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Good Housekeeping
Jennifer Chan, Assistant Managing Editor
February 20, 2012

Develop Your Kids' Life Skills and Characters by Having Them Focus on Self-Improvement

Research shows concentrating on self-improvement has more developmental benefits than fostering a competitive drive. By Jennifer Chan

You can’t eliminate competition. You can, however, make sure that your own kids do not make winning a priority. When it comes to sports development, a new study published in the journal Psychology of Sport and Exercise shows that young athletes are better off focusing on self-improvement than actually taking the trophy home. 

The study involved 239 young athletes from ages 10 to 19 who finished the Youth Experiences Scale-2—a program that measures both positive and negative youth experiences. They also completed a caring climate scale, a sport motivation climate scale, and other measures that were deemed important for psychosocial development. 

Results revealed that those who found themselves in more nurturing environments reaped more developmental benefits than those who were in an "ego climate" that had kids constantly comparing themselves to their teammates. It was hardly an environment that fostered unity. 

While winning can boost the players’ confidence, coaches must still strike a balance between that goal and motivating children to do their best. Importance must be placed on developing life skills and character, which shape the kids’ future. 

According to Daniel Gould, one of the authors of the study, "By teaching players to be responsible, communicate, lead and control their emotions, you will likely improve their performance. Coaches always talk about performing and having good character; the two ideals can co-exist."

Of course, the school coaches acting alone won’t cut it. The entire school as well as parents must be committed to this goal. At home, teach your kids what sports are all about. Don’t put too much importance on scoring a point or winning a game. Without these expectations pressuring your children, they’ll be more likely to focus on improving their game and getting along with their teammates.

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Assistant Managing Editor
Jennifer Chan was a contributing writer for Female Network for two years before formally joining the team as a staff writer in July 2012... Read more...
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