The happy Carmina was quoted as saying in the closing remarks, “Sobrang happy na ako, kahit eto na, kahit closing na, okay na ako. And Mavy and Cassy, thank you for being here, thank you for being my life. You are my soul and you are my heart. I love you guys. Tatay, hindi mangyayari lahat ito kung wala ang inputs mo, wala kang ibang hangarin kung hindi mapaligaya ako ng bonggang bongga sa birthday ko, thank you so much, tatay, and I love you.”
While Carmina and Zoren have their personal and professional lives working together well, many couples find this a struggle. FN provides you some tips to help you figure out how to be professional when working with your significant other. Click on a tip to find out more about it or simply read on.
- Don't compete with each other
- Leave work at work
- Leave your love life outside of work
- Accept your differences
- Don't hide your relationship
DON’T COMPETE WITH EACH OTHER
A partnership is not a competition, so don’t look at this as an opportunity to prove that you’re the better worker. Not many couples are given the chance to work together, so treat it as a blessing and enjoy what you’re doing. Think of it as an exercise in teamwork in a professional setting: you can learn more about each other and strengthen your bond by finding out how to adapt to each other’s working styles.
Are you less experienced in the field compared to your partner or vice versa? Don’t be afraid to ask each other for help. Just because one of you is higher ranked, it shouldn't reflect on how you deal with each other on a personal basis.
LEAVE WORK AT WORK
Say your man, who just happens to be two ranks higher than you, gives you some points to work on based on the presentation you gave earlier that day. Do you find yourself feeling the beginnings of hurt and annoyance digging into your system? Squelch them before going home—don’t take it out on your man later on. Remember that a job is a job, and in the office, you both have to work. Whether he is professionally critical of you or you of him, don’t take it personally, and don’t take it home.
LEAVE YOUR LOVE LIFE OUTSIDE OF WORK
Having a lover’s tiff? You and your partner might be fighting, but this does not mean your working relationship should suffer along with you. Maintain your professionalism when it comes to whatever you're working on together. Visibly showing your disdain for him at work or refusing to work with him will only make you both look bad. At the same time, don't use work as a venue for reconciliation. Keep your personal matters out of the workplace, and wait until you both have time to talk about your problems.
ACCEPT YOUR DIFFERENCES
Understand that who you are at work can be different from who you are when on a date or at home. Being in a relationship also doesn’t mean that you give your partner more leeway to make mistakes in the workplace. Just because your honey is a sweetie at home, it doesn’t mean he will treat you like a princess in the office (in fact, that’s a definite professional no-no), so don’t be upset if your man treats you just like everyone else. Think of it as discovering the other sides of your man—sides that you wouldn’t be able to see if you weren’t working alongside each other.
DON’T HIDE YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Hiding your relationship from your office mates will just result in you and your partner treating each other awkwardly in the workplace. You’re not strangers but you’re not “just work friends” either. Keep things clear so that nothing gets misunderstood. At the same time, don’t take advantage of the fact that people know you’re an item. Just because it’s a known fact that you’re in a relationship doesn't mean you can just engage in PDAs (Public Displays of Affection) or assume that you will always be teamed up for projects.
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