Author Topic: Abused Women Support Group: Verbal, Physical, Emotional (Read 65376 times)

kylakirst · « **Reply #320 on:** January 04, 2012, 09:35:45 am »

thanks for the reply sis momentum,since monday di na kmi nag uusap,he stayed in our room and i stayed in my kids rooms,i want to leave the house and to stay the house of my parents and for not to seing him but my eldest daughter begging me to stay shes 12 naiintndihn m nya lhat even them nakaka experience ng violence specieally ng maliliit pa sila kaya gnun sila katakot sa ama nila diko naman sila makasa umalis dhil [textspeak!] school nila is near from our house and sa parents ko naman honestly they are not comportable because were not rich,my gusband is a good provider he gave us the best of everething hindi mo pa hninhingi ibibigay na sayo,purely material things,pero pag hindi mo nasnod gusto nya lagot ka s a kanya mumurahin ka na halos di mo makain,he never appreciate [textspeak!] mga gingawa ko kahit halos mag pakamatay na ako sa pag manage ng business nya,sobrang seloso lahat nalang pinagseselosan nya,he audit everything even cents u need to explain kung san napunta pera,he got mad pag ask ako favor sa kanya to help my mother na nahospitalized which my parents helped to our business,walang hiya talaga kaylangan ko pa mag makaawa sa kanya para tulungan nya.he never respect me kahit in public kung saktan nya at ipahiya gnungnun nalang sa kanya,dumating na yung point na gusto ko na mag pakamatay sa sobrang kahihiyan at hirap while parking in gateway mall may ask sya sakin ng hindi nya nagustuhan pagkasagot ko sinampal sampal ako pnagsasabunutan pinukpok ng kmay sa ulo habang nd ng umuwi na kmi i attemted to jump habang umaandar [textspeak!] kotse i want to die that time dko na kaya hirap.there so many bad experience i encounter to him,one timenag over dose ako sleeping pills sad to say naabutan ako ng parents ko kaya naagapan ako at na first aid,there is so many sad memories sa buhay nmin mag asawa na mdalas nag day dreaming ako na sna bgyan nman ako ng chance to be happy [textspeak!] wlang tjot na narrmdan [textspeak!] free to do what i want na dko ko laylangan i update sarili ko from time to time na wlang magagalit pag hndi ko kagad nsagot ang phone nakakainggit pa [textspeak!] iba mnsan [textspeak!] nkikita ko na mag asawa na nag ride lang ng jeep but they are happy but ako nakasakay nga sa kotse pero daig ko pa ibon na nakulong sa hawla hindi masaya,[textspeak!] mga nakakilala skn na envy sila sa life ko kla nila perfect but they didnt know ang tunay na buhay ko,[textspeak!] ng eldest ko mommy dont leave us pag nakatapos ako aalis na tyo dto ng little sister nya ang mga kids ko nlang [textspeak!] pnag kukuhanan ko ng lakas and also i prayed to give me more strength to overcome all the trials because after this magiging happy narin kami ng happy narin kami ng mga anak ko without him.

momentum · « **Reply #321 on:** January 04, 2012, 09:54:49 am »

^ sis I think your being selfish to yourself and the kids..

If you are just clinging on to him just because of financial reasons, then obviously wala ka masyadong self-esteem..why can't you be the one to bring up your kids with your own hard-earned money? sis, you have to empower yourself. do not allow yourself to depend too much on anyone. kasi kung ganun, talagang mahirap magumpisa mag-isa. but I can tell you that you will get through it.

Sis nung nag-away kami ng hubby ko, he took away allof my money sa ATM that I saved up. I started from scratch..finding a job, keeping a job and managing to stand on my own for my kid. Please don't be tamad sa department na ito. this is important. you must learn to stand up on your ow. You have to leave him. your relationship is very toxic, how can you stand it?You are not doing it for your kids, kasi ikaw narin mismo nagsabi na pati sila sinasaktan niya. hindi ka ba naaawa sa mga anak mo?

it's time to wake up. how can you stand your husband hurting your kids too! kung ako yun, magkakamatayan na kami. I fought back at him, nung nagising na ako. i didn't allow him to make me my punching bag..i became stronger when i opened my eyes.

I don't know what else to say to convince you that this relationship is not worth keeping anymore.
And sakit sa dibdib while i was reading your post, lalo nasa kids part.

please wake up

kylakirst · « **Reply #322 on:** January 05, 2012, 12:42:12 am »

at this momment nakipaghwalay n hisband ko sakin,sobrang sakit mga sis diko kaya na makita sia family nmin na sira so that i decided to say goobye na too evrybody sguro hindi ako kasing tpang ng iba to face this kind of problem,weak ako,honestly khit gno pa nrnasan ko hrap sa asawa ko mnahal ko sya but still sguro [textspeak!] n sya pagmmhal skn na npksakit pakinggan,kiling my self is the only thing naiisp kong solusyon dhil hndi ko alam kung pano sisimulan ang lhat.thank u sister for listening my story tjis is the last time na mag share ako ng problema ko,im loser and i cant face the reality.thank you to all of u.

amberdeler · « **Reply #323 on:** January 14, 2012, 02:59:03 pm »

mga sis.... ask for help sana...
i have a friend who's based in Korea with
tapos in relationship sya with a Sri Lankan..
she's also a victim of violence..
recently lang sya nag confide sa akin..
walang nakakaalam sa family nya dito sa Pinas na
ganun ang ginagawa sa kanya..
sobrang seloso daw nitong guy..
at nakakabuo ng story para ma i set ang idea na
may lalaki sya.. tingin ko mentally disturbed ang guy na to...
natatakot ako for my friend...
hindi nya alam kung san pwedeng humingi ng tulong..

siomai · « **Reply #324 on:** January 31, 2012, 10:40:31 am »

Quote from: kylakirst on January 05, 2012, 12:42:12 am

at this momment nakipaghwalay n hisband ko sakin,sobrang sakit mga sis diko kaya na makita sia family nmin na sira so that i decided to say goobye na too evrybody sguro hindi ako kasing tpang ng iba to face this kind of problem,weak ako,honestly khit gno pa nrnasan ko hrap sa asawa ko mnahal ko sya but still sguro [textspeak!] n sya pagmmhal skn na npksakit pakinggan,kiling my self is the only thing naiisp kong solusyon dhil hndi ko alam kung pano sisimulan ang lhat.thank u sister for listening my story tjis is the last time na mag share ako ng problema ko,im loser and i cant face the reality.thank you to all of u.

OMG kylakirst! how are you? I hope hindi ka nawalan ng pag-asa. talk to your family. they will understand you. talk to your friends. hindi ka nag-iisa. talk to people. talk to someone. talk to a priest. talk to a tita. a friend a family member basta talk to anyone. dont keep your emotions and thoughts all to yourself. dinaanan na rin ng maraming tao yan. i myself have been abused but i am in a much better place now because i chose to be. my prayers are with you. keep safe

xhyrel_01 · « **Reply #325 on:** May 26, 2012, 10:40:39 pm »

mga sis may live in partner ako for almost 6yrs.. until now binubugbug pa niya ako, sa madaming tao minumura niya ako, nag wawala siya kahit sa labas ng bahay. ako ang nahihiya sa mga tao.. nag babasag siya ng gamit, nag mumura as in mura hindi ko na makain.. mahilig siya manuntok,manapok manipa.manampal.. dumadating na sa time na nahihimatay n ako sa sakit.. anyway may unang asawa siya at 2 anak. mga help kasi napuno na ako. hindi ko alam kung kanino mag sasabi. hindi ko na din alam panu ikwneto ng buo. help mga sis

Princess_Chill · « **Reply #326 on:** June 17, 2012, 04:59:20 am »

Hi mga sis

I admit before nakatikim ako ng sampal and sakal sa asawa ko ( live in partner) kasi dati pag umiinom siya parang nagiging ibang tao siya. lumalaban ako noon and noong hindi na siya lasing i talked to him heart to heart and told him na pag naulit niya akong pagbuhatan ng kamay na hindi rason na lasing kasi siya kaya nya nagawa iyon iiwan namin siya ng anak namin...at i consider niya na wala na siyang pamilya.

after that i thank God na smooth na relationship namin nagbago siya at hindi na kami masyado nag aaway as in seldom nalang...

@xhyrel

sis kung hindi mo na kaya tama na...ang mga babae kasi mapag matiiis pero you need to set a limit for yourself..makakahanap ka eventually ng taong magmamahal sa iyo ng may respeto. Mahirap talaga mahiwalay kaso you need to respect yourself para i respeto ka din ng partner mo...

rhapzdee · « **Reply #327 on:** June 29, 2012, 12:19:02 am »

i am currently being abused by my ex boyfriend.he just left my home.pina blotter ko na siya still he cam back and was able to get inside the house.again sinira niya mga gamit ko pati mga damit ko sandals lahat lahat. i dont know what to do umiiyak lang ako ngayon.nagsisigaw na ako pero walang tumulong. i live in a place na malayong malayo sa pamilya ko.wala akong relatives dito.just me. what should i do?go to the police again tomorrow?hindi ko na alam.gusto ko tumahimik na buhay ko.nahihirapan na ako.please advise me on what to do.natatakot na akong lumabas ng bahay

momentum · « **Reply #328 on:** June 29, 2012, 02:47:08 pm »

Quote from: rhapzdee on June 29, 2012, 12:19:02 am

i am currently being abused by my ex boyfriend.he just left my home.pina blotter ko na siya still he cam back and was able to get inside the house.again sinira niya mga gamit ko pati mga damit ko sandals lahat lahat. i dont know what to do umiiyak lang ako ngayon.nagsisigaw na ako pero walang tumulong. i live in a place na malayong malayo sa pamilya ko.wala akong relatives dito.just me. what should i do?go to the police again tomorrow?hindi ko na alam.gusto ko tumahimik na buhay ko.nahihirapan na ako.please advise me on what to do.natatakot na akong lumabas ng bahay

girl I think the first thing to do is lumipat ka na, find a place where you can move or better yet go home to your parents. kung takot ka lumabas, tell your parents your problem tapos magpasundo ka sa lalakeng family member mo para may escort ka.you can't handle this alone anymore so you need help from your family

rhapzdee · « **Reply #329 on:** July 01, 2012, 02:20:11 pm »

thanks po sa advice.i've already spoken to the representative from women's desk and i need to file a case against him.it's hard living in fear.my parents are also coming over from cagayan de oro to support me on this. thanks po

design21 · « **Reply #330 on:** August 16, 2012, 01:32:57 pm »

my cousin opened up for the first time she said and to me pa. she almost died the last time she was beaten up kaya hiniwalayan na niya. no one in her family knew kasi nasa states na sila. i felt helpless not knowing she have been suffering for the past 3 years. what do i do. I am currently on bedrest i couldnt even go out of the house because im pregnant and i do have a very complicated pregnancy. i dont know what to say. because i am one spoiled wife:( i was never hit by anyone ni hindi ako napalo ng parents ko before. my husband treats me like a queen so hindi ko,alam but of all people sa akin siya nagsabi now i feel helpless.

how can i advice if hindi ko naman naranasan ni minsan ang masaktan?

Dacian · « **Reply #331 on:** September 15, 2012, 01:17:23 am »

ganito rin prob ng sister ko and nephew ko.

Dacian · « **Reply #332 on:** September 20, 2012, 04:32:22 am »

just last week, i found out that my nephew was molested by his own father. and the problem is ayaw ng wife (my sis) isumbong sa police. instead, pinaalis na lang ng bahay. ayaw nya daw ng iskandalo. pano naman ang justice for my nephew?

momentum · « **Reply #333 on:** September 26, 2012, 12:37:46 pm »

^ holy cr@p!

makakarma din father ng nephew mo..kawawa naman siya

Dacian · « **Reply #334 on:** September 26, 2012, 07:03:59 pm »

@momentum
sana nga makarma talaga! ginagawa daw yun kapag nasa banyo kapag pinapaliguan nephew ko.

latte · « **Reply #335 on:** September 26, 2012, 07:45:45 pm »

Quote from: xhyrel_01 on May 26, 2012, 10:40:39 pm

mga sis may live in partner ako for almost 6yrs.. until now binubugbug pa niya ako, sa madaming tao minumura niya ako, nag wawala siya kahit sa labas ng bahay. ako ang nahihiya sa mga tao.. nag babasag siya ng gamit, nag mumura as in mura hindi ko na makain.. mahilig siya manuntok,manapok manipa.manampal.. dumadating na sa time na nahihimatay n ako sa sakit.. anyway may unang asawa siya at 2 anak. mga help kasi napuno na ako. hindi ko alam kung kanino mag sasabi. hindi ko na din alam panu ikwneto ng buo. help mga sis

Love yourself and MOVE OUT FROM HIM. Mahirap sa umpisa pero sigurado ako kakayanin mo.

flatfooted · « **Reply #336 on:** January 04, 2013, 01:31:42 pm »

hi, is this topic still active?

latte · « **Reply #337 on:** January 05, 2013, 02:06:57 am »

As long as di pa yata locked meaning active pa.

Amina777 · « **Reply #338 on:** January 21, 2013, 05:04:05 pm »

Yah, I think you decided the right way because you have your sweat kid, and you just said that you want to grow him/ her in more peaceful circumstance. I'm sure that your kid was so scared as well.
I always feel that why these kinds of sadness wouldn't disappear.
As I studied psychology, people who abuse someone had experienced of been abused.
I dunno but maybe he also is a victim..well, this is my personal guess but these cycle is just generating a tragedy.
I just pray that you and the people who all experienced abusing will spend a life very peacefully. Not just for human but all living things.

sexycovergirl · « **Reply #339 on:** January 26, 2013, 10:58:26 pm »

I am not a battered wife. But I am emotionally stressed dahil sa husband ko (live in partner)

We are just about to be married this year. Planning still going on.

I dont know if you would think my situation as petty. Ako kasi, I think medyo malaking problema na siya.

We both know that my daughter is not his child. But his family doesnt know it. So they are treating my daughter like their own blood. Their family is bonded pero secluded. I mean, hindi ako welcome sa family nila and kahit sino pang maging asawa ng mga kapatid or pinsan nila, hindi pa rin yun part ng family nila. Marami sila laging sinasabi sakin. Pero, ayun they are treating my daighter nicely.

Batugan yung partner ko. Something na lumalala as time goes on. Since August last year, wala na siyang work. Ayaw niya magsrtive na maghanap ng work. pag hinanapan ko siya, siya pang galit. PEro wala siyang ginagawa sa bahay kundi maglaro sa mga gadgets niya.

Naisip ko na siyang iwan. Sabi ng friends ko, wala na daw akong makikitang kagaya niya na sobrang mahal yung anak ko. Kaso, yun nga, batugan.

Triny ko na siyang iwan, pero ang gusto niyang mangyari, hahatian ko siya sa mga upcoming loan payment sakin (nagpapaloan kasi ako). Which i dont think is fair kasi hindi naman siya tumulong dun. Plus, all I wanted to bring with me (aside from my daughter) is my laptop and our TV. Pero sabi niya, I need to pay him 10k para makuha ko yung laptop kasi iniinsist niya na nagbigay siya for it.

Hindi rin ako makakuha ng suporta sa pamily niya para mapagsabihan yung partner ko kasi tingin nila kasalanan ko kasi daw masyado daw akong selosa. THe hell, e gusto ko nga siyang umalis ng bahay araw araw e.

Im sorry. Possibleng wrong thread tong pinasukan ko. Nonetheless, I still feel emotionally abused dahil sa baggage na lagi kong iniisip.

Can you suggest po of any steps na pwede kong gawin para makuha ko yung mga assets ko fairly?

TIA

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Author Topic: Abused Women Support Group: Verbal, Physical, Emotional (Read 65376 times)