Get weekly updates via email!
tip of the day FRI 31 OCT 14
Having trouble staying true to yourself? Spend time with your loved ones to remind yourself of who you are--after all, they know you best.
  • Good House Keeping
    Judy Ann Santos-Agoncillo returns to our cover this September issue and gets candid about money, marriage, and motherhood.
    Good Housekeeping
  • Women's Health
    Drop two sizes fast—with simple exercises you can do at home! This month's ultimate weight-loss special shows you how. Plus, real women share how you, too, can shed and keep off excess weight for good.
    Women's Health
Stephanie Castillo, Contributor
 
April 05, 2012

8 Tips to Hone Your Personal Style

In every woman's quest to find herself, she ultimately pins down her fashion sense. Columnist Stephanie Castillo shares how. By Stephanie Castillo
2 Comments
Add Yours

Stylewise Personal StyleDon’t you love how, the older you get, the better you know yourself?

I’m in my early 20s, so it hasn’t been that long since I was a teenager, but I can’t remember the last time I actually felt like one. So in my downtime, to escape from all the grown-up work stress, I watch coming-of-age dramas.

I’m a sucker for any movie or TV series that fall under this genre. In the span of an hour or two, you relive the innocence and uncertainty and precious, fleeting freedom of your teen years. You watch these stories unfold and you see yourself in their young, conflicted characters, and you finally realize the full meaning of “growing pains.” Because at some point in your life, you got through them.

Lately, I’ve been thinking about how a woman’s fashion sense corresponds to where she is in her life. The way I see it, her grasp over her personal style is directly related to her grasp over herself—her knowledge of who she is or, at least, who she’d like to become.

When we are in the process of growing up and discovering who we want to be, that strong sense of self is lacking. It’s masked by youthful illusions and a rebellious sort of conviction that “what you see is what you get.” What we don’t know is how quickly—and frequently—this so-called conviction is going to change.

Then, just like that, you’re an adult. You’ve grown into yourself and out of all your phases, having fleshed out your character and personality. Now, you kind of, sort of know who you are and what you want out of life and how you’d like to be perceived. Now, after years of experimentation and fashion choices you’d rather forget, you know what works for you. Like I said, you know who you are.

And I guess that’s the best thing about growing up. Yes, you’re greeted with an endless factory line of duties and deadlines, and you lose a bit of your childish innocence. Some things you thought would never change are just not the same anymore. But there’s a big payoff, and it’s this: when you finally realize who you are, you can feel comfortable in your own skin, and because of that, the world is a less confusing place. That is something to look forward to.

If you need help with your sense of self, all I can do is send you my support. But if it’s your sense of style that needs a little assistance, I can certainly do better than that. Here’s my primer for Personal Style 101; hopefully, it gives you all the tips you need to achieve your most fitting look. It’s a tough world out there—best we meet it in full regalia!

(Flashbox and article photos from Breakfast at Tiffany’s courtesy of Paramount Pictures)

Page 1 of 1

Join us on Facebook
Follow us on Twitter
COMMENTS
Name :
Email :
Website :
Comment :
Security Image
 
 
NOTE: FemaleNetwork.com is a CLEAN ZONE. Editors reserve the right to delete obscene comments.
Filter comments by:
  • xander Apr 05 2012 @ 07:45am Report Abuse
       
    Dear Ms. Stephanie,
    your such a brilliant writer!! the article is really great.im already in my early 30's and still i learn a lot from you.More power and god bless!!

  • Stephanie Castillo Apr 05 2012 @ 02:33pm Report Abuse
       
    Dear xander,

    Thank you for being such a faithful reader! I really appreciate it and hope you continue to tune in every week :)
Filter comments by:
1 to 2 of 2
 
 
ADVERTISEMENT
follow us
Stephanie Castillo
Contributor
Stephanie Castillo is a freelance writer and fashion stylist. Her column, Stylewise, appears on FN every Friday... Read more...
Latest Articles by This Author
LATEST Articles
MOST READ Articles
How To Wash Your Hair:  6 Shampoo Rules To Follow
Take care of your tresses--the right way.  Oct 30, 2014 
6 Speed Hacks for Getting Dressed in the Morning
Get fashionably ready in a flash.  Oct 30, 2014 
25 Graphic Sweaters That Will Make You Feel Young Again
Channel Taylor Swift in outerwear that'll keep you warm and looking put together.  Oct 29, 2014 
Three Tips to Make Your Fragrance Last All Day
Hint: You don't need spray a lot.  Oct 28, 2014 
3 Halloween Costumes You Can Get From Your Fave High Street Brands
Last-minute costume ideas, right this way!  Oct 27, 2014 
ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT