Rayver himself admits to YES! that he and Sarah were together for a year, but they kept their relationship hidden because, at the time, Sarah was not yet allowed to have a boyfriend. During their secret relationship, they were only able to be alone together twice—once for thirty seconds and the next time for thirty minutes. Instead of meeting up, they exchanged text messages and communicated over Skype.
“Aaminin ko, sinasabi ko talaga sa kanya na kaya kong maghintay. Pero alam naman nating lahat na may mga bagay na madaling sabihin pero mahirap talaga (I admit I told her I was ready to wait. But we all know some things are easier said than done)," he is quoted as saying on PEP.ph. "Yon po 'yong pagkakamali ko, na nangako ako. (That was my mistake, that I made a promise.)”
Spot.PH further quotes him: “Kailangan mamili ako na sa'n ba ako mas magiging masaya—sa babaeng alam kong... mas makakasama ko na masaya talaga ako? O do'n sa babaeng nagpapahintay sa akin ng limang taon, na kapag inantay ko ng limang taon, may kasiguruhan ba talaga ako na 'pag limang taon na, puwede na ba talaga? (I had to choose which person would make me happier—with a girl I could spend more time with, one who really made me happy? Or a girl who wanted me to wait five years, when, if I did so, there was no guarantee that we would really be together?)”
For her part, Sarah understood how hard it was for Rayver. “Sabi ko po sa kanya noon, 'Alam ko na darating 'yong panahon na may babae talaga na libre, na puwede mong makasama.' Sabi ko, 'Okey lang 'yon sa akin, basta maging honest ka lang sa akin... 'Yon po 'yong naging kasunduan namin—pero talaga pong ano, para akong ano, winasak talaga. (I told him, ‘I know a time will come when you’ll see a girl you can be with freely.’ I said, ‘That’s fine with me, as long as you’re honest with me.’ That was our agreement—but what happened was I really felt devastated.) ”
“Kasi po sobrang pinagkatiwalaan mo 'yong tao, na sobra ko rin po kasi siyang 'pinaglaban kina Mommy (Because I really trusted him, and I even fought my mom for him),” she added. “Na-realize ko na sa bandang huli, wala lang sa kanya... Hindi naman yata ako minahal ng taong ito, parang tinapon niya lang po ako. (In the end, I realized it meant nothing to him. It looks like he might not have loved me, after all. It was like he threw me away.)”
“Ang lalaki, kung okay siya, willing siyang maghintay. Hindi niya sisirain ang buhay ng anak ko, hindi niya sisirain ang pangarap ng anak ko. Siya pa mismo magsasabi, 'Sige, maghihintay ako.' (If someone's a good man, he would be willing to wait. He won't destroy my daughter's life, her dreams. He said it himself, 'Yes, I'll wait for you.'),” Mommy Divine, Sarah’s mom, told YES! when asked about the issue. She further reveals this is part of why she thinks Sarah isn’t ready to entertain suitors yet. “Sa nakikita ko sa kanya, hindi siya talaga puwedeng pabayaang mag-isa. 'Yon ang nakikita ko kung bakit palagi ko siyang ginagabayan sa ngayon. (Based on what I see, I really can’t leave her alone, which is why I always give her guidance.)”
YES! further attempts to clarify the issue by interviewing all the parties involved, including Sarah’s personal assistant, Anna Dasig; her friends Sharon Cuneta, Judy Ann Santos, and Beth Tamayo; her former love team partner John Lloyd Cruz; and Cristine Reyes.
To read the rest of this 39-page special, grab a copy of YES! Magazine’s March 2011 issue, out on stands now.
Also in this issue:
Len Lopez: The President's New Girl
Willie, Princess, & Shalani
Kristine and Oyo Celebrity Wedding
(Photo by Paolo Pineda, courtesy of Preview Magazine)