mo. sila na yung pinaka-award mo. pramis! iba talaga.. and don't wori, God is there. He will never leave naked sabi nga ni sis chiqmom  ;)
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Re: single moms. share your stories
« Reply #6 on: May 05, 2009, 12:03:30 PM »
sis chiqmom yon din kinakatakutan ko eh. kasi wala na nga ako tiwala sa relation namin ngayon what more kung pinatagal ko pa. its better na tapusin ko na ng mas maaga.

nahihirapan lang ako, kasi sa kanya ata ako naglilihi. gusto ko lagi ko siya nakikita at kasama.

sis hallerness cant wait na panganak ko nalang c baby. para sa kanya na ko focus. tama God is always here for us.

thanks chiqmom and hallerness

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Re: single moms. share your stories
« Reply #7 on: May 05, 2009, 12:08:11 PM »
pinapili nga pala ako ng papa ko. if i want to continue my relationship with my partner o single mom nalang ako.

pumasok sa isip ko agad single mom. para ba kong nabunutan ng tinik.

sabi ni papa pag gusto ko ituloy, putol na ko sa kanila. pag single mom all out support. they dont want to compromise na talaga. parang "kung dun ka sige go pero kung hindi andito lang kami love namin kayo ni baby."

alam ko kakayanin ko to at tama ang path na tatahakin ko.

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Re: single moms. share your stories
« Reply #8 on: May 07, 2009, 02:41:06 AM »
single mom ako and im proud to be one. single mom ako for 5 years na. =) still striving since im jobless now.

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Re: single moms. share your stories
« Reply #9 on: May 07, 2009, 09:02:46 AM »
^sis mahirap ba maghanap ng work pag single mom. now im starting to worry.

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Re: single moms. share your stories
« Reply #10 on: May 15, 2009, 02:11:49 PM »
hi sis vanessas! how are you now? kamusta na kayo ng baby mo?
ako naman, soon to be single mom.. my bf never gave us support, all he did was complain about his job and even a cent he didn't think of giving us one. now, my parents are the one who's giving me support both financially and emotionally. i guess it's much better to be a single mom, for maybe someday they'll realize why we chose it to be that way.
seize the day :)

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« Reply #11 on: May 15, 2009, 11:06:33 PM »
hi sis lovesick.

im just 5mos preggy.

eto ok kame ni bf ngayon.

pero naiisip ko paden maging single mom talaga. 

buti ka nga nandito parents mo to support you. eh ako financial lang support mabibigay nila. and i dont think kaya ko pa talaga magsolo kaya im still holding on with my bf.

kaya natin to sis lovesick. and i believe most single moms are really successful talaga

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« Reply #12 on: May 16, 2009, 08:44:16 AM »
pag nakita mo yung baby mo sis, mag-iiba ang tingin mo sa buhay....to hell kung single parent, basta masaya ka at may anak ka at kung kaya mong palakihin kahit ikaw lang....
When you make the biggest mistake in your life,
something good comes from it.......

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« Reply #13 on: May 16, 2009, 01:38:21 PM »
sis harlet oo nga eh im excited and at the same time scared pag labas ni baby kung ano ba mararamadaman ko at ano gusto ko mangyare. thanks sis.  :)

sis smoochyz yup ramdam ko naman na sobrang mahal niya ko lagi din siyang anjan for me never siya nagkulang. oo pumapasok sa isip ko na hindi ko naman talaga siya mahal eversince natutunan ko lang siya mahalin dahil napakatyaga niya sakin at dahil sa sincerity niya. ewan ko kasi i dont want to be with him forever. wala kasi siya diskarte. tipong walang pangarap. natatakot ako na baka in the long run alam ko iiwan ko din siya dahil ganoon siya. hay hindi ko na talaga alam. :(

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« Reply #14 on: May 16, 2009, 01:56:34 PM »
well in my case eversince singlemom na talaga ako even before nagsasama pa kami nung father ng baby ko you know why pasan ko ba naman lahat eh share nya lang mag alaga ng baby habang nasa work ako other than that ako na lahat samantalang cya tatambay na sa labas kasama barkada sugal inom na, nakakapagod din lalo na kung bale wala lang sa kanya lahat ng hirap mo hanggat maari nag hold on ako para sa baby ko kasi gusto ko lumaki cya with complete family pero kung ako lang ang nag eeffort di talaga mag wowork kaya ayun we parted ways pero parang wala naman effect sa akin yung paghihiwalay namin basta naka focus ako ngayon sa baby ko i tried my best na maibigay ko sa kanya lahat without a help from her father once na napalaki ko ng maayos yung baby ko fullfilment ko na un at yun ang maipagmamalaki ko. kaya im proud to ba SM
i was afraid to get hurt , to be rejected again but there i landed and i dont know how to stop the pain.

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Re: single moms. share your stories
« Reply #15 on: May 16, 2009, 02:02:40 PM »
sis smarie_011 im proud of you.  :)bilib talaga ako sa single moms.

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« Reply #16 on: May 16, 2009, 02:44:13 PM »
lol we should be proud aba hindi biro [textspeak!] pinagdadaanan natin noh pero ok lang yun alam ko masasanay din ako sa umpisa lang naman mahirap pero later on di natin mamamalayan bale wala na lahat ng hirap natin.
i was afraid to get hurt , to be rejected again but there i landed and i dont know how to stop the pain.

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« Reply #17 on: May 16, 2009, 02:58:37 PM »
sis vanessas, you're welcome sis....believe me, pag nakita mo baby mo, wala kang pakialam sa paligid mo....

jot down your plan A and plan B.....yung advantage saka disadvantages ng bawat plan....kung maraming advantage yung sa A, dun ka....you have all the time habang di pa lumalabas si baby....
When you make the biggest mistake in your life,
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« Reply #18 on: May 18, 2009, 11:48:55 AM »
sis vanessas, btw.. ilang taon ka na pala? and si bf? if you don't mind...  alam mo sis, mawawala lang siguro pagod natin kapag makita natin ang baby natin. sa ngayon, hindi lang siguro tayo magworry ng sobra para maging stress free.
seize the day :)

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Re: single moms. share your stories
« Reply #19 on: May 18, 2009, 04:26:08 PM »
im 20y.o kakagrad lang nung march. si bf naman 21 sa october pa matapos.

sana mag september na para makita ko na si baby.

 

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