maraming failed marriages, oo. pero that shouldn't be the sole reason why people should legalize it. dapat ang ayusin eh yung mga disposisyon ng tao. sa simula pa lang eh dapat siguraduhin na nila sa sarili nila na kakayanin nilang makasama yung napili nilang kabiyak for the rest of their lives.
um, pray tell, how in the world can the government change the disposition of people? there is that argument that for a country to thrive, the government should have very minimal influence in their people's affairs. there is a separation of the public sphere and the private sphere, something debatable still. schools of theories have proposed ways to make people follow a certain pattern for utopia. the problem is- it's bloody murder to attempt changing their ways.
oo, maaring maraming babae ang nabubugbog ng asawa nila. pero nasa babae naman yun eh if she would tolerate his husband's behavior. there's always the police to run to pag ganyang mga kaso kasi labag na yan sa Rep. Act. 9262. the woman has to stand up for herself. or kung sakali mang grabe na, i agree with sis cassieee, iwan na lang niya kasama ng mga anak nila. they're partly at fault for letting their husbands treat them like they're worthless. kailangan rin namang itaguyod nila yung lakas nila bilang babae.
sounds like the issue of rape. there are millions of cases of dometic violence/abuse and it's not just women who are victims of this. husbands are also vulnerable to this kind of problem. the thing is, a violent person will strike whether the victim wants to or not. nabiktima na nga, sinisi pa. ano ba yun? and like i said, some people have a hard time getting out of abusive relationships out of fear and in pursuant of the ideal of an intact family. some people would keep fighting for their marriages and hope that the abusive spouses will see the light and change. it's not that easy to disengage from a relationship, especially a sacred and legally binding one.
tsaka anong problema kung annulment lang ang meron dito sa pilipinas? eh ano naman kung na-annul yung marriage mo at ang magiging lagay sa mata ng tao eh parang hindi nangyari yung marriage niyong dalawa? hindi naman importante yun eh. bakit ka masasaktan eh ikaw mismo sa sarili mo alam mo naman na kinasal kayong dalawa at merong namagitan sa inyo kahit ano pa ang sabihin ng iba.
the problem with annulment is that there is at times, no guarantee that it will be granted. it takes a longer time to get an annulment and the process, i believe, is more tedious than divorce. and there may be nothing wrong with how people will react to the failed marriage but to the people involved, it really is hard to accept that the marriage did not happen at all, that it was void from the beginning. isipin mo ganito- how did you feel when you first found out that santa claus does not exist? i don't know about you or other people, but i was heartbroken. so pissed off that i slept off the idea and now, i still believe that santa is preparing my gifts in the north pole, right at this very moment. parang ganyan din yun. harhar.
at isa pa, hindi siya para sa mga taong salat sa yaman. how could the underprivileged juan dela cruz afford divorce fees? hindi lang naman ang mga may kayang mag-asawa ang nagkakaproblema, pati yung mga mahihirap, nagkakaproblema din. kung choice lang ang pag-uusapan, oo, maari ngang magkaroon sila ng choice ng diborsyo. ang tanong lang eh paano nila maisasakatuparan yung choice na yun?
annulment is also expensive. what's worse about it is you pay so much over a long period of time without that assurance that you'll actually get the marriage annulled. but just because some people can not afford divorce doesn't mean that it should not be legalized. parang kotse. just because some people can't buy cars doesn't mean we can't sell them to those who can. (sensiya na sa analogy, andito bossing ko.) more likely, those who are keen on settling these legalities are the ones with properties and money at stake.
ang sa akin lang, marami pang problema ang karaniwang Pilipino na higit na mabigat kaysa sa problema niya sa relasyon nila ng asawa niya. the government must make an effort to uplift our country's state first before addressing the issue on divorce. sa tingin ko lang kasi eh problema ng mag-asawa yan eh. dapat sila umayos niyan. lalo na yung mga kaso na kesyo they've fallen out of love na or it's not working out anymore. the couple should face the situation as grown-ups and provide a solution to their unhappiness. kung malelegalize ang divorce, tingin ko ndi naman na dadaaan pa yang mga yan sa usapan at marriage counselling. when there's an easy way out, why bother?
dito ako nalito. in your second paragraph, you are arguing for the mingling of the public and private arenas. ngayon naman, wag na lang makialam ang gobyerno. oo madami tayong problema but the issue of families, of marriages is not child's play. it should be taken seriously and the government is there to provide order in every aspect of our lives. don't worry about the order of affairs, their job is to see that every need is well taken care of. plus, what makes you so sure that they won't go to marriage counselling? in the US, ang lakas ng raket ng mga yan dahil nga people still would not want to be divorced. people spend a lot of time and money looking for the perfect partners and trying to have it all. what makes you think that Filipinos, with a deeply-rooted sense of family and marriage values, would fare worse than Americans? no one wants to be a divorcee, i tell you. it's painful and it's costly. the aim of divorce is to protect people in the event that their marriages turn into an unfavorable direction. and ok fine, freedom. something annulment and legal separation sometimes fail to give those who would benefit from it most.